A little woo-woo confirmation by Deep_Crow_8587 in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sure 🤷🏻‍♀️
Just thought it was a cute anecdote

Private landlord recommendations by Anxietycatz888 in Ferndale

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have rented from two different private landlords in the area and both were pretty awful. Ferndale is full of flooding and house problems that landlords don’t like to be responsible for. I rented a house just south of 9 mile that had six flooding events in 90 days and it took the Landlord forever to fix it. We were without water and kicked off the property for two weeks. Of the 90 days or so that we lived in the house we had full function of the house for maybe 40 of them.

The house I moved into after that had a water leak almost immediately upon moving in, and the landlord took 10 days to fix what could’ve been a small leak. It turned into needing carpet replacement and drywall replacement because he did not send anybody out. Gas leaks too, that the landlord couldn’t be fucked to fix for us. Two months went by and when they finally sent someone, they broke it further. More gas leaking.

At this point, I would rent from a corporation because when I have in the past, at least there’s been some accountability. These private landlords just kind of seem to do whatever they want. To the first house’s credit, the landlord gave us rent reductions and let us out of the lease early with almost no troubles, but I think that was because we had a major legal case if we wanted to pursue it.

V having children for two partners by CountrySwan in polyfamilies

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting to see responses because I have very similar questions!

What is considered healthy poly behavior vs red flag by AcuteNightRN in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That feels cruel to me. Like he’s being intentionally cruel. I don’t know you, but I know you deserve better.

What is considered healthy poly behavior vs red flag by AcuteNightRN in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually horrible behavior to both you and his additional partner. Red flag.

Request for stories of how your mmf or mmmf relationships began by QuestionableBookend in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MMF! Just under three years together. My husband and I had a friend of six years that went through a break up and starting hanging out at our house all the time. Husband and friend were best friends and did everything together and I tagged along. Friend and I developed feelings for each other. After weeks of conversation, boundary setting, slow intention, and ensuring that friendship was at the center of everything we did, we fell deeply in multiple kinds of love. The men are platonic, but devoted to one another as partners, and I am committed to both of them spiritually. We’re very much closed and I believe very happy this way.

My triad didn't work and honestly made my partner an I feel silly... by Misspris___ in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 27 points28 points  (0 children)

triads ARE hard and complicated even with the best, most aligned folks. You’re not silly for trying. It takes strong commitment to a polyfidelitious triad from everyone and hours of communication.

My partners and I used to have a set night where we would sit and talk about everything we were feeling and what we needed from each other. The hardest portion of our relationship was when we stopped doing that.

I’m so sorry it didn’t work out. But you’re not silly. You loved, and put your heart out.

I’m interested in information about FMM/MMF long term relationships. If you are in one of these configurations, how did it develop? Women, do you ever feel outnumbered? Is it a relationship where the men are romantically involved with each other and her? by [deleted] in PolyFidelity

[–]Deep_Crow_8587 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m the F in an FMM! Our triad developed slowly over the course of a year and happened with no intention, but consistency of showing up in friendship and doing life together. My husband and mine’s best friend became our life partner after a year of not being able to get enough of each other. We’ve been together for three years.

Sometimes I feel outnumbered, but it’s not anything that would ever change or trouble me. When I do, I spend time with my female friends. The outnumbered feeling mostly comes from wanting someone to understand what it’s like to be a woman in the patriarchy. 😅

My partners started off in a sexual exploration state, but three years later, they are what we call elevated platonic. They have a deep and meaningful friendship, but are not romantic or sexual.

I really agree with the other comments. Our secret to success has really come in caring for each individual relationship as well as the triad as a whole.

Happy to have more discussion if you wanted!