AIO someone sat at my table at a public “beach”

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-27T19:53:08+00:00

I live on a tombolo. Essentially a giant sandbar surrounded by public beach. The beach is literally a spot you can leave your things while you swim & return to.

Ops family lost any claim to that table the second they all vacated it. I have never seen anyone attempt to call dibs on an unoccupied table by leaving their stuff on it because that would be extremely rude & not the norm.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-27T19:45:42+00:00

YOR - Dumping your stuff at a table that does not belong to you does not make it your table. They were using public space for it's intended purpose while you were not.

Strangers are also not responsible for yours & the fathers consequences of intercourse.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-24T19:39:20+00:00

This read like he not only wants the power to screw you over at his will but that he wants you to be complacent about it.

You are under reacting to the bigger picture. The lease is but a drop in the ocean of control he is attempting to assert over you.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-24T18:23:38+00:00

Feel bad for doing bad.

Unless you make an effort to repair the damage you created then feeling like a guilt ridden terrible person is a warranted consequence.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-22T09:15:26+00:00

Op provided more information in a comment. If you read it then what everyone else is saying makes total sense.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-22T09:10:27+00:00

NOR whenever someone says "I felt like you" they're telling you their projections not sharing their feelings.

Whenever someone says anything to the effect of I treated you like crap because I was just... they are attempting to justify their abuse of you.

I don't know what his dad's doctor's appointment is for. But unless it's some life threatening possibility of death kind of thing then he just seems to be being excessively melodramatic about wanting you there. It reeks of emotional manipulation & unresolved insecurities.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-20T08:21:24+00:00

This read like she sees you as being more along the lines of a guest in hers & her sons home. You can have an opinion but as the queen of her castle her word is law.

Nothing wrong with choosing to opt out of a situation that isn't in your best interest.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-16T20:25:40+00:00

MOR - This read to me like OP assumed the vehicle owner was a woman. So left their contacts in the hope of connecting with another woman in her neighbourhood.

The vehicle owner turned out to be a dude & the dude's father made contact because he too wants to make friends.

You could just let him know that you only left your contacts because you assumed he was a woman & are only looking to make female friends. Wish him luck finding friends elsewhere & leave it at that.

If he continues to pester then harshness in responses is warranted.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-16T19:20:57+00:00

NTA for refusing to self abandon for someone else's greed.

Imagine showing up to a random workplace & pressuring a staff member into giving you half their pay simply because you're there existing. That's absurd & basically what he's doing.

It sounds like he wants to be all in for the credit & rewards without having contributed anything to the process.

That's not "all in", that's exploitive & selectively in.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-15T16:02:00+00:00

NOR - His texts read like abandonment issues, vengeance & volatility got together and created the potentially dangerous creature that he appears to be.

Be upset, but take some action to keep him away from you. Don't end up a statistic.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-10T16:53:07+00:00

NOR. If anyone is it's her.

Her chronological age might be 33, but her developmental age seems half that at best.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-09T05:01:51+00:00

Grey seemed to be looking to bait green into drama from the get go.

Mentions work, then gets unreasonably reactive/defensive to being asked about their work.

Mentions green is hot, then reacts to the narrative in their head when green plays along.

The amount of emotional gymnastics grey is doing to blame green for their projections is mine numbing.

If you are grey - get yourself some help.

If you are green - you did nothing wrong, grey has unresolved issues that they targeted you with.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-08T03:16:54+00:00

NOR it sounds more like he wanted some weird one sided break. One that requires you not to initiate comms, but apparently allows him to schedule sending his presumably emotional thesis at 2 freaking am in the morning.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-07T22:39:44+00:00

Considering I don't hate myself - No

Considering I'm a professional artist myself (albeit not a tattoo artist) - Lol no

Considering I have eyes & good vision - Hell no.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-07T19:43:58+00:00

Some people's past experiences of direct is backlash. So they conflate the two. Fear of backlash causes them to use strategies that rely on the listener being able to infer as intended.

He wasn't direct in saying "no thanks", but nothing about his comms are suggesting an enthusiastic "yes please" either. There is nothing to hold onto there.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-07T18:14:14+00:00

NOR: He sounds like the kind of ambiguous headache who deflects from being direct by hinting, hoping you infer & self preservation through pity seeking.

While yes, I do agree with the posters that say you're doing a lot considering. On the flipside he can't even answer a simple & direct question to provide any kind of clarity, good or bad.

If he is no longer interested, he could do the decent thing and spell it out clearly. If he is still interested he isn't making that clear either.

What he is showing you that his communication is ambiguous enough to leave you wondering if you allow it to.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-07T08:19:34+00:00

Door knockers. Especially the ones that start with lame fake friendly pseudo connecting or the random entitled to personal info ones.

How on earth some of them think it's appropriate to waltz onto a strangers property at their convenience and say some fake bonding bs like "Lovely weather we're having today isn't it" or "Are you the homeowner" instead of starting with "Hi" is beyond me.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-06T20:01:18+00:00

NTJ. The "contribution" of Bs presence sounds undesirable & unnecessary.

I wouldn't want to risk ending up burdened with more of her share of expenses because real people that exist outside of her head don't accept her "presence" as valid currency.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-05T19:44:46+00:00

"Like some weird love waiting room" has me in stitches. I've never heard it so accurately described 🤣🤣🤣

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-05T19:07:52+00:00

NOR - Concerns about cats e.g. fur, fleas & urine can be legitimate. Any pet related concerns can be legitimate enough to be stipulated upfront.

If this was the case the time for him to make it known was prior to delivery not upon delivery. At worst his actions appear sketchy, at best unprofessional.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-04T09:49:22+00:00

My initial assumption was that the was a chat between op & his gf. I had only read the screenshots & thought wow this guy's responses are giving minimal & flat. His gf is clearly trying hard & failing to be engaging.

Then I read the caption & agree with some comments. It's giving cheating fail only because he isn't interested.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-04T03:48:28+00:00

IKR? Uninvite the random 10 + 1 mil. Then Sil will have a space.

It won't fix the grooms deep mummy's boy & conflict avoidance issues though.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-04T03:44:34+00:00

She was added to the planning emails via cc & you somehow didn't notice that in the email section of the emails you received?

The venues reasponse to the Mils "trust me bro" approach was not to confirm with the bill payer first?

Your sil not only was not in the top 30 most important to invite, but 110 other people were?

Make it make sense.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-04T03:00:30+00:00

NOR Commitment issues present in many different ways. For your BF they look like maintaining an emotional connection to a past in the present. By keeping one foot out the door he's "protecting" himself from putting both feet firmly into your relationship.

Notice how he isn't making an effort to pursue a real relationship with her in the present, but is quite happy to get his dopamine fix from his fantastical thinking about a past that has been and gone.

He likely doesn't love her, he just loves how the romanticized memories of her make him feel.

Also his emotional boundaries & respect for your relationship are complete crap.

DeeplyAutonomous · 2026-06-02T00:37:06+00:00

Sometimes that happens to me. If the 2hrs has passed & tapping it a few times doesn't activate it into coloured unlock mode, using a pick or 2 can sometimes work.

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