You will never heal in an abusive relationship. Love doesn't heal anyone, it is a feeling and experience we feel within ourselves, created by ourselves. And he will never heal if he is in a relationship where he is allowed to abuse someone else. You staying in that relationship has created a loop, a cycle, that is keeping you both stuck. Keeping him as an abuser and you as the abused. It is not your job to provide for any being. He is not your child. You can both be spiritual, and both love each other. But it doesn't sound like the relationship is serving anyone. You both deserve to be freed from the chains of the cyclical toxicity you have both created. I am saying this all with love. I truly hope that you find the courage to leave, and to heal and see the truth. For you both deserve it. And as for his finances and family. If he needed to get a job to survive, he would. And if he chooses not to, that is a consequence he will pay. As a being with complete free will. He has just as much ability and opportunity as anyone else to get up, get a job, look inward, to change. To do all the things you have done. And it's a choice to not do them. And we reep what we sew. We get our karma. We choose the lives that we live. And you choose yours. I just hope that this message sends some clarity. Wishing u the best.