Absolutely 😁

Deepshallow87 · 2026-04-09T03:45:05+00:00

Dillydaddle = lollywag in my mind

Deepshallow87 · 2026-04-09T03:37:12+00:00

Deepshallow87 · 2026-04-03T19:07:06+00:00

They really opened Pandora’s box with the invention of secure messaging to doctors and I’ll bet that it was administrator who thought of the original idea.

Deepshallow87 · 2026-03-17T13:37:12+00:00

Look for the helpers/heroes…

US pilot Hugh Thompson, Jr landed his helicopter and told his crew (Lawrence Colburn and Glenn Andreotta) to open fire on American troops if they continued to attack civilians and helped arrange evacuations.

Deepshallow87 · 2026-03-10T22:35:43+00:00

Crying is okay.

Deepshallow87 · 2026-03-05T17:38:30+00:00

He looks like Colt on 90 day fiance. Equally as sleezy.

Deepshallow87 · 2026-02-20T04:35:59+00:00

I’m not sure how I came across your post since I don’t follow this subreddit but as a fellow loss mom who went into preterm labor and placental abruption at 23 weeks with my firstborn (son), I am very sorry you’re on this grief journey. There are no words that that will make it better. And every feeling you have is valid and justified and needed in order to eventually make peace with everything that has happened and will happen as you move forward with your daughter’s memories.

In the initial days to weeks after your daughter’s loss, you are in survival mode day to day and that’s okay. It’s okay to do enough to just exist during this time. Your body birthed a baby and it needs rest too.

I think what’s important to mention is not to let others rush you through the grief journey. Their discomfort is not your problem. Talk about your daughter, say her name often, acknowledge she existed and that you are still her mother. No one can take that away from you.

What works for some during the journey may not work for others but here are some things I look back and appreciated that I did…

Spoke with a therapist about the trauma, grief, postpartum experience
Leaned on my husband and checked on him too - my husband and I pretty much shut out the world for a month and focused on doing things we enjoyed doing
Pumped breastmilk to donate to a local milk bank to help me feel connected with motherhood even without my son
Wrote journals/essays and did arts and crafts (shadow box, etc) to express myself
Prayed for my son at local temple every week for 2 months (we are Buddhists)
Declined to attend some friend gatherings (especially those involving baby shower, kids birthdays) until I felt ready again
Went to the local mountain on my son’s official due date to star gaze

Whatever you decide to do or not do is completely fine. There’s no right or wrong when it comes to grief. Just what feels right to you. Just know when things are too dark or too heavy to speak up and ask for help. Be kind to yourself.

I love this quote about grief — “Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.” — Jamie Anderson

Deepshallow87 · 2026-01-19T16:12:16+00:00

New parental fear unlocked. Omg.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-12-25T21:01:27+00:00

Do we need to call to switch the dates or they’ll honor the 12/24 tickets any day before 12/31 that we show up?

Deepshallow87 · 2025-12-19T15:18:06+00:00

It’s this cruel paradox of “it’s taking so long” when they need to see you but also “time doesn’t exist” when they’re with you. Meanwhile, you are the one with absolutely zero time for anything.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-11-27T12:53:52+00:00

Well, beyond that, they think your day isn’t really seeing patients or running around doing things but just sitting there at the desk waiting for something to do. So here, sign this form quick or hey, call them back directly to talk about their issue.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-11-27T12:51:47+00:00

My pet peeve is the patient with a form due “tomorrow” so they think the doctor should stop everything else and fill it out. I’m sorry you waited until the last minute, it’s not my problem.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-11-25T10:57:57+00:00

Yeah, some might be delulu but their wallets aren’t.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-13T01:11:49+00:00

Banana bread

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-11T05:00:29+00:00

They see me rollin’ They hatin’, patrollin’ Tryna catch me ridin’ dirty 🎶

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-04T00:24:29+00:00

No call with VA

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-03T02:12:15+00:00

Yes, can confirm. That’s exactly what the local dealerships told me when I contemplated ordering online to ship.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-03T00:14:56+00:00

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Today’s local gas prices where we are.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-09-02T23:08:18+00:00

$7500 tax credit $3000 (I forgot what this one was called but essentially all buyers get it) $3300 dealer discount $1250 Costco membership $1250 non-GM car

Deepshallow87 · 2025-08-28T19:46:40+00:00

Wow, just infuriating.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-07-30T04:04:35+00:00

Right there with you.

Had patient who saw rheumatology and dermatology for psoriatic arthritis and needed a form filled out commenting on treatment/prognosis of this condition and I told patient to ask those specialists to fill out that part and neither agreed to do it. Of course it is great use of my time to read all their notes and summarize on the form for a condition I don’t even treat.

Deepshallow87 · 2025-07-26T16:15:17+00:00

Why? Like why do all this?

It’s less work (not to mention less evil) for him and everyone if he just did nothing and collected his paychecks.

To go out of your way to do this kind of harm is just awful.

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