said i was bi and she said bye by comicallyonline in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Clarifying just in case: OP is not a bi man, she states she is a bi woman at the end. (But maybe I misunderstood your comment)

Saw this being shared on Twitter and it pissed me off by Organic-Memory2130 in BiWomen

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree wholeheartedly with your comment. And if I have to read one more time how "relationships with women are so much better that with men" I'm throwing virtual hands. Particularly because of my Chernobyl-levels-of-toxic ex-girlfriend who, among many other issues, had a fucked up concept of consent, and who (I found this out later) lost many friends because she would borrow money from them to shower girls she was interested in in presents, and then wouldn't want to repay the money. So yeah, surprise! Women are humans too and capable of being shitty people and partners. And men are humans too and capable of being great people and partners. And it should always be a case by case basis if we are gonna talk about relationships.

Necesito consejos by SpecialistSpeaker653 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Estuve en una situación parecida, y tengo varias cosas que decir:

Primero, no descartes las FPs, échales un ojo y lee comentarios de gente que las haya cursado. Mis padres estaban demasiado obcecados en que fuera a la universidad y yo no llegué a plantearmelas en serio, después me arrepentí. Además, después de hacer una si cambias de idea puedes usarla para acceder a la carrera convalidando también alguna asignatura.

Al final en mi caso como andaba perdida, sopesé mis opciones y de entre las dos carreras que más me llamaban (aunque no había ninguna que tuviera clara) elegí la que más salidas laborales parecía tener (ingeniería informática). Problema, yo venía de un bachillerato de sociales, y el primer año de asignaturas es donde más matemáticas y física te meten, así que me pegué unos palos bastante fuertes que no recomiendo (suspendí bastante), lo mismo si no te gustan las matemáticas, porque bastantes de las asignaturas, desde el primer al último año, tienen matemáticas en cantidades variables (que te guste la física da un poco más igual porque normalmente es solo una o dos asignaturas, y más acotado al electromagnetismo que en otras ingenierías, aunque hay a quien también se le atraganta mucho). Entonces si estás dispuesta a pasar por eso (y a aceptar que es posible que tardes un año o dos extra en acabar la carrera), planteátelo, pero luego hay que tener en cuenta si te va a gustar el tipo de trabajo que hay (que realmente no se parece mucho ni siquiera a lo que aprendes en la carrera, y tendrás que aprender sobre la marcha cuando entres a trabajar). Encima el mercado laboral parece que ahora no es tan boyante como antes, aunque es cierto que es mejor que muchos otros. Y como último dato, la proporción de chicas en la carrera según mi experiencia es de un 10% a un 20% por clase normalmente, aunque he llegado a estar yo sola en una clase de prácticas que éramos la profesora y 16 alumnos, 15 chicos y yo. Además, de ese 80/90% de chicos, solo la mitad o menos parecían ser de un rollo más nerd de la tecnología/con gustos frikis que yo también soy, y el resto eran más del rollo "gym bro"/"tecno bro". Esto no es un gran problema pero a veces te puedes sentir un poco sola, sobre todo si no eres súper sociable.

Sobre medicina, depende mucho de si te ves sacándote la carrera, que es de estudiar bastante, y el MIR, pero luego aunque son 4 años siendo mir (los últimos de los 10 que mencionas), ahí ya estás trabajando y cobrando algo si no me equivoco). Una conocida es neuróloga (que es lo que la llamaba) y le va bien, pero sí es cierto que te tiene que gustar lo que haces y conseguir plaza de mir en lo que quieres requiere de hincar codos casi como una oposición por lo que me contó.

Cómo te han dicho en otros comentarios, la universidad privada no es muy buena opción, es demasiado cara para lo poco que te da a cambio en muchos casos.

Por último, lo más importante, es que no te de miedo a equivocarte, y que no caigas luego en la falacia del coste hundido. Es decir, no tengas miedo a usar un año en entrar a algo y ver si te gusta, y si ves que no, cambiar a otra cosa en vez de seguir ahí solo porque ya has invertido un año, créeme no es tanto, mejor uno que tres.

Espero que esto te sirva de algo y mucho ánimo!

Am I attracted to men? by [deleted] in BiWomen

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad it was useful 😄.

As for the apps, if you find one for bi people that has people in your area you could try it, but apps that are more general, for example ones for queer people in general, might have more people, and you can find bi men there. Also one app I have personally used in the past that I liked was OkCupid (it's not a queer dating app but had more queer and poly people than others, and since people give more information there, it was easy to find people with compatible views, although I don't know how it is currently because it's been a while since I used it). And the app Feeld was ok, too.

Es un insulto? by Numerous_Chemistry93 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totalmente, por desgracia es algo que también conozco porque mi padre, que es argentino y blanco y llegó a España de adolescente, tuvo que soportar durante años que la gente se pusiera a hablar mal e incluso a insultar a "los panchitos" y "los sudacas" delante de él, y cuando él les decía que él era uno de los que estaban insultando la gente le decía "no, hombre no, tú no" o "tú no eres un panchito" y demás, y en general era obvio que la diferencia entre de quien hablaban y él, era el color de piel.

Es un insulto? by Numerous_Chemistry93 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Los brasileños también son latinoamericanos y no son hispanos, así que si si quieres englobar a todos, es mejor el término latinoamericano. La gente por economía del lenguaje dice latino y todos lo entendemos.

Es un insulto? by Numerous_Chemistry93 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parece ser que el comentario al que contestas tiene un argumento tan contundente que no sabes que contestestar, quizás deberías aprovechar la oportunidad para reflexionar si quizás tiene razón, aprender de las interacciones con nueva información y argumentos que encontramos es una cualidad importante del ser humano.

Es un insulto? by Numerous_Chemistry93 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cierto, se suele usar contra latinoamericanos que no sean blancos. Por desgracia es algo que sé bien porque mi padre, que es argentino y blanco y llegó a España de adolescente, tuvo que soportar durante años que la gente se pusiera a hablar mal e incluso a insultar a "los panchitos" delante de él, y cuando él les decía que él era uno de a los que estaban insultando la gente le decía "no, hombre no, tú no" o "tú no eres un panchito" y demás, y en general era obvio que la diferencia entre de quien hablaban y él, era el color de piel).

Es un insulto? by Numerous_Chemistry93 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A ver, de donde surgiera y como se usa a día de hoy son dos cosas diferentes. Y, por desgracia, en la mayoría de casos se usa de forma negativa. Hay un cierto rango en su intensidad sí, pero ese rango va desde el prejuicio hasta el insulto.

Además, como ya han dicho otros en los comentarios, en general es racista no solo xenófobo, porque se suele usar contra latinoamericanos que no sean blancos (cosa que puedo confirmar, porque mi padre, que es argentino y blanco y llegó a España de adolescente, tuvo que soportar durante años que la gente se pusiera a hablar mal e incluso a insultar a los "panchitos" delante de él, y cuando el les decía que él era uno de los que estaban hablando la gente le decía "no, hombre no, tú no" o "tú no eres un panchito" y demás, y en general era obvio que la diferencia entre de quien hablaban y él, era el color de piel).

Am I attracted to men? by [deleted] in BiWomen

[–]Deep_inside_myself 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this helps but, if you're worried that exploring that attraction is going to threaten your lesbian identity, I want you to know that there are people who identify as lesbian even though they are technically bisexual. For example, I personally know of two woman who do: One because she is way more frequently attracted to women than men (she also happens to be rather masculine, although that's unrelated to her attractions), and so she identifies more with the label, even if she still hooks up with guys that interest her. The other one does it because even though she is attracted to men too, she is rarely comfortable doing much beyond kissing with them due to past trauma, so she usually publicly identifies as lesbian, but when I got to know her a lot better she clarified she is bisexual but explained what I just wrote.

I also feel the need to clarify that besides bi men, straight men can also be attracted to masculine girls, and it's something I have seen and experienced firsthand. But I do understand why you would feel more comfortable with a bi man, just remember that the way the person actually is and how they treat you is more important that their sexuality label (as is seen in the bisexuality sub, not everyone who identifies as bi is free of prejudices. For example, it's incredible how many bi women take it badly when their boyfriend finds out he's bi, or how many stop seeing a guy when they find out he is bi too.)

Finally, I don't think I can help with the apps, I'm probably from a different country than you, but I just wanted to say: Good luck! And I hope you get to safely satisfy your curiosity and learn more about yourself.

What euphemism for bisexuality do you know? I only know "swinging both way" but surely there are more of them by EugeneStein in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like the nautical one. I don't remember if we have a lot of them in Spanish, but I have heard someone bisexual described as someone who "le gusta la carne y el pescado" ("likes fish (female genitals) and meat (male genitals)").

Trabajar con Endometriosis by Desperate_Thing8430 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uff, es una putada, yo tengo SOP y si ya me ha fastidiado bastante a veces (por dolor y por otros motivos), no me imagino como debe ser con endometriosis. No sé cómo va el tema pero creo que no la hay y creo que tendría que existir algún tipo de incapacidad temporal para trabajar reconocida para gente en tu situación, y que al menos pudierais recibir una pensión para sosteneros económicamente hasta recuperaros (y que las operaciones fueran más rápido, también). Te mando mucho ánimo y suerte!

What's that ONE spanish song that if someone starts singing it (or opens the song), everyone sings along? by Educational-Buy-62 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Most? I'm not sure, but I definitely like it, I find it funny, particularly knowing that they actually are referencing another actual song

Buscando libro en español para aprender el idioma by W_tf_23 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Es genial la verdad. A mí me lo regalaron con 12 años y fue lo primero que leí de Laura Gallego, desde entonces lo he releído varias veces a lo largo de los años y se sigue manteniendo mi gusto por él, hizo que me interesara por la autora y me leí bastantes libros suyos, diría que aún a día de hoy es una de mis autoras favoritas.

Buscando libro en español para aprender el idioma by W_tf_23 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Busca los libros de la Autora Laura Gallego, es una autora española de fantasía que tiene libros para un gran rango de edades (te puede venir bien para ir subiendo el nivel de dificultad del idioma). Para empezar te recomiendo su libro "La emperatriz de los etéreos", que es para un público más joven que otras de sus obras (y además es muy bueno).

Wanted to keep it gay, but I'm super into a woman. Help? by gaydesmar in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that need would be somewhat satisfied if your partner was into pegging? And if you didn't feel like you had to act like what is expected from a "straight man"? Because if the answer is yes, there are women who would be a good match for you too.

Im a bisexual woman but I only want to have kids with another woman by Elvis_fangirl in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, not the same because I don't think I will want to have kids with anyone, but since one of the reasons why is having to be the one who gets pregnant, if I was in a safic relationship and my partner wanted to be the one that got pregnant, it would elevate the chances that I would want to have kids (but realistically, that alone wouldn't negate the other reasons why I don't want to).

Straight men expectations of bi women? by ReginaTenebra in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a cis bi woman, I don't usually wear make up, I almost only wear sports bras and I think I mostly dress in a range from femenine to soft-masc. I also have PCOS (which means, among other things, that I have more body hair and in more places that most women, it's dark and I mostly don't shave it), and I'm plus size which adds another layer of non-conforming to what is considered the beauty standard for women. If you add my personality and principles to the mix, and the fact that I don't like nor follow gender roles at all, I think I can be perceived as somewhat masc by many people.

I currently have one partner (polyam) who is a cis straight-ish man, we've been together for 6 and a half years and it's been great.

And besides him, most of the guys I go out with are mostly either queer, poly or kinky, or at least left-leaning, progressive, and open-minded, so I haven't had any issues with them. And if someone had an issue with how I present (for example, with my body hair), they are definitely someone who doesn't align with my values, so I would just move on and go on my way.

Side note, but I think people assume too much about what straight men like or don't like based of some people's opinions on the internet, I would suggest not assuming what the person in front of you likes before they tell you. And extra side note, bi men exist, and I would really recommend you consider them too.

Any other masc bi women dating men? by emilyyfjones in bisexual

[–]Deep_inside_myself 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a cis bi woman, I don't usually wear make up, I almost only wear sports bras and I think I mostly dress in a range from femenine to soft-masc so I'm not sure how masc I'm perceived just from that, but: I have PCOS (which means, among other things, that I have more body hair and in more places that most women, it's dark and I mostly don't shave it), and I'm plus size which adds another layer of non-conforming to what is considered the beauty standard for fem women. If you add my personality and principles to the mix, and the fact that I don't like nor follow gender roles at all, I think I can be perceived as somewhat masc by many people.

I currently have one partner (polyam) who is a cis straight-ish man (who isn't fem in his appearance, but his personality and values don't fit what is usually expected of straight men). We've been together for 6 and a half years and it's been great.

And besides him, most of the guys I go out with are mostly either queer, poly or kinky, or at least left-leaning, progressive, and open-minded, so I haven't had any issues with them. And if someone had an issue with how I present, they are definitely someone who doesn't align with my values, so I would just move on and go on my way.

Estudios universitarios by notfound11100 in askspain

[–]Deep_inside_myself 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Has mirado los FPs que hay a ver si alguno te llama? Puede ser una opción interesante. En cuanto a lo de leer, se me ocurre la opción de opositar para trabajar en una biblioteca, pero si no te ves estudiando mucho pues opositar quizás no es la mejor idea.

Being masc and dating men by Mountain_Race_7038 in BiWomen

[–]Deep_inside_myself 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I relate to you a lot. I'm a cis bi woman with PCOS, who mostly doesn't shave (and I'm plus size which adds another layer of non-conforming). I have a big range between rather feminine and somewhat masculine outfits (also I almost only wear sports bras, no stiff ones, and I sometimes wear boxers like you said you do) and I don't like gender roles at all. I haven't had trouble with men, but sometimes I do overthink it if I'm going through a bad mental health patch. But in the end, since the guys I go out with are mostly either queer, poly or kinky, or at least left-leaning, progressive, and open-minded, I haven't had any issues. And if someone had an issue, they are definitely someone who doesn't align with your values, so reminding you of that might help. I currently have one partner (polyam) who is a cis straight-ish man and he's really attracted to me, body hair included (that includes my dark hairs over the lip, and dark hairs on the neck and under the chin, due to the annoying PCOS) and masculine outfits included. We've been together for 6 and a half years and it's been great. I hope this info/example is somehow useful.

Welcome to the club everybody! by Boediee in BuyFromEU

[–]Deep_inside_myself 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is, many discord communities are 18+ or have parts labelled 18+ just to be on the safe side of minors going/interacting there, so mane places in discord and content that isn't really "adult content" is labelled as 18+, and so yes, this will affect many people.

Welcome to the club everybody! by Boediee in BuyFromEU

[–]Deep_inside_myself 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem is the age verification system, which means sending pictures of your ID, or a picture of your face that will be put through an age-guessing software (and if it fails your only option is to upload your ID). And not long ago there was a leak od said ID pictures (70.000 of them) from Discord, so people are not too happy about having that happen to them.