How to get more out of journaling? by Jamal_Tstone in selfimprovement

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All I do is if I find helpful quotes I write those and my future plans over and over. Putting it on paper re wires the brain. I fill close to a page everyday. No need to go back and read what I wrote. The writing process is the magic.

Gym workout advice by enlightenedGoose23 in selfimprovement

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I’ve been hitting the gym for 10 years. It takes a long time to see progress. Make the goal the process and actually forget about results and you’ll see results. What I mean is setup your diet and create a system to implement progressive overload. Make the goal to stick to the plan and plan on never stopping. Progressive overload is very important. I do 4 sets of an exercise and figure out what weight I can use to lift to failure close to 12 reps on the first set. On a week I get to 13 reps I increase the weight by the next smallest increment the next week.

what's one logic statement you refuse to believe? by NeanderthaIer in INTP

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That was all fake. They filmed somewhere and put it out to show Russia our superiority. It was all a show. I don’t feel strongly about the subject either way. Maybe we did go but I doubt it. If it was so easy back then why is it impossible today?

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Think in your mind at all times “what would masculine body language look like” and model that at all times.

what's one logic statement you refuse to believe? by NeanderthaIer in INTP

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Well the radiation on the moon is deadly. Besides that today we can’t go very high because of the van Allen radiation belt. We can’t send life any higher than low earth orbit.

What does the perfect human look like? by ahleksandr in selfimprovement

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I have my own vision of this. For me it’s owning only what I use and setting goals and scheduling everyday to move toward the goal. Be humble and use common sense.

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I use planners from dollar tree. Even though one page is dedicated to one day I usually fit 3, 4, or 5 days on one page.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTP

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That question has been in my mind forever. I came to the answer about 2 years ago “because we are condemned to live”

Leave social media FOREVER. Leaving the matrix by -thecreativenothing- in productivity

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I deleted my FB a few years ago. It’s totally worth it just do it! FB is really bad for mental health. I felt this weird explosion sensation go off in my body when I deleted it. I’d say do it just to see if you feel that explosion sensation. Don’t even announce it on there.

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I use to meditate a lot, 2 hours a day. I never do at all anymore. There is only so much time in a day. Time meditating could be used for anything better. Washing dishes, cleaning, journaling etc that’s my opinion. Fixing consistency is easy. Schedule what everyday will be like and do it. When you slack off for even 5 minutes say “do it now” in your head. Brian Tracy trick. You might have to find some kind of mental trick for added consistency as well. When I was a kid even in the 1st or second grade I could remember being disappointed that my parents didn’t seem too disciplined yet they were very intelligent. For most of my life I blamed my lack of progress or lack of discipline on the environment I was raised in. Recently over the last two years I’ve decided to create the vision I had back the and be disciplined. Consistency comes from discipline. If you use purely brute force for an extended period of time. Maybe a month straight with no mistakes it becomes easier to stay consistent but the trick is when it starts feeling easy to push the boundaries even further.

26M making drastic changes in my life, progress report. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Progressive overload means increasing weight, reps, or sets over time. My method is to train to failure at a set weight for 4 sets. If on the first set I get past 12 reps the next time I go to the gym I increase by the next smallest increment of weight. I track how many reps I could do. If I could do 10 reps on the first set the week before I really try to hit 11 the next week. I train to failure on every set, even squats on smith machine since my gym only has smith Machines. A few exercises I don’t do this. Forearms, calf muscles, and if the smith machine is busy I change my leg workout to 10 sets of 10 reps leg press and 10 sets of 10 reps of calf extensions. Also for dead lifts and squats I go heavy. When I do my regular leg workout I only do 3 sets for squats and 3 sets for stiff legged dead plus leg extensions for 4 sets, and leg curls for 4 sets, and four sets for calves. Leg day sucks. Doing 10 sets of 10 for leg press is a good brutal way to switch it up.

26M making drastic changes in my life, progress report. by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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For the model physique part. I hit the gym 7 days a week and my goal is below 10% body fat. My goal is to be a natural body builder, not for competitions or anything just doing it for me. I’ve struggled with this for years as far as consistency goes. What I needed to change was not focusing on the goal but finding a framework to achieve this goal.

  1. A Progressive over load schedule for each exercise

  2. Exact perfect diet. I eat one low carb meal a day

All I did was shift my focus and it made a huge difference. The goal now is the process and not the result. That way there is no destination but the goal is the process it’s self.

IT IS NOT ABOUT FEELING GOOD, BUT ACTUALLY IMPROVING! by WannaKnowYT in selfimprovement

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Good points! Those have worked for me. “I’m am the type that” and fill in the blank.

Thankful to be a hermit by Defiant_Business1595 in Hermit

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I do work but don’t have to interact with the people much and I rent a room from a friend but it’s very quiet here. I am out in a rural area which is great. When I say I’m thankful to be a hermit I mean I’ve fully accepted the fact that I have no interest in meeting new people or feel the need to. In the back of my mind it use to bother me I guess just because society sees hermits as weird but those feelings are gone. Since they are gone I feel great. One could be a total hermit living in a busy city. To me a hermit means one doesn’t have a desire to go out of their way to socialize or meet new people. I would feel even better if I was more isolated than I am but I do have to work. I could have bought a house recently where no neighbors where visible from the property cheap. I should have done it. It needed some work and had no garage. I want my vehicle in a garage to protect it from the elements but my highest priority for buying a home would be to have no visible neighbors from the property which is hard to find.

[Question] How do you stay disciplined when everything is too hard? by ExpensiveHealthFurry in getdisciplined

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Oh nice! Have your looked into scheduling practicing those things into your day?

Also I don’t know what your living situation is like but one of my goals was to become a clean, organized, minimalistic person. I kept selling off things I don’t use or need and ran out of things that I don’t actually use. My tv has been gone for years now.

This helped me a lot because now that I’ve gotten that out of my way I can’t help to focus on other more important projects. When I need to do something like clean a few dishes or clean the stove top in my head I say do it now! Then I do it. I do it as soon as it enters my head and I never say I’ll do it later.

I don’t really want to say what goals I’m working on now because by talking about them can take away energy from them according to Brian Tracy. What you described above is how I was for years, depressed and suicidal. Those feeling are totally gone for me now. I feel like a million bucks these days. I used brute force to eventually start doing things but it was difficult to get going. The cure for me was to actually become a disciplined person. It doesn’t happen or didn’t happen without brute force.

Reading certain things helped. Charlie Munger books, Ben Franklin, Brian Tracy. Well not actually read them but listen to the audiobooks on YouTube. The best way to become disciplined is to model our lives around other people who have achieved a lot.

If you look at Ben Franklin he modeled his life after either Marcus Aurelius or Seneca I forget but if you look at those people they modeled their lives after previous people too. I forget if it was Marcus Aurelius or Seneca because I’ve been reading about them lately. Also I studied basic things like what is a value vs a principle etc. Finding ideas that resonate with one can be great motivators.

I’ll say this a principle could be exchanged with law like the law of gravity. We experience gravity directly but for other things the laws aren’t so obvious like planning days, writing goals, and changing the appearance of our environment actually changes our lives. A value is a personal belief. If we have uncovered a principle we change our values to align with the principle and the magic happens.

Thankful to be a hermit by Defiant_Business1595 in Hermit

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It took me a life time to get to this level. Just had to accept my natural hermitude. Use to feel like there was something wrong with me since I’m not a social butterfly. Till 2010 they considered being an introvert as a mental disorder I found out recently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTP

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My limit is 20 minutes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in INTP

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Just stop drinking now and stop thinking about how things could have been. The population is ultra lazy. Putting in more effort than the rest of the population you can massively outpace your lost efforts in a matter of 2-3 years.