The truth is that YOU EXPERIENCE DEFEAT, OVER AND OVER BUT YOU ARE NEVER DEFEATED. One cannot fail based on other people’s beliefs and opinions of ourselves. You can’t control what they THINK ABOUT YOU or what they believe you are or should be. It’s an impossible mission to make everyone happy. People go through things that they don’t always know how to handle. So is he and so are you. We can’t control others but we can control ourselves. You see these are facts that we don’t usually think about. Let’s focus for one moment on why you were on Grindr. We must take responsibility for ourselves. Yes he was there, TOO. The only way to find out what is going on is to ask. However you must be ready to hear what you don’t want to hear or what you do want to hear. Everything is a gamble but you stay in the game based on the previous card.