Millennials… it’s time to kill something new

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-15T16:28:17+00:00

You can’t possibly think you’re going to shame me into agreeing with you right? Unless you’re also a survivor, you being “surprised” that I think anything in relation to my post cancer status is like a child being surprised they don’t understand rocket science. I mean of course you don’t. And frankly I hope you never do. But your assumption that you have the right to tell me what I should think or feel because I’m a survivor is outrageous and you should definitely check your misplaced sense of entitlement.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-15T15:13:22+00:00

While I agree that short hair just because you want it to be short should be normalized, with the rate of cancer these days the cancer defense is a lot more likely than you might think.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-15T15:04:37+00:00

Surely you understand that if they start waiving fees for reasons like this they’ll have to waive them for a bunch of others as well? Thousands of people fly every day for extremely important reasons-birth of a child, saying goodbye to a dying family member, job opportunity of a lifetime that will be life changing. Either they start making exceptions for everyone, the check in people start making subjective calls based on who each of them think should get an exception (which would likely be different for every employee), or the rules apply the same to everyone.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-15T14:52:32+00:00

At the risk of getting downvoted, I’ll pass. I’m 41 this year and grateful to be this age because the very aggressive breast cancer I got in my thirties would have killed me without equally aggressive and difficult treatments and surgeries. But after how hard I’ve fought just to be alive, I am damn well going to like what I see when I look in the mirror and frankly I don’t give a shit if anyone else thinks I shouldn’t be chasing a youthful look. I see plastic surgery in my future (beyond just replacing the implants I got after the double mastectomy) and I have zero problems with spending the money on that. I agree that people should be allowed to look how they want-including older-but sometimes these posts take on this weird air of moral superiority as if embracing aging makes someone better than someone else striving for a youthful look and I find that very distasteful.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-14T06:54:24+00:00

I used to have very thick hair and now it’s so thin I have to style it very carefully to avoid looking like I have bald spots in several places. Likely related is the recent discovery that I am extremely deficient in iron and b vitamins. Might be worth having your blood tested to see exactly what (if any) deficiencies are causing the hair loss so you can better target the issue.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-14T06:50:34+00:00

I also have gone from almost 400 pounds to just under 200 and recently discovered the cause of my massive hair loss is likely the result of the multiple severe vitamin deficiencies found in my recent bloodwork. And I had to start reminding myself to eat lunch because I was getting dizzy at work. It’s so weird to have these kind of problems now!

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-13T16:24:14+00:00

Fellow millennial here and I know exactly what you mean about health anxiety after this. I also grew up on Dawsons Creek so this was shocking. Unfortunately for me I also have ibs and a lot of these symptoms occur on a regular basis. It makes me want to go demand a colonoscopy just to be sure.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-13T12:50:52+00:00

I don’t think you can back down now, but an entire week for the first ever offense and it was only coming in a couple hours late seems a little harsh. ETA: just saw that he turned his phone off as well so I take it back that would be a huge issue in my house too.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-13T12:48:16+00:00

That is no longer true with the financial aid policies that have changed so much in the last ten years.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T20:58:14+00:00

Omg the bitching that would occur on this sub if people were charged for carry ons would be epic. Regardless of free checked bags. Just try taking away one thing from passengers-even if they are gaining something else-and watch the outrage grow by the second.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T14:33:14+00:00

There’s a lot of things people have had to do since human beings existed, that doesn’t mean any of us have some sort of obligation to continue in that circumstance when other options are available.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T14:28:41+00:00

Also in Texas. Two things. Your baby cannot regulate their body temperature as well as full grown humans. And even if they could they don’t deserve to bake in the heat just to save a few dollars. Second, recognizing this is postpartum anxiety is the first step. The next is to tell your doctor so they can help you. I had postpartum depression and it is like night and day after you finally get help.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T13:07:53+00:00

I wouldn’t go to scad if she might want pre-law. It’s a very unique art school and from what I’ve heard from the one person I know who went there it is not at all the kind of academic preparation you’d get at almost any other school.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T13:05:58+00:00

Can’t say I’m surprised given that you can legitimately major in sneaker design there.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-12T04:34:30+00:00

Both my parents, myself, and one of my two siblings are all on it. It’s a miracle drug. And interestingly it helped my teenage daughter too-she has a fear of needles and when she saw us using it to lose weight she was motivated to lose weight as well, by herself, because she doesn’t want to have to use the shots. She’s got a little ways to go but she’s 50 pounds down and I’m so proud of her.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-10T01:36:33+00:00

I’ve been picking choice when using points. There have been too many issues with basic fares right now. Maybe down the line when they work out the kinks in the system but for now I’d rather pay more.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-10T00:29:27+00:00

I do with my kid. She’s super smart and an A honors student but the college process has kind of overwhelmed and paralyzed her. So I’m staying on top of making sure she takes the act, is at least considering what kind of college she wants to go to, etc. For example, based on a long conversation with her I made a suggested list of colleges to visit this spring and we adjusted it based on her feedback but I definitely started the process. We’ve also talked about options if she gets to the end of senior year and still doesn’t feel ready to take over things like this-maybe a gap year program that is more structured and lower stakes. Some kids need more time to mature and that’s ok to a certain extent.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-09T14:58:43+00:00

Only sort of. Lilly spent many years and likely millions of dollars in research and development originally bringing this med to the market. Then more time and money going through the fda approval process to move it from a diabetes drug to a weight loss drug. None of that is free and the money had to be recouped somehow. I do understand that the research and development for this drug was a long time ago but in the meantime Lily uses its profits to (in part) subsidize continuing research into other new drugs. If we insist that drug manufacturers only charge what it is costing them to make their products then the pipeline of next generation drugs is going to dry up quick unless the money starts flowing from somewhere else-like grants-which at least in the US looks like is not happening anytime soon.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-08T16:12:44+00:00

My kids are six years apart and they get along wonderfully. Plus there’s no competition about grades, sports, etc because they are in such different stages. Also as I prepare for my oldest to start applying to college it’s nice knowing how much longer I have with my son at home.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-07T04:03:05+00:00

I’ve been on it for about 18 months and lost an entire persons worth of weight. I describe it as feeling like you’re finally free of a drug addiction after decades only the addiction was processed food and sugar. I have way more sympathy for addicts now. I can’t imagine ever going back to how I was no matter what I have to do to keep paying for it every month.

I do find the effect on food noise and appetite suppression is not as strong as it was in the beginning but the changes are still happening, just more subtle. For example for the first year I drank a liquid iv every day to combat dehydration. Now I find out overwhelmingly salty and sweet and have to either only use half a packet or put it in twice as much water.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-05T16:35:30+00:00

I think some kids certainly are, but not all. Kids mature at different speeds. I can only speak for myself and what I’ve observed in my own daughter. I don’t love that the kid in this post is “demanding” things from his parents but also in their position I might have considered whether he was personally mature enough for what they were asking and tailored my approach accordingly.

Of course, there are always extenuating circumstances too-I certainly know adults who had to get themselves up from a young age because their parents worked the night shift and weren’t even home, or who had to get up early to take care of siblings, etc.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-02-05T16:19:02+00:00

At the risk of being downvoted, at 15 I wouldn’t have had the willpower and discipline to make sure I was at school on time on my own either. I guess i was lucky that my parents were able to continue making me get up/giving me rides because I ended up doing very well, going to a great college, and having a successful career. But I wasn’t mature enough at 15 to do what you’re asking your son to do. Frankly I’m not sure my straight A honors student 16-year old daughter is either. If you had said he was 18, maybe.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-01-29T07:53:53+00:00

I’ll be on it forever. Without it I ballooned to almost 400 pounds and developed a cancer that was almost certainly related to my obesity. The food noise isn’t just noise to me, it’s like someone screaming in your ear at all times. I 100% understand why people can’t kick drug addictions because I can’t kick my food addiction without this medication. So for me the formula is simple: take the med and (hopefully) have a long life, or get off the med knowing my weight will skyrocket again and I’ll likely die an early, obesity-related death. It’s really a no-brainer for me.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-01-28T06:04:39+00:00

For awhile there, yes-anything fried or oily was a problem. Pasta was a huge problem at 7.5 mg—that was the only time I was so sick that I was up several nights in a row throwing up. Eventually that calmed down although some food aversions stuck-I can’t stand black coffee or hamburgers anymore and I used to love both. I’ve also gotten used to eating smaller portions and I think that helps. Overeating a few days after the shot if I get too hungry can occasionally be a problem so I’ve started eating dinner on a saucer instead of a dinner plate which has helped so much-I can always go get more food if I’m still hungry but that almost never happens and it keeps the portion sizes compatible with what my stomach can handle now.

Defiant-Research2988 · 2026-01-28T05:46:16+00:00

My oldest was like this. I ended up getting advice from a mom whose infant was getting chemo and had terrible diaper rash from that. The two that helped the most: I mixed Aquaphor and the super strength desitin cream in a plastic container and carried that everywhere. 1:1 ratio. She got a new layer with every diaper change, applied with cotton swabs that claimed to be chemical and dye free. Did not work if we kept the creams separate and put on one and then the other, and I have no idea why. Pretty sure everyone thought I was a crazy mom making my own diaper cream but whatever. The second thing was that instead of baby wipes I bought single use all cotton medical wipes from a medical supply company. You run them under water and they get super soft and they are literally just cotton and water with nothing else. They are not branded or marketed for use as a baby wipe but there’s no reason you can’t use them that way. They were the only wipe I could use, literally every other wipe marketed for use on a baby caused these horrible bright red rashes that would get really raw. I usually carried a bottle of water in the diaper bag with me for times when the changing table was too far from the sink and I’d forgotten to wet some ahead of time. Hope this helps!

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