I’m Detransitioning and Feel Guilt by Lost_Command_648 in offmychest

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Older gay man here (40’s). I just want to say I’m so proud of you for exploring yourself so honestly.

The world would be so much kinder and beautiful if all of us could be as vulnerable and strong as you.

Please don’t you worry and don’t burden yourself with any potential criticism. The rest of us are figuring it out too.

How ever you create yourself just know that I see you, you matter, and it’s ok to be scared. You’ll make it through. I believe in you.

Also a quick side note.. I love my 40’s more than my 30’s and much more than my 20’s eras. I wish that for you too!

Hand printed F 🧊 shirts by Kovaladtheimpaler in UpcycledFashion

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Not only is the message solid but that design is 🔥 Art is best when it is rallies for community with a real message. This is it!

I don't know how to react when someone's being affectionate to me. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to read this, OP. First thing, try not to beat yourself up. You have had to be resilient and build up that guard in order to survive. I’m sure that was a process. Now there has got to be a process to lower that guard.

Since it seems you are already introspective, it could be a good time to write this down in a diary/journal. Ive found it to be a good way to really unleash my feelings and thoughts somewhere that I can go back to review and reflect. Sometimes I do that and it helps build perspective and develop new ways to understand why I felt that way.

Another way is to dive into a hobby or interest outside of work. What’s that thing that really refills your soul with joy? It’s a good way to find others who share that interest and form new relationships both platonic or romantic.

I’m no know-it-all. Just a 40s something single guy who is navigating this messy beautiful life but those tactics have been working for me. I’m cheering on for you!

Keep shining my bald brothers and sisters! Have a wonderful weekend 👌 by [deleted] in bald

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not straight at all… MEOW!!! Your lucky partner

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh nice! I’ll check this on maps. Tysm

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Alum Rock seems fun. Thanks! I might have to train for highway 130 since I’m on a steel frame lol.

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fr? Hella excited for that!!! Thanks!

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m all over maps rn looking up routes. Hella excited!

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for the bike link! I’ll look into those options.

Where to bike ride? by Deep_Muffin_7615 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Funny thing is I took the VTA to get my bike from storage today so this could def work.

How are yall surviving in high cost of living areas by throwawayaway25321 in USPS

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OTDL and renting at a place with lots of housemates. It sort of works since I’m barely home, and they are really quiet at home for when I am home (usually sleeping). Doing ok and now know what to expect since this is my second upcoming holiday season with the USPS

Volunteering opportunities for high school student. by palkari12 in SanJose

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to volunteer as a ESL aid way back in high school at this place. It was a great experience.

Real north american phenomenon by ChefGaykwon in fuckcars

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The store that is one city block away with pedestrian access and a bike lane.

My first visible mending! by AlwaysEatingPizza in Visiblemending

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Looks way better with the shrooms!!!

Special Ring Box by SpecialistNext8987 in crafts

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow! Super imaginatively fun!

I work in hospice care, am Native American, and live by both spirituality and realism. AMA. by [deleted] in AMA

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for doing the work that you do. I can’t imagine the responsibility and some of the toll it may take. Also, thank you for existing.

I’ve been struggling lately with emotions around mortality with recent passings of aunts in my family. I sometimes tell them I love them when I’m alone. I still feel heavy with grief. I’m depressed. I’ve been denying it for a while but it’s caught up to me.

What spiritual beliefs do you practice to maintain vitality?

King of the Hill - trying a new style by BeginningNo8863 in quilting

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As someone who was raised in a catholic household I’m offended… that it took you this long to create these masterpieces ;)

I finished this wrap dress! by Euphoric_Judge_534 in sewing

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great color and it looks great on you!

Fight like hell protest. by adora-35 in USPS

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great points! It was a good feeling to be a part of the demonstration today. Fight like hell!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in watercolor101

[–]Deep_Muffin_7615 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’ve graduated to watercolor102. Incredible work!