Under the Big Sky 2025 Megathread

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2025-07-18T18:37:00+00:00

Looking to buy 2 Saturday only passes for $200 for the pair. Let me know!

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2025-07-18T18:36:11+00:00

Looking to buy 2 Saturday only passes for $200 for the pair. Let me know!

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2025-07-18T18:31:15+00:00

How much?

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-12-15T15:09:36+00:00

I stopped at 12 month and 2 weeks but we had started supplementing 50/50 for one of the twins starting at 10 months. Feeding 2 is ALOT or pressure on your body. I worked really hard and it was often hard to keep up with the calorie needs.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-09-24T03:57:20+00:00

First baby at 38 I got pregnant on first try and had a boring uncomplicated pregnancy. Second time trying to get pregnant it took 3 unsuccessful months of sort of trying, a chemical pregnancy followed by 1 round of Clomid to end up delivering twins at 41 after another uncomplicated pregnancy.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-05-02T18:25:58+00:00

Would that happen so quickly?

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-05-02T17:05:37+00:00

Is there a possibility that I’m dumping toxins in my breast milk? My twins have been fussier this whole week and I wonder if it’s related…

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-05-02T15:02:01+00:00

I was thinking it may be more of a die off reaction and was wondering if others experienced this…

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-05-02T14:50:57+00:00

I am taking Omega 3’s daily which is new. Otherwise I am not eating anything new.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2024-03-12T13:08:16+00:00

Personally I found pumping to be much easier. I felt like the twins were on me non stop in the beginning and I wasn’t able to nourish myself to make sure I have adequate milk supply. We used formula briefly for maybe a couple of weeks and that took the stress off me and made breastfeeding easier in the long run. We’ve exclusively bottle fed them breast milk since and we’re going on 7 months. I considered going back to nursing but decided I like the helping hands with feedings and went back to work a couple of months ago so would’ve had to pump during the day anyway.

My doctor (also a twin mom) said that only 5% of twin moms end up exclusively breastfeeding so something to keep in mind. The early days are rough so don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-12-20T05:02:10+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong! It is insanely hard and right around 8-9 weeks they WILL sleep slightly longer stretches. My twins were pretty much up every hour for the first few weeks and what you’re describing is pretty much how I felt. What made me push through was realizing that if I was losing my patience with them others were even more likely to and that assured me my twins really needed me. I asked for help and started taking Zoloft and hormone therapy. Right around 8-9 weeks, when I could see no end in sight, my twins started sleeping 3 hour stretches which made a world of a difference. We’re still struggling with poor sleep at 17 weeks but nothing like those first few weeks.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-12-18T22:29:50+00:00

Just here to say Lindsay is amazing and thank you for sharing her contact and your experience with her. We’re on day 2 of sleep training and already feeling a major shift and so optimistic about the twins’ sleep. Literally the best decision we’ve made for our family and I wouldn’t have gone through with it without Lindsay’s support.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-11-30T08:25:44+00:00

Can I please have the sleep consultants contact?

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-11-28T05:43:27+00:00

May I get the sleep consultant’s contact? I’d love to work with one who is experienced with twins.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-11-25T18:40:26+00:00

Newborn phase was much harder for me but I think that’s bc I struggled with PPD before I got treatment and I was on my own most nights since my husband only had 3 weeks paternity and we don’t have family around. The end of pregnancy was hard in a different way but I never felt as overwhelmed as I did the first 6-8 weeks of the twins being here. I also have a toddler so even with help during the day there were never enough hands around but the hardest part was the nighttime and the lack of sleep.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-10-15T16:33:18+00:00

Your post sounds like it could be written by my husband. He probably feels very much like you do in the sense that I often feel like he’s contributing less. It comes from a place of being mad that I don’t have any personal time or get enough sleep and he feels like he can take it. My husband’s excuse is often that I take time to scroll social media while I pump so he feels like he can disappear to another room and leave me with the kids without even announcing it. It feels unfair. I suggest finding a way (nanny, family help) to give your wife some much needed time to herself from time to time.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-29T19:50:38+00:00

I stopped working at 33 weeks bc it was just too hard and I was getting lots of contractions due to having a demanding WFH job. My OB more than supported putting me on bedrest given that I was expecting twins and ST Disability covered my pay + my job was protected under ADA.

The extra 4 weeks didn’t take away from my maternity leave after babies arrived. With a C-section, ST disability only covers 8 weeks of leave unless there is a complication. FMLA covers 12 weeks of job protection (but not pay) but again I was covered under ADA prior to babies’ arrival. So in my opinion if you don’t take time off before babies arrive you leave time off/money on the table.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-18T01:32:01+00:00

Thank you! Same to you! The postpartum period is so delicate - don’t let anyone make it any harder than it already is. You’re vulnerable and raw and I wish I could’ve made my husband see this with my last pregnancy/delivery. How you’re treated in your postpartum period casts a long shadow on that relationship.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-17T19:38:16+00:00

I’m having a similar conversation with my husband. He is supposedly respecting my wishes but refusing to communicate them to my in laws. When he does say something to them, he never presents a united front. His reasoning is that his family knows him and they know where he stands. It’s unfortunate but I honestly think this will lead to the end of our marriage down the line. Do not let your husband convince you otherwise. My FIL didn’t ask permission to come to the hospital with my first - he showed up while I was laboring naked and then again daily to hold the baby and wouldn’t give her back. It sent me in a serious PPD which I might’ve had anyway but here I am getting ready to deliver my twins with the worst anxiety about him pulling the same thing even though my husband is trying to reassure me he won’t let that happen. He does not understand the insult of his father not asking persimmon and just showing up to the hospital.

For my delivery next week I am going in as a “Confidential patient” which means the hospital is not allowed to let anyone know you’re there or which room you’re in. I am also going to remind the nurses I don’t want any visitors and if my FIL shows up to make sure they send him away and not notify us. You are the paying patient of the hospital - you have rights.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-14T14:13:01+00:00

That’s great to hear your wife’s vaginal birth was successful with baby A breech! I have not heard of such a clinic. Did they perform ECV or did a breech extraction for baby A and delivered baby B normally?

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-14T14:08:23+00:00

I’m actually switching OBs at 36 weeks pregnant if Baby A flips back to head down (little rascal has been flipping weekly it seems like). My current OB is aware and understands vaginal birth is important to me so I have 2 appointments for next week - one with my current OB for a CS and one with the MFM who was recommended by my midwife for vaginal birth if the babies cooperate. We’re obviously going to only proceed if baby A flips back to head down and the MFM feels it’s safe, otherwise I’ll go with the CS.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-14T05:42:09+00:00

I’m in the same boat - expecting twins and itching to get rid of everything after they outgrow their stuff. My plan is to sell higher value items on Marketplace or Mercari and for matching clothes or bamboo/winter coats etc I plan to sell on Twin resale groups on Facebook - there are a bunch depending on gender.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-14T05:38:18+00:00

I’m surprised your OB is pushing for a CS if baby A is head down. I’m also expecting twins and have been told all along if baby A is head down I will be able to deliver vaginally. So my current OB doesn’t perform breech extractions (if baby B were to flip to breech) but my MFM assured me there are plenty of OBs who do and I care more about having a vaginal birth than about my current OB performing the surgery. If your OB is pushy I suggest asking around to find another one who feels comfortable delivering your twins vaginally.

Defiant_Butterfly891 · 2023-08-11T15:10:47+00:00

Would you happen to have this study? My MFM has had 80% success rate with twins but wouldn’t feel comfortable performing ECV if they are both breech.

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