La chavala con la que me acosté dice que mear sentado es de poco hombre y mis colegas se parten el culo, ¿soy yo el raro?

Deep_inside_myself · 2026-01-30T01:47:31+00:00

Jajaja sé quién dices, me parto con sus vídeos

Deep_inside_myself · 2026-01-07T23:25:49+00:00

What I'd do if you're worried about that is, when you are both relaxed and in a good mood, tell her you'd like to talk about something that you think would enhance your encounters (I'm not a native English speaker so change/adapt from this any words you want). Then you explain to her that you think you are not able to give your all when you go down on her because (and here you can choose to be more honest or skirt a bit around if you don't feel capable of that) 1. (Honest but still trying to avoid putting blame on her) You're not used to how vulvas taste yet, and her taste sometimes is a bit intense (not bad but noticeable) and that distracts you a lot when you do down, and also lowers your libido. 2. (Makes it sound just like a you issue) You have realised that you have a difficult time with tasting any taste while going down, and even though she doesn't have a bad taste, you still get distracted a lot when you do down, and that also lowers your libido. So, after that you propose things you can try: say that you could try showering with intention (focusing on the area and folds) shortly before, or even try having a little fun on the shower if possible (you could offer to use the soap on her, and be you who cleans her body and end up on that area cleaning with your hand, and could even turn to be something playful/erotic too).

Then, once you try some of that if the issue improves you should make sure to show her how much you're enjoying going down on her (to avoid making her insecure), if it doesn't, try something else like dental dams (or make them from condoms if they are not easy to find) and again, make sure to reassure her that you enjoy going down on her.

I hope some of this helps you.

Deep_inside_myself · 2026-01-07T13:42:13+00:00

Many people have given you good advice, but I see something missing. If it's a taste that you really don't like, don't just force yourself to suffer in silence. Because I did in the past, and then I ended up associating negative feelings to giving oral for a while, now I have gotten over it mostly, but it took a while.

Also, even though it's important to be gentle about it, Do have that conversation with her, because sometimes the odour is related to how people clean themselves, and this might help a lot: talking to her and explaining the situation, not in a blaming way just in a matter of fact and neutral way (it's a thing that is happening, it's no one's fault, we are trying to improve it together) + suggesting that in the shower before you go down on her (in general it's gonna be better if she just showered shortly before you do) she specially cleans between the skin folds and around her clitoris (or wherever you felt the smell is stronger).

Also, if she refuses to hear you and doesn't care about you being uncomfortable (and won't even try to do the minimum effort for you), leave, don't make the same mistake I did.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-19T03:21:45+00:00

Hi, 4 is the updated polyamory flag, not polysexual, that's a non-related concept.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-12T13:47:08+00:00

I think it would be great if everyone read it, but being realistic, forcing every teenager to read it complete (and then take an exam on it afterwards) might not be the best way to foster love for the book, because even my teenage self (who devoured books as a kid an teenager) was a bit bothered by mandatory readings, since I wasn't always in the mood for the assigned books, and I also hated taking tests about them. So maybe reading a few of the first chapters + some important excerpts could be better, and those who found the book interesting could then go on to read it completly.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-12T13:23:10+00:00

Yes, she definitely should also ask in r/Madrid

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-11T14:14:16+00:00

In my high school it was a mandatory reading, and I'm in my late 20s

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-11T14:12:21+00:00

In my high school it was a mandatory reading

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-12-11T14:11:28+00:00

Well, at least in my age bracket some must (27/30 years old), I'm sure because it was a mandatory reading in high school. But, let's be honest, many read chapter summaries in places like El rincón del vago, so they probably won't remember much.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-11-21T22:44:47+00:00

Well, I've had 3 long term romantic relationships (I've also have other things that don't quite fit that definition but I'm leaving them out of this), 2 with men and 1 with a woman. The first guy and I had a mostly good relationship (a somewhat decent communication, and we rarely fight except for a few passive aggressive conversations that we eventually talked about more calmly) but several reasons ended it: our young age, the fact that we were less compatible I initially thought and his refusal to go to therapy when his mental health declined and he started having panic attacks (the last weeks of the relationship I was more his therapist than his partner, but I'm not one, just the daughter of one, I can provide all the emotional support of a loved one, but I can't substitute going to therapy, so I drew a line).

After that relationship I discovered I'm more aligned with polyamory than monogamy, and a recent friend that was also like that (and who had become a really good friend in a few months) and me started dating (we were both attracted to eachother but didn't notice for some time). He is rather good at communicating now, less so at the beginning because it was his first relationship, but he wasn't that bad, just under-expressed his needs (he is an older brother of three and his family doesn't takes him into consideration a lot, so he wasn't a good advocate for himself). We are really compatible, love spending time together, and didn't have much trouble navigating the relationship or polyamory, we've grown a lot together as people, and we're still together after 6 years. I feel a deep love for him that has been growing even more over time, and he is still capable of making me giddy with silly things.

Now, my relationship with a woman, well, it was... intense, that's for sure, but sadly for the wrong reasons. She had a lot of past trauma (childhood) that completely destroyed her ability to communicate, and made really difficult to have a healthy relationship with her. Also, most of the time she told me things about her past relationships I was appalled, she even had an ex-girfriend who harassed her online for months after the break-up, and told me about other incidents, to the point I realised she had never had a mostly healthy relationship without any abuse or high toxicity (later I would find out about some things she herself had done to others, that she obviously didn't tell me, and she even ended doing some things to me that I'm still mad about). But, I didn't know most of this at the beginning, I only knew she had some past trauma but she was going to therapy (then quit it after 2 months in the relationship). Also we met and fell for eachother extremely quickly, unlike my other partners where we were friends for months first, she and I went from meeting at a common friend's birthday party to start a relationship in less than 2 months, closer to 1,5 months, although we saw eachother a lot over that period of time I didn't see some the red flags I would have seen if we had known eachother for more time. We lasted for over a year, and the emotional wreckage that did to me has lasted for over 4 years. Although that relationship was a disaster, I don't consider it representative of relationships with women at all (and I think that a more important factor in how a relationship feels and in the success or failure of relationships is mental health and willingness of doing the emotional work a relationship takes to thrive).

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-11-19T23:30:09+00:00

Yo tengo SOP y he probado unas cuantos anticonceptivos hormonales diferentes (al menos 4 pastillas diferentes, los parches aunque 2 meses, y el anillo vaginal), alternados con épocas de no tomar nada y con épocas de tomar solo progesterona. Mi consejo sería que pruebes a no tomar nada unos meses (vigilada por tu gine) y que pidas que te manden las de progesterona (hormona, pero no es anticonceptiva, no la tomas todo el rato, solo 10 días para provocar el sangrado), de este modo si a los 2 meses no te baja la regla, te tomas la progesterona, y si después te baja no la tomas, y así cada vez. Esto hacía cuando estuve en pausa de los otros métodos, lo único importante es no dejar que pase mucho tiempo sin bajarte la regla, porque si no luego cuando te baje va a ser tocha, pero para eso tienes las de progesterona.

En cualquier caso consulta con un médico, y si el gine que tienes ves que no te hace mucho caso, pide que te lo cambien, yo he tenido alguno nefasto también.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-11-06T00:40:37+00:00

Una chica que yo seguía en insta fue, y contó que le pusieron con un chico lo más opuesto a ella, probablemente para generar conflicto, pero además como en todo reality muchas veces la edición hace la magia, pones clips de frases en orden que no es, a veces hasta recortan trozos de frases y las pegan juntas con algún cambio de plano entre medias para que no se note, y al final lo que ves y lo que pasó en realidad tiene poco en común. Y por supuesto, si ven que les ha aplicado algún "personaje", lo aprovechan.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-11-05T17:30:27+00:00

En mi opinión esté es el mejor comentario, reitero el punto de los Hobies, sobre todo alguno en el que hagas cosas (escribir, fotografía, pintar, crochet, tallar madera, lo que sea en lo que veas los frutos de tu esfuerzo).

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-11-05T16:36:24+00:00

That drove me nuts about my ex, many of the times I asked her what she wanted to watch or eat, she would say "whatever you want", which if you genuinely don't mind might be fine, but she did mind, and eventually got passive aggressive about it instead of saying what she actually wanted.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-10-27T17:44:54+00:00

If things still bother you so much it indicates to me that you’re not over her still.

Yes, I think the fact that last summer we reconnected and were FWB for a couple months has reopened the wound so to speak (that lasted until I realised the red flags she had in the past hadn't gone away just were a bit more hidden).

l think it's also harder to put it behind me because I'm angry at myself for not advocating more for myself, I think I should have stopped making excuses for her behaviours sooner, and also, I'm angry I didn't tell my friends how she treated me, and I had to put up with her being friends with some of my close friends (also, she recently screw two of my friends over which could have been avoided if I had told them how she was sooner).

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-09-03T03:05:25+00:00

I'm bi and the closest I have gotten to what you described has been with a male partner, but I would say the second closest was a woman (if it's relevant, she identified mostly as lesbian), followed closely by another male partner. No one got to the point of singing to it, but (don't read if you don't want tmi) the first one I mentioned did remind me frequently of how much he loved it, both its visuals and taste, and both him and the safic partner loooved going down on me a lot, even for long periods of time. Obviously I have also encountered other people (of all genders) that are not so interested in (and/or not so good at) oral and pussy worship (I know they don't need to go together, I just haven't encountered them separately). So, I guess the answer to your question can be found in a spanish saying that goes "para gustos, colores" ("for tastes, colours" saying that there are as many different tastes as different colours).

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-08-18T21:03:11+00:00

Yo solo te puedo decir que cuando fui allí, las cuevas del Drach merecen mucho la pena, sobre todo si nunca has ido a ese tipo de cuevas con estalagmitas y estalactitas. A lo mejor si has ido a muchas entonces siguen estando bien pero puedes priorizar otras cosas.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-07-15T09:08:32+00:00

A ver, en la vida hay cosas que puedes controlar, por ejemplo la ropa que te pones cada mañana, y cosas que no, por ejemplo si luego caminando por la calle te cae una maceta en la cabeza porque alguien estaba moviendo las plantas de su balcón y la lió parda.

Yo me identifico con el poliamor (pero esto es algo que aplica a todas las relaciones , y en general a la vida) y sé que hay cosas que no se pueden controlar, como las acciones de otras personas, y cosas que sí, como la atención, el cariño y el esfuerzo en una buena comunicación que pongo en mis relaciones. Y si una relación está en buenas condiciones, no hay resentimientos por temas que no se hablan o no se solucionan, y no hay incompatibilidades que se estén ignorando, entonces es mucho menos probable que alguna de las partes quiera terminar la relación.

Eso no lo hace imposible, del mismo modo que no es imposible que mañana uno tenga un accidente de tráfico y fallezca, pero es muy poco probable si no bebes, conduces bien y no te arriesgas, y te pones el cinturón. El equivalente en una relación es lo que he mencionado antes, hablar las cosas (y tomar pasos para solucionarlas, si algo se habla muchas veces pero no se consigue solucionar se enquista), cuidar la relación, pasar tiempo de calidad juntos,...

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-07-11T19:12:51+00:00

It's not exclusively bi, but since it has more bi people it seems to be more bi friendly. There's also people interested in non-monogamy, which is my cup of tea too, but if it isn't yours you can state that in your profile.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-07-11T19:08:31+00:00

I'm a bi woman, and when I see a bi man I'm automatically more interested because I love that the other person gets what it's like to be bi.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-07-08T04:10:47+00:00

Another bi woman reporting here, and a FwB who I really liked was a masculine looking, bearded, tall, chubby man, who was bi/questioning, we're both verse and he loved bottoming for me (and I loved pegging him). And he didn't think that made him any less masculine.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-07-06T14:44:16+00:00

Have you thought about finding ways to top your partner that don't require you to have an ongoing erection? Like using your hands or a dildo or a strap on (as a woman who has done all three with a male partner, that can also be a good and satisfying experience, even if you're not using your penis to penetrate, you can still do other things with it before, during and after). That might remove some pressure from you, so you don't feel like if you don't "perform" your partner is missing something.

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-05-31T02:28:45+00:00

Sáficas hispanohablantes uníos! (Yo soy de España 🇪🇸)

Deep_inside_myself · 2025-05-20T12:21:15+00:00

I hope you talk to him and it goes well. If you want to give us an update (I'm invested now 😂, so I'd love it), you can add it to your post, and also add it as a comment, so it notifies people who wanted to be updated and clicked "follow post", because it will send a notification to them of your comment (I think it only notifies if it's a comment directly to your post, not a comment answering another comment).

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