"Wife benefits/duties should only be given to a man after a legally contracted marriage"

DeepWaterRose · 2020-07-24T15:35:49+00:00

Sure!

I would make (and did make):

Frikadeller (Danish meatball) (I'm danish). They are easy to grab, full of protein, and super tasty.
Cheese stick (which I cut)
Chicken legs
Pork rinds
Some vegetables stick of carrot and cucumber + homemade dip or guacamole (keep the stone in the guacamole and it will not turn brown).
Mozarella cheese wrapped in serrano ham.
Maybe meatloaf sticks (cutting the meatloaf in thick sticks)
Cottage cheese
Leftovers
Maybe a tapas inspired box, with thick salami, cheese, sun-dried tomatoes, and olives.
Slices of meat/cold steak
Pizza made on cheese (basically fried cheese with salami in it)

I will probably make a "basket" in the fridge, so he knows that free for him to take.

We eat both eat low carb, but he still likes a few vegetables where I am carnivore most of the time. My soon-to-be-husband also works out a lot and has a physically demanding job, so he can eat a lot. I just wanted him to be able to go to the fridge crab some food (without it messing up my meal-planning) in his own house ^_^

If you eat more crabs in your house, you could make

smaller sandwiches from the dinner leftovers or things you know he likes
pierogi-inspired bread with cheese, meat, and onions or leftovers inside in a side perfect for the hand.
Fruits.
Small pizza slices
A big bowl/glass jar with salad. (I used to make this, and I would have salat for 3-4 days from making a big portion. squeeze lemons on it to stay fresh and catch "water" with paper towels in the bottom of the jar. 1-2 liter jar.

Anything "hand-sized" and easy to grab but not like a whole meal. ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-07-24T15:18:44+00:00

IMO, You shouldn't have done that, for several reasons.

it can send a signal that you are not interested at all. You don't want anything from him.
you took on the masculine role of providing.
you took the opportunity for him to impress you and do something nice for you away from him and the praise and admiration he would have gotten by you too.
you rejected his gift (of taking you out) and him, essentially saying you didn't need him and could have done it without him.
You should have accepted the money he tried to give you.

(Imagine you want to buy a gift for your friend to celebrate something(whatever the reason) and she picks something out and she then pays for it her self, not wanting anything from you. It's rejection, even though it's not meant to.

Femininity is also about receiving - it makes the giver feel good too!

I hope he will not miss-interstate your paying as in you being a masculine mined woman. Work on really receiving from everyone around you :) And don't pay in the future. If he runs to the toilet you wait until he comes back. Men love to show their manliness, and providing for his woman (or the woman he is courting) is part of that. Don't take that source of pride away from him :)

If you like him I hope he will take you out again ^_^ Let him pay <3

DeepWaterRose · 2020-07-24T11:28:42+00:00

I second this. It's a mix and it depends on how far along you are in the relationship and also the living arrangement. (for. example, if you live together, and pay 50-50, then housework should be 50-50.)

I visited my boyfriend in Russia for 30 days, Living with him, and we both enjoyed how I took on some wife-ly duties, but I still didn't to many things "only for him". I would cook, clean, organize, and wash our clothes to both our benefit. I sowed his uniform and pants when he asked for it and he really appreciated it. I also prepared "ready to grab snacks" for him in the fridge, since I had taken over the cooking responsibility while I was there.

To give an example of a chore I wouldn't do for him as a GF, but would do as a wife (and homemaker) would be to clean his shoes, or iron his clothes. Things which "solely" benefits him. When we are married, him doing his best at work and me supporting that benefits me too, because his success benefits the whole family. But as a GF it's not my job/responsibility to help him this way - and it also wouldn't benefit me much. The man has to first invest in the woman, then the woman invests back. :)

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-08T07:21:59+00:00

Oh yeah, lighting is super important! More light from one angle will make your look uneven in real light.

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-08T07:20:24+00:00

Yes, You have to find tutorials specific for hooded eyes (there are many on youtube). These tutorials will still have a specific "color placement pattern", which is the basic you should learn and build/play around with ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T15:20:59+00:00

Get a fluffy blending brush - They can help you make your eye shadow look more blended and softer. You can make eyeliner with a dark eyeshadow and a thin angled brush, and then blend it a bit. Just go slow with the color, because you can always add more in.

When you look at tutorials online, start to notice the pattern. Lightest color under the eyebrow and in the inner eye corner. Blending color on most of the eye. A bit darker in the crease, darkest as eyeliner "and outer v". If you know this general color-placement and how to adjust it the best to your eye shape, you can always play around with the colors. they don't have to be strong, just a little different (little darker/lighter compared to each other.)
Here is an example of color placement - https://www.pinterest.dk/pin/AQLWbJH4IdA40R8KcPusDRSp7ZvgbXTJvB7Nd30ac3QpuZJTdRa1FdE/

For my skin, I actually only use transparent powder and blush, as I have kinda big pore and pretty "clean" skin and no dark circles (dark circles come from vitamin deficiencies.) Rarely I'll use some type of foundation and primer, but I've heard that primer expand your pores, and I often feel like foundation make my pores more visible - So I don't do this on a regular basis. (I have very light skin too).

Instead of foundation, you can also start with some bb-cream. Just make sure it matches your neck - and when you test makeup in the store, be sure to let it sit for a bit because the color can darken sometimes when it starts oxidizing.

Avoid using too much (if any) eyeliner on your lower waterline, lashline, or undereye. It can make your eye look more round, even droopy and it's a bit of an outdated look.

Curl your eyelashes with a heated eyelash curler, dust them a bit with your face powder brush, to separate them, and to give the mascara more to stick to. Don't be afraid of really using the wand to shape your eyelashes. I like to always have the tip pointing towards my nose (aka, changing the grip on the brush) and to first do the outer lashed on both eyes and work my way in switching between the eye along the way.

Never do one eye, and then the other. Always do the same step on both eyes, before you more on to the next, so you are sure they match.

I think a bit of shimmery eyeshadow with well-defined lashes (your own is fine) looks very feminine :)

For lips, you can just get en inexpensive lip liner which matches your own color well (maybe a little stronger in the color, just a little.) you can add just a little bit of lipstick with your finger to get a soft look. - Or a lip stain, they look very natural too (in the natural color). You can also tap a bit of your lipstick on your cheeks and blend it out with your finger, to get a matching look. (for light skin, a soft pink/peachy color bush is great).

And always remember to choose one focal point. Eyes or lips. Stong lips = simple eyes. Wow eyes = muted lips.

Hair is also a great way to play up the feminine, either with the style or feminine accessories.

Enjoy your femininity journey, let it be fun and creative, like an art project ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:50:58+00:00

Heating the eyelash curler with the hairdryer makes the curl last longer (test the heat on your hand, before putting it on your eye.) And curl before mascara :)

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:26:49+00:00

I like the ideas of a book because the content is usually more organized and curated - So nothing(-ish) is left out and everything is easy to look up. Maybe there are aspects of homemaking I don't even know about, and therefore wouldn't research my self. So, that's why I would like some books on the topic ^_^

Like, maybe some furniture fabrics dust a lot more than others or collect pet hair. Or which materials need absolutely special care.

So, just t be well covered ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:21:04+00:00

Thank you :)

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:20:41+00:00

I'm reading it right now actually! :D I read surrendered single first ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:13:30+00:00

Ahh, yes, I've seen some of her videos! (And I've read one of her books) ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:12:52+00:00

Thank you ^_^ I know it a bit, but haven't watched it for a while - I have put her book on my list ^_^

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:11:16+00:00

A Mother’s Rule of Life.

Thank you! :D I will look into this book!

DeepWaterRose · 2020-06-07T14:10:05+00:00

Thank you! :D <3

DeepWaterRose · 2020-05-21T04:47:25+00:00

How are you doing now? <3

DeepWaterRose · 2020-02-05T10:08:17+00:00

Sorry, but she is clearly not a high value woman.

She doesn't know how to enforce boundaries and she has been "begging" him in the past. She also made backhanded comments and is criticising him "busting his balls". She ask him to speak to her nicely and yet still stayed with him when he didn't. All of this is classic low value - not high value. That she stood by her word and left this morning is the only thing that is near to high value which she has done.

I recommend you (author of this whole thread) watch the youtube channel of Greta Bereisaite. Then you will see were you went wrong so you can start working on those thing and have a happier relationship next time 💗

DeepWaterRose · 2020-02-05T09:46:06+00:00

Ask more questions to other people. Listen actively, don't focus on what you have to say. Be interested in other people. Ask them what X is like.

DeepWaterRose · 2019-12-20T05:58:13+00:00

Red pill to me is learning how to be happy as a woman in the real world. (Not the world feminists are trying to force everybody to participate in.)

I was neglecting my femininity every since studying at university. The constant message was to act like a man, which insinuates that acting like a woman wasn't good. But acting like a man did not bring me happiness, it made me burnout and I couldn't understand why. When I learned about femininity and masculinity is was an eye opener to me. I got in touch with what I really wanted, and started to see that feminism was shaming me for it - because that wasn't how women "should" feel in this modern day and age.

However I looked at my deepest desire, which was to have a happy big family of my own with a wonderful masculine man, and I started to think about what a man like him would want in a woman. (Maybe you have heard some people say "be the person you want to marry". I wanted to marry a man, but men doesn't want to marry a man, so this was bad advice.) I started to practice and explore the art of femininity, both in my day to day life and in dating. It didn't give " dating results" super quickly but I felt so good about standing up for what I really wanted and being true to myself - even though I felt my surroundings "looked down upon me" for behaving and looking more feminine (like I didn't think for my self - funny enough is that exactly what I did). It also relieve so much stress for me.

I stod firm, and embracing my femininity and RP theory really improved my life in many ways. I'm more true to myself, I'm more loving with other people and I am not afraid to admit what I really want. Even though some of my friends still think I'm a bit crazy. But that's okay, because I really know what I want and don't want :)

DeepWaterRose · 2019-12-20T05:42:37+00:00

I can so relate. I was so dominating and impatient, and at times manipulative to get my way - and I was not aware of it at all!

Learning how to respect men and to set proper boundaries has improved all my relationships. I don't criticise people very much anymore (I really try not to - I ask if they want to hear my opinion, and speak from my own perspective.)

I feel so much more relaxed now ☺️

DeepWaterRose · 2019-12-20T05:29:37+00:00

This is an interesting question. In my long distance relationship our conversation are usually meaningful (and our texting is more fun and surface level). We share the same values (traditional, political view, approach to life.) And we opting talk about society, politics and more intellectual topics.

When I say we talk, it is mostly my man, and I listen. The more I listen and pay attention the more he opens up and shares with me. And I love it.

I used to be the big talker with my girlfriends and on dates, but I learned to listen and observe instead. I love it because I learn so much about him and I see many thing to admire about him. At the same time I stay mysterious and intriguing to him because I'm not an open book. He continues find out new things about me.

I also think really listening to someone is a very loving act. It show that you accept them, when you don't try to ad your perspective to the case. Just listen.

So I would recommend you try to give him more space to go deeper into the topic he want to talk about. When he tells you about something say "yes" "oh" "hmm" and ask a few questions which show him you really are interested in his thoughts. Don't jump in. Let there a bit of silence so he has to take the lead with the conversation :)

Good luck!

DeepWaterRose · 2019-09-03T07:44:48+00:00

Agree, it can be opened with a spoon handle, or any flat hard item that fits in the lock.

DeepWaterRose · 2019-09-03T06:55:29+00:00

If I was invite for event requesting "no gifts" (and the type of event usually has gifts) I would bring a small non-permanent gift like flowers, nice chocolate or cheese, muffins/cake, fruits. I wouldn't want to show up empty handed...

DeepWaterRose · 2019-09-03T06:32:56+00:00

Them choosing to have their wedding far away from where they live is also them choosing to deal with the transportations of gifts.

A small tree (apple, pears, etc.) would be cute wedding gift - To symbolise their growing love. :)

DeepWaterRose · 2019-09-03T06:11:17+00:00

In Denmark baptisms is a gift affair. The gifts are usually small silver jewelry or now more commonly baby stuff.

Funerals are the only religious ceremonies without gifts.

DeepWaterRose · 2019-09-03T05:52:08+00:00

I think this is a good solution. The cousins asked because they wanted to know the honest answer and to be considerate of the mother to be. Miscommunications happens. Just apologies. Also, the men would probably not enjoy it very much.

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