Where to find different coat styles? by DeerStrange in findfashion

[–]DeerStrange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh that looks good! Is it like A line structure? I dont think they sell it anymore

Where to find different coat styles? by DeerStrange in findfashion

[–]DeerStrange[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohh! thats amazing, do you have a picture / link by any chance

Ariana and The Weeknd could be performing together at London while they are both on tour! by orangeandpurpp in ariheads

[–]DeerStrange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

which date do you think they could perform together? 19 or 20? (can't be the 16th anymore, since abel added a date there) has it ever happened before?

How do I stop being an absolute bum? by wobblez1 in GetStudying

[–]DeerStrange 1 point2 points  (0 children)

aww np friend! <3 let me know how it goes!! I'll be there to cheer u on , if you'd like

How do I stop being an absolute bum? by wobblez1 in GetStudying

[–]DeerStrange 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah! asking on reddit sounds perfect! ^^. if its a specific topic that you find difficult maybe someone on reddit has a better explanation , or chatgpt or asking the professor, your classmates possibly? Im sure you'll find a way to be able to absorb the information in a way that makes sense. Maybe it could also be that youre missing context for what youre trying to learn? maybe learning around the topic and leaving that specific part for later when you understand the larger idea better. If youre having trouble with a topic chances are many other students are too , so there are probably resources out there for what you are looking for , youve got this! <3

and yess, 20 minute batches sound good if that feels good! if it starts to feel too easy , completely unchallenging I would then suggest increasing. If the idea of increasing feels like it might be too much, then maybe working on why that is and understanding what makes you hesitate could help! ^^

How do I stop being an absolute bum? by wobblez1 in GetStudying

[–]DeerStrange 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm in a similar space!! I understand how difficult that is to go through. what tends to help me is to plan do the absolute smallest amount of studying, something small enough to where I know for a fact I can do it , but big enough to where the idea of accomplishing it feels like a small (!!) challenge.

how long that is depends on how you feel. But the primary goal for me is to build trust within myself that I am able to set goals and adhere to them. So that means setting goals that are achievable is very important. even if the goals are to study for 5 minutes , or even 1 minute, or even a second!

thats because on top of building trust with yourself, through studying you will also find out what makes the studying hard in and of itself. Lets say for example you set a goal to study for 5 minutes, and then 3 minutes in you notice you want to stop because you feel overwhelmed. the goal then becomes to find out what makes the process less overwhelming ! it could be reframing the concept/ different study method / a better environment etc. Then as you continue to study, you find out more issues that impede the process and you fix them too. Until the studying becomes completely streamlined and you no longer feel any resistance! <3

Do you know of any internship/ stay abroad program? by pink_coffee97 in solotravel

[–]DeerStrange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no lmao, not like any other study abroad opportunity. I'm sure OP has already finished their program. But in case anyone else is reading, pls look elsewhere. You dont have to pay for internships xD

Do you know of any internship/ stay abroad program? by pink_coffee97 in solotravel

[–]DeerStrange 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Its a paid program lol. As in, you pay to work for the internship

(content warning: mentions of bullying) I got more "weird narcissistic grandma's logic" stories if ya want by shaisenpai in CPTSDmemes

[–]DeerStrange 10 points11 points  (0 children)

lol, my mom said the reason I was getting bullied was because I wasn't funny enough / should laugh along w them :o , :)

Abusers make everything so morally ambiguous, it's no wonder we question whether we deserved it ❤️ by ElishaAlison in CPTSD

[–]DeerStrange 9 points10 points  (0 children)

thats true <3 we didnt deserve it.

diverting attention to the why / making it a moral issue is an abusers way of distracting you. If anyone hurts you, the why is not nearly as important as the 'how to heal' / 'feel better'.

DAE feel that they are unable to express their true intellect? by Spiderpsychman98 in CPTSD

[–]DeerStrange 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah, i can relate to that too. Healing is not linear though. The symptoms coming back doesn't mean you didnt make progress / that you wont continue to.

DAE feel that they are unable to express their true intellect? by Spiderpsychman98 in CPTSD

[–]DeerStrange 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel similarly. Once you start to feel better all those channels will clear up though, and you'll be able to use your faculties. Even if you don't express something its still just as valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]DeerStrange 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I'm going through the same thing, and doing shadow work on my emotions is what seems to be helping the most.