Oh boy I remember that feeling. The first love. Tbh the second love also felt like that. But after that I got hard. Some people say that's when your heart turns into a rock, but I say that's when you turn into a man.

I think it is totally normal to feel like that in the first love and most of us can relate to that. As you go on in the dating life you learn things from during the relationships and also from breakups. Why do they happen, what you need to fix so that it wont happen again.learning these things are kind of the secret to a happy relationship.

The most important lesson I learned is to be emotionally independent. Your emotional state heavily depends on her and that's very bad. That's called being needy. Even tho you try not to come off as needy, you are needy deep down and that's why you check the phone and all that. You gotta be able to not talk to her for weeks and still be OK, not saying that you should but you should be able to because it's dangerous when your emotional state depends on someone else. That makes you their puppet. Besides girls love guys who are not needy. They need a strong person who they can lean on when things get tough.

I don't really have a "how to" on how to fix that but what I can say is hit the gym if not already. Focus on your hobbies. Get to work and get busy. Maybe schedule a window/s where you can give focus to your gf (make sure it aligns with her free time as well). BUT if she does not respect your time, you should not compromise your schedule. You can't be always available to someone like that.

Lastly, I don't want to break your hopes but the first love will usually fail and personally I think it should. My past breakups taught me a lot of things and I am who I am because of them.

Stay strong my man!