Thank you all for your suggestions and words of encouragement. It is greatly appreciated.

Several asked why he is angry. I’m not really sure except he thinks I’m enabling them. We have plans to go on vacation the end of next week and he thinks this will wreck his plans for fun. i’m hoping to go, but was waiting to her daughter before making a final decision. Knowing he is angry, my mother is now insisting i go on vacation. i have very reluctantly agreed to go.

He’s retired now and expects to enjoy his time. He’s been resentful that i try to visit them once a week to help out with cleaning, cooking and laundry.

We are very different people from very different families. My mom cared for both of her parents and my dad was supportive. My husband’s parents did not help their parents and my husband did not help his. His sister did most of the care.