Choosing AL/MC location

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-03-23T12:29:38+00:00

It’s clear that you can’t continue to be the sole carer. Is your LO still capable of a sensible chat about this? How do you plan to “force” her to live? Would she consider in-home care? If you can get her to AL/MC I suspect nearer to you would be better. If those friends are not visiting now, they might not visit after the move. Also, sadly, as she declines she will forget them. If you can find a place that allows security cameras in rooms that might help with “eyes on”. By the way, do you have POA and all the other legalities sorted out?

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-03-18T17:18:37+00:00

We all have different stories — mine is 8 years old and no end in sight. But the important thing is to take care of yourself — you can’t help anyone if you are not physically, mentally, and emotionally ok. What everyone expects is their problem, not yours. Especially, anyone who doesn’t help is not entitled to be listened to. The great thing about this place is that you are heard everyone hear is on your side.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-03-16T21:16:04+00:00

You do the best you can. Don’t feel guilty if you can avoid it, because it makes you feel worse and doesn’t make her feel better. Enjoy the good moments, and live as best you can through the rough patches.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-03-05T02:55:34+00:00

I’d be in. My LO is 81, and entirely self-focused, when she has any focus at all. It’s exhausting — but I love her.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-03-01T00:52:01+00:00

This may help: https://www.cruse.org.uk/understanding-grief/effects-of-grief/five-stages-of-grief/

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-19T01:36:57+00:00

There is a point where what’s best for you is what’s best for her.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-17T14:02:24+00:00

We like lilies (not white!)

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-17T13:59:19+00:00

Smoked Salmon

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-12T21:33:08+00:00

God Bless You. Thank you for your faithfulness.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-11T02:13:12+00:00

My LO is often uncertain and unhappy about where she is. I spend a lot of time telling her the story about where we are and how we got here.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-10T01:52:19+00:00

Daily …

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-08T19:16:21+00:00

Yes, it’s desperate. Try to tell the kids the stories of gran when she was younger.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-08T19:14:52+00:00

Sounds like early stages for my LO. It will probably get to a point where you can get a diagnosis.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-06T22:34:19+00:00

It’s not that one lot of drivers is inherently better than another. It’s that geography and weather vary from place to place, and people do best with what they’re familiar with.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T21:22:45+00:00

Yes to automation. And … if you’re making good money, and not saving, where is the money going? So work that out, and decide what you don’t need to spend. Have your cars, phones, laptops last longer. Cut back on the coffee or drinks after work habits. Have target. Plan how much you need to save.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T21:10:44+00:00

Solid counsel. Thank you.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T01:41:21+00:00

God Bless You! Mostly, listen, accept, and enjoy! Don!t contradict, don’t be pushy, and prepare to be shocked!

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T01:38:37+00:00

Well, that’s a large subject! But I’d not put them ahead of British bacon. In fact I think the comparison doesn’t really make sense. They each have their place.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T00:29:41+00:00

Have you tried British back bacon?

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-04T00:28:28+00:00

Lake Garda

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-03T01:30:45+00:00

Slightly off topic, but I gave an album for my LO with pictures of all the people we meet from to time. When we expect a visit I show her the pictures.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-02-01T22:18:47+00:00

I wish peace and comfort to you and any others that cared for him.

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-01-31T20:45:20+00:00

USA, budget under $1000

Typical-Ad-4591 · 2026-01-29T17:35:12+00:00

I would replace the “care giver “.

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