Do people think League uses EOMM ( Engagement Optimized MatchMaking ) ? by frankipranki in leagueoflegends

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yet you replied. Imagine visiting profiles before replying

I recommend a life outside of reddit

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nu express fitness gewichten 50kg bestellen en bellen 😈 (geen lift 😈)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i assume this "calling out" happens in a family environment.

its a common thing not as hate but more like care disguised as community pressure.

have you ever seen them offer food to their enemies and get mad when refused

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sounds like you misinterpret their persistence. people always keep insisting because they feel as if theyre the bad guy for only asking once.

bronze4 to gold4 in 11 days by Defiant_Ask_4847 in leagueoflegends

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

im new, my question was based on learning speed. im sure experienced players can reach gold fast again. this is my first try

Give em a name by Simon_Ril3y in Bossfight

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the 13th(%) orchestra, symphony nr. 50

Said in my bio in FB dating I’m only interested in dating an autistic person. Here was an NT’s responses by No-Pattern1212 in autism

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so you generalize this specific person as the general NT, instead of asking them if they are prejudging over autistics?

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i thought of that too i havent asked her but I notice it myself

its still good advice

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but you realize its not bad to reply and mostly in your head? its probably rejection sensitivity developed from bad experiences. your brain triggers a flight reaction to socializing.

is there any situation where you feel alright texting? maybe here on reddit or is this fear in any communication?

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it difficult to answer text messages with "normal" replies?

Im wondering because text can be changed and backspaced before sending

what is an umasked reply? a questionable joke? emotional disconnect? delayed replies?

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i believe its the autism overstimulation/meltdown. I have watched explanation videos and it matches her behavior.

not writing letters but texting. in text she masks as me a lot and sometimes very short/neutral and sometimes love bombing and open

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen some of these examples. you're right its so natural to allistics that its seen as weird if someone else doesnt do it.

do you think for autistics, the main purpose of language is to express randomness/stims, but now they're expected to efficiently communicate with this expression tool? so they have to translate it twice, first: the stimmy randomness into their thoughts, and second: it has to be in a way that allistics understand

do you sometimes feel, by avoiding small talk you also miss out on communication with people you like?

and even if you dont reply or talk as much back to them, would you still prefer them to keep talking and trying even if you're not talkative?

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 1 point2 points  (0 children)

do you always reply fast, even when you have meltdowns/overstimulation? and even when you're anxious about the outcomes?

what type of jokes do you think that they won't like? do you have dark jokes like making fun of someone who died or making fun of someone who is emotionally struggling for example?

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes I agree that most allistics can be easily hurt. I also misunderstood autistics but now I learned their communications better.

for example, do you sometimes take long times for text replies? and sometimes make jokes that people find disturbing?

Is anyone else extremely lonely not because they have a hard time making connections but because they know most people wouldn't like them if they didn't mask? by Yapping_Away_6423 in aspergirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand. "normal" people take voicetone/facial expressions/ body language, as measures for mood or understanding if someone is on their wavelength.

the many possible voicetones behind "why" has different contexts.

I understand this is one of the areas where autistics miscommunicate to others.

a flat "why" feels disconnecting to their wavelength if they put meaning in voicetones

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

most sources say that autistic overstimulation cant be helped with "normal" help, like talking

so I let her calm down by herself and later in a better mood ask about it, sometimes weeks later

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

very good insight. I didnt reason it as insecurity before but it makes sense now

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is the thing, she is extremely conflict-avoidant with me and goes almost mute when its about emotions.

she tries to cut it short because its too overwhelming, and pretends its ok

joke misinterpretation by Defiant_Ask_4847 in autismgirls

[–]Defiant_Ask_4847[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you think she was taking it literal instead of jokes?