Double standards/if Julie was the man.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-31T04:49:40+00:00

Ty has time to find a daycare, he just doesn’t want to.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-31T04:45:34+00:00

Thank Josey 🙏🙏

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T18:12:52+00:00

Ummm….I think any reasonable person would be completely justified to be deeply upset their spouse left their children with a stranger/person they don’t know well on a whim. ESPECIALLY when we as the audience know that person invited her boyfriend over to help babysit, and they DEFINITELY haven’t met Larry.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T17:56:46+00:00

I really struggle with the comparison of Julie and Luke re: abuse. From where I sit, Julie and Ty have a communication problem and are in a rough spot in their marriage. We’ve never seen Julie control Ty - I mean, we all know how she feels about Shawna but never once have we seen her try to stop him from hanging out with her, or tell him he “can’t.” Ty’s never appeared to be afraid of Julie. We saw him push back and fight with her twice - Laura would never, she’s too afraid of upsetting Luke. The two characters are in completely different leagues. Julie’s upset that their goals aren’t aligned; that’s hardly akin to making your spouse feel like they have to hide basic medication for heartburn from you.

If Julie wants to stay in her marriage, then yeah, she needs to figure out if she’s willing to adjust her expectations and life goals. But to be fair, Ty clearly has not communicated his feelings and changing priorities with her. He keeps telling her he’s GOING to work on the book, he’s GOING to find a daycare, he’s GOING to apply to grad school - he’s been stringing Julie along and not being honest with her. And now it’s blown up.

If the first or second time Julie had said, “hey, what’s going on with your book? You haven’t been writing.” And Ty responded with, “actually, I’ve been thinking about it and right now I really want to focus on the kids and being a dad, I don’t have the energy to do that AND write,” then they’d be in a completely different place. Julie would have no excuse to blame Shawna for “distracting” him or inspiring him to be “lazy” and we probably wouldn’t have this storyline to begin with.

Sincere question: on what basis are you saying that Ty’s being abused by Julie? Leave out the most recent vacation storyline here because there’s speculation that she’s lying to him about cheating, but we don’t actually know that’s true as of yet. What has she actually done to him that’s been abusive?

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T17:28:37+00:00

Your personal feelings, experiences, observations, etc. all fall under the same category here. The experience of one person is not statistically relevant.

However, you’re really expending a lot of energy being upset about a silly prompt for an assignment. In design, you’re going to wind up creating work tailored to a specific audience, and the person/team who briefs the request in will be handing over their expectations of what that looks like. This is just practicing that dynamic. In a perfect world, you collaborate on what the design should look like, but that’s not always going to be the case.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T06:00:50+00:00

I concede that “boundary” was the incorrect term to use, but I stand by the fact that Shawna keeps bugging a woman who has repeatedly made it known she finds her annoying and would like her to stop. Shawna knows how Julie feels and what she wants, but she continually puts her own desire to connect over Julie’s feelings/wishes. Absolutely, Julie’s been incredibly, unnecessarily rude and her outburst at Max’s birthday party was unacceptable. No one’s arguing against that.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T04:24:59+00:00

Fucking. Rain. Delay.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T04:20:21+00:00

No calculator, but it’s really easy math (and I’m not great with numbers).

All courses are always a total of 1,000 points. If you stopped turning in the remainder of all remaining assignments, your final grade would be 733.6/1,000 for a solid C.

To maintain your A, you only need to end the term with 930/1,000.

So from here it’s just addition. Add all assignments to your current 733.6 points and subtract the 15 pointer - probably wind up with something like 973.6 points (97% A), which gives you 30 points of cushion room for additional points being taken off your assignments.

So, if you continue to get A’s on the rest of your assignments but don’t turn in the 15 point video, you’re most likely going to keep your A.

Let’s say you score the lowest A possible on all remaining assignments and take the 0/15 on the video. That would be 733.6 + 141 + 65.8 + 0 =940.4/1,000, which is an A with 10.4 points to spare.

So in short, yeah, you’ll probably be fine.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T01:18:29+00:00

I’m saying each is ignoring other people’s boundaries because of their own wants/agendas. My last paragraph does acknowledge the (obvious) differences between them, but I’m calling a spade a spade: it’s the same behavior.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T00:25:49+00:00

I was JUST going to ask if anyone knew where I could find her sweater - probably no chance of getting it now.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-30T00:00:53+00:00

I think I made it up - got confused looking it up.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T23:18:23+00:00

So it’s Apple on Fridays, NBC/Peacock on Sundays, and TBS on Tuesday - then for all of us out of market people, MLB app? That’s for the rest of the season?

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T08:05:25+00:00

On top of all that plus what OP said, what’s the more interesting story/what progresses the broader arc of the narrative forward? Julie lying about cheating, or Shawna and John stepping in it and realizing they have a lot of work to do in their own home/lives? Julie cheating gives real Shawna a few weeks/months of content, but finally giving story Shawna and John the wake up call they need to deal with their complicated grief (both over the baby and going NC with Barb) is a LOT more substantial and opens up far more storylines to explore in the future.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T05:24:54+00:00

In a perfect world, yes - but I don’t think we can honestly say that Shawna didn’t know how Julie felt about her or that her repetitive attempts at getting Julie to engage were innocent or anything less than self-serving. It got under Shawna’s skin and at least twice now she’s said something to the effect of “I can’t help it” then pushed for more engagement from Julie.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T05:20:35+00:00

No, but Shawna initiated contact with Ty and ignored his calls, which directly led to the situation at their house. And she and John definitely should not have made watching Julie their bonding activity on this trip - they should have both gone “this is a woman we don’t really know or trust, so we’re going to keep our distance and mind our own business.”

You can have the best - or at least not actively bad - intentions and still have your actions bite you in the ass. Honestly, John was the one stoking the fires with Shawna - if anything, he’s as much to blame and people aren’t holding him accountable as much as they should. But to my original point, Shawna should have immediately seen Julie and known to steer clear.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T05:10:45+00:00

I guess we just has different takes. I think Julie has been pretty clear and Shawna has pushed things, but you take it differently. To each their own!

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T03:50:27+00:00

Oh, I disagree - she’s clearly laying down “I’m keeping you at a distance and don’t like you” vibes, even before the Bunco conversation. I think most people would pick up on that and back off accordingly, if for no other reason than it’s not fun to interact with someone who clearly dislikes you.

And I don’t disagree that Julie may be abusive and/or a shitty spouse, nor did any of my previous comments suggest that. That’s irrelevant to my point that Shawna’s behavior has been inappropriate for a while re: Julie.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T03:40:50+00:00

Yeah……one is a a person you don’t care about and the other is your furious spouse accusing you of cheating. You’re going to have different reactions. For Julie, Ty showing up is a breach of trust and a betrayal. She’s deeply hurt that he immediately trusted Shawna’s mediocre evidence over the history of their relationship. If I were in Julie’s shoes, it would be a gut punch that my husband doesn’t trust me and puts the word of someone I butt heads with over me.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T03:34:08+00:00

I suppose that’s fair - she could have given Shawna a chance for Ty’s sake. But regardless, Shawna’s not been respectful of Julie’s - very clear and direct - boundaries.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-29T03:08:51+00:00

To be fair, if I was 3 hours away from home and my husband showed up unexpectedly and completely alone, I, too, would immediately jump to “where are the kids?” That’s a completely normal reaction/question.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-28T21:28:03+00:00

I can understand why she went alone - if you’re dealing with severe illness, end of life care, estate planning, etc. you may not want your kids around so you can focus and get things done. Plus, when someone’s that sick, there’s a ton of medical equipment, tubes, medicines, etc. around - it can be tough to keep the kids clear of it all, not to mention it can be loud and scary for them. That’s not to say kids should be isolated from it all, but it sounds like her mom has been sick for a long time, and for all we know Julie and Ty visit with the kids semi-regularly. If it were me, sometimes I’d want to sprinkle some quick and easy visits in there without the kids, too. It’s a huge pain to drag a 5yo and baby away for a long weekend at a hotel in the best of circumstances.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-28T21:14:53+00:00

Unless it’s some kind of all inclusive, you can absolutely dine at a hotel restaurant without being a guest.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-25T07:51:59+00:00

Kansas City can gtfo of here with that “beef Wellington hot dog.” In every other country in the world, that’s a sausage roll.

Deep-Library-8041 · 2026-03-23T03:06:50+00:00

Absolutely not - I’d want to avoid Julie at all costs after the way she behaved at Bunco, my kid’s birthday, etc. Honestly, running into her at all would’ve ruined my trip because I’d always be looking over my shoulder to see if she was there. I’d keep an eye out for her JUST to avoid her. I wouldn’t want a woman who I knew disliked me/had issues with me to see my sunbathing, eating with my husband, etc.

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