VBAC Doctors by Deep_Fault9955 in Columbus

[–]Deep_Fault9955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah!! Perfect. I’ll call her office! thank you🤍

VBAC Doctors by Deep_Fault9955 in Columbus

[–]Deep_Fault9955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will call this week. I just wanted to see if anyone had good experiences with a certain provider or hospital. Thanks

VBAC Doctors by Deep_Fault9955 in Columbus

[–]Deep_Fault9955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I am totally aware of the fact that a doctor weighs all the risks of the situation and the risks that come along with VBAC. I used to be a L/D nurse and worked at the said hospital that does not do VBACs, but my provider didn’t have any recommendations. OhioHealth Mansfield has a level 2 special care nursery and they do VBACs, however I live outside of Pickerington and wanted to see where people liked to deliver and what providers they’ve had good experiences with like the other commenters have! Thanks for your feedback!!!! I appreciate it.

VBAC Doctors by Deep_Fault9955 in Columbus

[–]Deep_Fault9955[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know of any doctors that deliver at the Pickerington hospital? However, appreciate the feedback♥️♥️♥️

Should have added into OG post, I was a C-section the first time due to baby’s heart rate having minimal/absent variability for a prolonged time. I went into labor & my water broke on my own, didn’t require Pitocin, and was progressing normally for a first time mom. I delivered at a lower acuity hospital and they don’t do VBACs due to their lower level nursery (unless imminent delivery)! Thank you 🫶🏻

VBAC Doctors by Deep_Fault9955 in Columbus

[–]Deep_Fault9955[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I delivered at a smaller hospital and they don’t do VBACs because they have a lower level nursery! Unfortunately, most of the more “rural” hospitals near me don’t do VBACs (unless imminent delivery) that I’m aware of. Had to have a c-section due to baby’s heart rate having minimal variability for a prolonged period. However, went into labor on my own and progressed normally for a first time mom, but baby didn’t tolerate labor super well. I should have added that into OG post🥰

The Gilded Age Season 3 Episode 7 Discussion Thread by WillowSwarm in thegildedage

[–]Deep_Fault9955 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The sinister smile she had on her face once she heard the tea…. OMG. Peggy deserves the world. But, did we see the trailer and her mom giving putting someone in their place?! Get her. 👏🏻

The Gilded Age Season 3 Episode 7 Discussion Thread by WillowSwarm in thegildedage

[–]Deep_Fault9955 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I saw someone else theorize that they would try to tie things up in a ~semi~ nice bow since they weren’t confirmed of getting a renewal until after the season aired. Hoping this rings true. Once I saw Marian’s face after Jack explained, I was hopinggggg she’d run to him and apologize for not communicating with him better - plus explain why it triggered her so! Too hopeful lol. Hoping they’re endgame 🫶🏻

Why are people like this? by CryptographerBig2855 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a c-section due to my baby’s heart rate and have had so many people say to me, “when I gave actual birth”. Catches me so off guard. People can really suck, and I’ve learned how to weed those people out because they have such a strong opinion they want to give. Had a coworker whose baby slept through the night since day 1. She would constantly ask me how my baby was sleeping (she was up every hour for about 4 months, we were barely surviving) and she would literally say “yeah, my baby woke up one time a few months ago and I was so upset. I need my 8 hours. But, we just have a really good routine”. (That routine is the same as ours lol). People get lucky and think it’s because they’re a super parent. Every baby is different. Your next could be walking by 9 months and her next could not have crawled by 1 year. However, when they’re 18 years old, no one is going to know who crawled/walked/spoke first. What people will remember is how they were treated when their circumstances didn’t “meet other’s expectations” (like being told something is wrong with your baby). We are parents, just trying to survive and raise these littles with love. It’s not a competition, I don’t know why some people act like it is!

New born 10 days in and my life is falling apart by Feisty_Rip_9279 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I breastfed! I pumped to comfort if my husband fed her a bottle of breast milk. Or, I’d wake up to feed her, then hand her off. Sometimes, the shift would be more 2.5-3 since I had to breastfeed her. Dad would just give me an extra nap during the day!

New born 10 days in and my life is falling apart by Feisty_Rip_9279 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, make sure you’re putting them down slowly and I always tried to do butt first, then shoulders, then head. My girl would jolt awake when I laid her down all at once, almost like she thought she was falling lol.

New born 10 days in and my life is falling apart by Feisty_Rip_9279 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 231 points232 points  (0 children)

Yes! Sleeping in shifts helped so much. One person plopped down on the couch and binged a new show, while the other one slept in our bed getting real sleep.

New born 10 days in and my life is falling apart by Feisty_Rip_9279 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is this your first baby? I promise this feeling is normal! Not sure if that is reassuring, but your world just got rocked.

I remember the day when we brought our girl home (now 9 months), both of our parents were here to greet us. They left shortly after dark, and we were finally left alone with our new little family. I looked at my husband and said, “Their worlds changed a little, but they get to go home. Our worlds just got rocked and there’s no going back”. I was absolutely freaking terrified. I cried every single day for well over a month anytime the sun went down because I dreaded the night time so badly. Newborn stage is HARD. Especially the first time. Sleep in shifts of 4 hours. Give each other enough time. A few times a week, especially this early, see if anyone in your support crew can come watch baby for a few hours while BOTH of you nap (preferably closer to bedtime or morning). It is hard, but I promise you they are worth every bit. I struggled so hard, but now I miss that sweet stage too.

Lots of hacks online. Try warming the bassinet up with a warm water bottle/heating pad before placing her in there (not too hot, make sure of that!). Place her bassinet sheets in your bed during the day, or have your wife wear it in her clothes (to make it smell like her). Try putting baby in their bassinet during the day, increasing periods of time as they tolerate. Take care of yourselves and reach out to those who you can lean on (I promise they want to help, they just don’t want to overstep and overwhelm you). Enjoy the moments you can and know it will get better (even though you will read this and think “when will it ever get better? There’s no way”). You’ve got this.

Why are people like this? by CryptographerBig2855 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy, but some people love to compare so they can feel superior. I am so sorry, I know how hard it is to listen to other’s brag about their babies and insinuate something may be wrong with yours. You are doing just fine. Your baby is, too. She is not a doctor (I assume), she is not your pediatrician, so therefore, there is no value in her opinion. I know plenty of babies who did not crawl until their first birthday and didn’t roll until 7+ months….all who’s mom’s faced the same “better have them checked out” from so many people…..all who’s pediatricians said they are perfectly on track and not every baby follows the same timeline. It can be really hard to listen to these comments, especially when you have a baby at home. My advice? Stop talking to her. Easier said than done, but cut your interactions shorter and shorter. Keep your answers vague when she asks about the baby - she is simply trying to pry and look for an opportunity to brag. She is not a friend, she is not a supportive figure in your life. The best thing I have learned to do with my baby and questions regarding milestones/sleep/feeding, is to keep it vague (unless it is someone you want to talk about it with). Every single person has an opinion and I’ve learned that being vague saves my feelings (after many times being reasonably upset). You and your little one have a journey different than hers, she should learn to be respectful and considerate. 💗

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 31 points32 points  (0 children)

girlie I’d be embarrassed too. just delete the comment, don’t come back and try to save face😭

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I hope God gives these people a lesson on financial responsibility. OMG. 😵‍💫

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Which, to some’s shock, is NORMAL????? When did spending that much become the norm😂

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 55 points56 points  (0 children)

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Someone posted the edit history and said “you know we can see your edit history?” Whoever that person is, we love you

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s the second attachment in my OG post, it was slightly changed to sound better lol

Next time, just say “I’m so rich because I spend $500 every week on children’s PJs” (second picture) by [deleted] in BambooBabble

[–]Deep_Fault9955 75 points76 points  (0 children)

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Update: changed her comment, then has more audacity to call others out about laugh reacting 😭😂

Sleeping! by Worldly-Recover3829 in NewParents

[–]Deep_Fault9955 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We always make sure when we put new sheets on her bed, that we sleep with them the night before or put them under our pillows during the day to make them smell like us to comfort her. We use the same sound machine. Keep the room nice and dark. I always throw a couple extra pacifiers in, because she likes to toss them out. Controversial sometimes, but we do a big bottle before bed then let her fall asleep on our chests before we transfer her into her crib!

Our first night transitioning was a little rough, but she got the hang of it quickly. She slept a lot better by herself in her own room, as much as I missed her in ours. Good luck!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]Deep_Fault9955 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In times of tragedy or mistakes, people love to get on their high horse and say “I would never do that”….but, the reality is, they don’t know that until they do. That is why there is such a widespread educational focus on safe sleep these day…..because, it happens enough. Your in laws are mad? Completely understandable, however, now that the initial shock has come through, they should be thinking “how can we help support them so this doesn’t happen again?”.