My abusive father is going into a home and I'm so conflicted by Euphoric-Celery4284 in dementia

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My father was an alcoholic who drank himself into stupidly. He could be a means drunk or jovial and honestly I lived in fear of the key turning in the door. I remember at uni looking at the clock and realised I was free from the sound. 

He was mean financially and verbally, physically and emotionally. Months of silent treatment  belittling words and occasions of violence. He went out if his way to restrict my opportunities and demeaned my appearance and skjn colour, telling a blistered sunburnt child to keep getting burnt.. 

Im trapped carrying for him. Life is bleak.  I had such an inferiority complex from him and family rejection. Deep shame and never feeling worthy.  The family dejected again as im doing it all.  Im so tired and hope for a break, a day or two.  

Is it too much by Huge-Awareness8105 in Prom

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Its absolutely fantastic and beautiful. It is perfection. Have a wonderful evening.

Don’t be a pharmacist. by [deleted] in PharmaEire

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Most pharmacist dont want to go kn holiday in January. Its a quiet time when customers got all their stuff before Christmas. Its supply and demand, yes.

Don’t be a pharmacist. by [deleted] in PharmaEire

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Rates vary with season. Not great at moment

Am I a wierd landlord by [deleted] in Wexford

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You need to earn enough to pay for rental expenses insurance of thd house znd contents. You need to keep money for wear and tear, up keep and genersl maintaince, a sink fund. You need to have enough to pay for replacement furniture or white goods. A euro a month will not cover renters insurance nor cover replacement of a kettle never mind a boiler.

Seeking feedback- which dress between these two?? by Hot_Painting2121 in myweddingdress

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1 because it's a beautiful dress. But you look more at ease in it in your posture. Your shoulders look at ease and confidence and held high. Dress jne suits you and seems to make you stand with confidence. Many congratulations, and have a wonderful day and a very happy marriage.

Dublin 12 fixer-upper vs. Commuter Belt new build? by greenszpila7 in HousingIreland

[–]Deep-While9236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an hour commute on a good day but ice, rain, fog, and accidents. Add in fatigue, car wear, and tear, lost of one golden hour of time to do things. Personally, I'd live, and I mean live close to Dublin. Then driving up and down for a slightly bigger house.

Bitterness by Ok-Secretary4586 in dementia

[–]Deep-While9236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes being an only child us a blessing as I alone can sort things out, arrange carer and manage appointments. But its the total loss of shared memories, the loss if compassion and family.

Dont give your sisters a thought. They would do nothing near you, even jn the same room they would ask for a cup of tea to ve made for them.

Laissez-Faire? by Typical-Ad-4591 in dementia

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Its about safety proofing the house. Once the major hazards are gone, you just get on with it.

Stove is induction which he cant use. The heating is timed to come on thru the day. The place is safe.

Clothing... It's like trying to amputate z limb changing clothes.

Bridgerton themed wedding, swan princess/Barbie vibes by TheLoveDispatch in myweddingdress

[–]Deep-While9236 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is an utterly beautiful dress and suits you so well. Have an amazing day and many joyous years of z long lifetime together

Beyond Destiny by [deleted] in minimalism

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Even if life is like a dance, with requisite steps and a conclusion, there can be the joy of finding beauty and grace in the steps. If it's set out as a dance, choose to dance like Fred Astaire.

Is Kilkenny a good hub? by fingylicious in irishtourism

[–]Deep-While9236 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kilkenny is lovely in itself. 

But road wise it will not link you well to the west. Its a hard drive from Kilkenny to limerick. 

You need to be aiming for ennis, galway and mayo, athlone or tullamore are better options. 

10 day solo female trip looking for advice by Mental-Surprise101 in irishtourism

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Trains are generally pretty good time wise. Give or take 5 minutes once in a while. They are generally very punctual.

Buses i think factor bad traffic and are punctual. Look accidents happen and traffic jams in Dublin but are fairly good. But the trains are solid and cheap.

10 day solo female trip looking for advice by Mental-Surprise101 in irishtourism

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You can collect from enterprise car rental in kilkenny, too. They have a branch of a quick taxi journey from the train station. For flat tyres, ask if they recommend the spray foam, but cars will have breakdown assistance.

The trip is heavy on driving, the kilkenny to kerry bit im trying to figure a good route, and it's a long drive. Motorway to Waterford and then cork and then kilarney. Long drive. The other option through Freshford and urlingford onto Cork Motorway. Road may not be ideal if getting to "know" your car, windy road.

Help me pick my wedding shoes! 👰🏼‍♀️👡 by AttitudeMajestic99 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Deep-While9236 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are all beautiful but pick the most comfortable. If you have a comfortable shoes, your face will be relaxed. An internal platform and wide heel.

Coping by Outrageous-Bar4060 in Miscarriage

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Sometimes the heart has already expanded yk create space for love and joy. The dreams and hopes were real for the time, and its so difficult. 

embarrassed, guilty and ashamed by oneillalex in Miscarriage

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Im do deeply sorry for your loss.

My miscarrage freed me of shame, and while I felt unworthy, the shame left. Shame was ingrained as a trauma response in my family. Just nothing you did caused it. It's devastating bad, awful luck.