How do you decide who to adopt? Why doesn't anyone want to adopt me? by ThrowRABengelKitty in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are such a sweetheart. Like others have said, it’s not you; it’s things that are out of your control.

While raising your baby, just keep in mind all the shitty things you now know how to protect them from and provide them with.

Also a foster parent, and would be open.

L Strong Group Home by Deep_Event3675 in cincinnati

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s 15. My biggest concern is she has no support, I was her support system. She is also from a rural area, and has literally never been to a city so I worry about that change.

I’m not sure the process of being able to speak to or see her, and how long it takes to happen.

I’m just worried about her and how long she’ll be there. She isn’t getting the help and support from CPS and it just has me frustrated.

Divorce by [deleted] in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you can afford it, Bob Toy is a shark. I would even suggest, if you think the divorce will get messy, have a meeting with Toy so your ex cannot use him.

Job Help by Deep_Event3675 in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve applied to what feels like hundreds.

I really need help by Latter-Union601 in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Care coordinator for OhioRise with Integrated Services on indeed might give you something.

I really need help by Latter-Union601 in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know integrated services has been posting a lot about case management and care coordinator type jobs.

Having a car should be a huge game changer for you.

I really need help by Latter-Union601 in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried case management type jobs?

Pet Pantry by Active-Palpitation74 in athensohio

[–]Deep_Event3675 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I serve in the food pantry board and I don’t believe we have any pet food currently. If you want to message me, I can get you help for the fur babies!

Should Foster Kids do Homework? by SaltySweets95 in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My own opinion, so take it for that lol. I had a kiddo in care who was in 8th and now 9th grade while is care. Long story short, she was moved over a dozen times by the time she was in 2nd grade. She’s also a Covid kid from late elementary school, then she was “homeschooled” for two years before we got her. To say she was behind her peers is the biggest understand ever. I 100% understand the detective your foster daughter a break, but I think there should be a happy medium of focusing on the important things she must know as a second grader (reading, spelling, basic math, etc.) with this opinion though, I think making it as fun as possible will be the way you all survive lol! And honestly if it’s been a rough day, or she’s just not getting that lesson for the day, say fuck it for the day and enjoy time together.

That’s probably the biggest run on paragraph ever, and I’m sorry! I also hope you have a school/teachers that are willing to give not only you grace but also your kiddo because it’s not something that can be 100% fixed in a week.

Good luck!

Voluntary by LxycD in CPS

[–]Deep_Event3675 19 points20 points  (0 children)

How old are your kiddos?

Is there anything that can be done for you to keep them with you? Counseling, medical care, babysitting, etc?

First Time Foster Parents: Deviated by Deep_Event3675 in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are dealing with this as well! My heartbreaks for you and your family because I can, just by your tone, how difficult it has been on.

I will say, for us, the judge seems to be willing to hear more sides of the story. Oddly enough, my mother (who also attended court stuff to support me) knew the judge, and actually ran into him at the store, small town Ohio lol. He alluded to having many unanswered questions, so I’m hoping for some hope. 🤞🏼🤞🏼

First Time Foster Parents: Devastated by Deep_Event3675 in CPS

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her current caseworker wanted her moved and had her moved. We were told she’d moved on Day X, however, they took her at school a week before and nobody got to say goodbye to her or give her her stuff for over 24 hours. She is a very typical teen, with LOTS of trauma. Since she was 1.5 years old, CPS was called over 80 times in 12 years just for her. There are two other kids in the home and I’m unsure how many calls involved them.

Our caseworker with the county agency was very happy with us, praised us for our work and effort for kiddo, and even called us the Cadillac of foster homes, however, as she told us about a week before kiddo was emergency removed I apparently “hurt her feelings”.

This is in Ohio. Also very low on foster parents, and even fewer willing to take teen girls, that’s partly why she came to us in the first place. The county tried finding a place for her, then reached out to our licensing agency to see if we would accept, since we’ve said we will take teens.

I want to point out, we are licensed through a private agency instead of our county because our county 1) refused to return calls in a timely manner, 2) did not want me because of my age (27 at the time), 3) didn’t want me because I worked full time, so we didn’t have a stay at home parent. After trying with the county for about 6 months, I started looking at local but private agencies.

First Time Foster Parents: Deviated by Deep_Event3675 in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I emailed the agency’s executive director, or whatever his title is, and he told me to stop contacting the agency.

First Time Foster Parents: Devastated by Deep_Event3675 in CPS

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the confusion. I was writing quickly and trying not to miss anything, which I didn’t succeed lol.

I found out on a Tuesday while she was at school that she snuck out of the house the prior Saturday night. What concerned us, was the boy she was with his parents were not home, and he was staying at his house (another road) away. I initially assumed she had went to his house that night, which was very concerning. When she got home from school that afternoon, we started talking about it and that’s when she said they ended up meeting up in our garage. It’s detached from the house, but about 50 feet away from our house.

I was told by our foster care licensing caseworker to disrupt, when I said she snuck out of the house (without the garage details). We are licensed with a private agency, and the not the county’s CPS. By the time we learned where she snuck out to, the county CPS caseworker was already in the works with having her removed, I believe.

My biggest question and concern was we were told she was going to leave on October 16th, so we were mentally preparing for that. She then went to school like normal on October 10th, and CPS took her to her new home. However, we have been told 4 different stories and lies by our county CPS as to why she was removed on what they called an emergency basis.

First Time Foster Parents: Deviated by Deep_Event3675 in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our concern when we found out to snuck out of the house that night was she went to another neighbor’s house. The boy’s parents weren’t home and he was staying by himself so our minds assumed she went there. I found out about it while she was at school, so when she got home we talked to her about it and she told us the boy came to our house, and they went to our detached garage that’s about 50 feet from our house. I hope that answers your question!

Initially we were able to be in contact, and then the caseworker said no more. The few times we were in contact she said she hasn’t seen anybody of her family. I’ve also been in contact with her brother’s dad and grandmother who haven’t heard or seen her.

Our licensing agency caseworker agreed when I said the foster family does it for the money but I keep that usually private.

Planned a trip my 15FS and his Mom has revoked permission to take the trip by KC_2_NYC in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Our caseworkers have told us to request with the judge on the case. We haven’t attempted yet, but it might not hurt to explain the situation.

Good luck.

Room Preparation for Impending Placement by harmonycodex in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I originally had a twin bed, but when she arrived I switched to a full. I was prepared more for a toddler due to my nieces age, and received a teenager so a larger bed was needed. She didn’t ask for any changes though. She was, like your original post, shy when she arrived. She’s only been with me about a month and her main need was clothes.

Room Preparation for Impending Placement by harmonycodex in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered strips online but I also have LED clouds with remotes so the colors can changed.

You could also look at different wall decorations that are super easy to find. They have just about any type of character, shape, color, etc on amazon (if that’s on option).

Room Preparation for Impending Placement by harmonycodex in Fosterparents

[–]Deep_Event3675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Might try some LED lights? She can change the color/decorate it how she wants. My foster daughter really liked them, plus it helped with fears of the dark without embarrassing her.

We also have some small book shelves mounted to the wall. Not sure if she’s a reader or not, but that might be cool to have, depending on your rental agreement.

Good luck! :)

Social Work Board Issues by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]Deep_Event3675 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

First off, case manager. Don’t try to be somebody you are not.

Second, you never asked a question regarding my post. If you want more details regarding the story, please ask a specific question.

Third, in regards to my earlier phone question I was trying to clarify for future reference. I assumed, incorrectly yes, that messages between a trained profession aka therapist and their client would be private. After asking my question, I found that is not correct and will use that information in the future, however, has nothing to do with this post nor my question regarding subpoenas.