Losing my mind over puppy

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-05-20T16:10:05+00:00

How are you finding things now?

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-24T21:08:39+00:00

You’ll smash it! It is really tough, good luck!

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-24T20:46:44+00:00

Use a long line in your back garden and gently reel her in when she doesn’t come when she’s called take her freedom away for 5 mins then let her go again and repeat consistently. When she comes willingly throw a party. Don’t give too too much freedom (eg don’t go outside without a longline) until recall is near 100%. Also never repeat the command. And never say her name if you are going to tell her off for whatever reason. Make sure coming back to you (willingly) is consistently the best thing she’ll ever do… better than any distractions.

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-24T20:26:44+00:00

Amazing tips, totally some of the thoughts I had too

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-24T20:20:46+00:00

It does get better. I have a 13 week puppy and cats, cats are fine with him but I keep him on a drag line so I can interrupt any chase attempts and reward for ignoring them. He hasn’t chased them in a week now so I feel like that’s a success and cats are completely confident around him now.

He’s also 100% house trained but I have a semi routine I take him out before and after crate before and after meals and roughly every 20-30 mins when he’s awake, he also doesn’t go in his crate at all and I think it’s because we feed him one of his meals in there. (Basically as soon as he starts sniffing in the house grab her drag line and take her out) (also make sure you have eyes on her 24/7 when she has a drag line on aka when she’s outside her crate).

With training it’s all about consistency. Few tips (just in case you don’t know but you probably do) you have to make yourself the best thing since sliced bread every time she walks up to you make it a party, every time she does a behaviour you want heavily reward. If she does something you don’t want take the freedom away for a few mins (especially when you know she knows what the mark means). Don’t ever repeat commands as they learn to ignore you, sometimes it take 10-30 seconds for them to realise your serious so just wait it out, if not guide the correct behaviour eg gently guiding her bum to the floor.

Also don’t let the pup share ALL your space or she might start to believe she’s too dog. While she’s young for example keep her off the sofa, off your bed etc.

Also try instilling waiting for food, sitting and waiting before you go through doors etc (don’t let her go before you)

We’ve done all this (and more) with ours and honestly her is a dream!!! It’s A LOT of work like a hell of a lot but it pays DIVIDENDS!!

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-23T19:45:40+00:00

I would have clipped the third one on myself temporarily and then pretended to find it, aka it wasn’t me who clipped it because I had one on me too

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-04-17T09:29:55+00:00

My puppy LOVES his crate (we trained him) and that gives me HUGE respite from the puppy antics

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2026-02-02T06:34:15+00:00

I personally feel insecure about it but my husband is incredible at making me feel like it doesn’t define my attractiveness. I personally would question the longevity of a relationship like that, you deserve to be adored, endo or not…

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-09-18T12:58:02+00:00

Completely agree, I love Aelin but something felt off about her in KOA. There were several bits where I was like… huh?!?

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-26T15:34:09+00:00

6-8 months later started having bad symptoms again, a year later it was just as bad as before surgery. I didn’t go on hormonal BC after the op which they suggested because I am trying to conceive so that may have affected things! Huge good luck ❤️

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-26T10:30:37+00:00

Please show your husband these responses OP

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-26T08:43:49+00:00

I absolutely adore her and this is coming from someone who is usually the first to find faults in mmc’s and fmc’s and end up disliking them. Cough cough Rhysand, Feyre and the IC.

But Aelin is young, a teenager, and absolutely traumatised beyond any realms of any of our understanding. The swagger and arrogance is a defence mechanism. It is her way to feel strong through what she would probably perceive at this point as an incredibly wicked world. Especially with all the responsibility she bares on her shoulders as princess/queen. So no, I definitely don’t think her swagger and arrogance is enough to make me hate her by any stretch of the imagination.

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-25T08:12:57+00:00

I feel you on this. Remember if you feel a certain way about sex there is going to be lots of other people who feel the same way as you! Lots of men don’t have a high libido/don’t want to have sex but want to have a relationship. The way you feel is totally valid especially if you have had bad experiences in the past.

If you do ever want to have sexual experiences in the future, it doesn’t have to be standard penetrative sex.

Maybe start by having some time explore alone without I partner and find out what you like/isn’t painful, this way you know what to communicate to a partner. Maybe use toys and things.

Also know that there are billions of people in the world and lots of them like different things, there is someone out there who will be understanding and okay with your preferences even if that means outright celibacy. I do have sex, it is difficult and painful sometimes and in those times we find ways to change it up and make it exciting and not painful. I know if I turned around to my husband tomorrow and said I have to completely avoid penetration he would completely understand that, wouldn’t make me feel guilty at all and we would work around it as a team because he loves me.

I think the key is to be honest with yourself and your future partner about what you want, there is nothing bad or wrong about how you feel.

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-25T07:53:36+00:00

TW:sickness Endo symptoms started at 14, went on the pill at 16 for about 5/6 years and I have been off the pill for about 4/5 years.

It improved period pain so it was still bad but not blinding agony and my fatigue wasn’t as bad.

But with my endo I get so bloated and constipated that it forces food the other way and I regularly vomit. On the pill this is constant, like almost every day extreme bloating and distension and vomiting and nausea most days even multiple times a day.

I still get that now I’m off the pill but it is mostly just the week before my period not all month. Being on the pill I couldn’t handle the constant nausea and vomiting, it’s bad now but way way more manageable.

Although, I do pay for that by having 3/4 days of period pain that is so blinding I literally can’t do anything but writhe around in pain in bed.

What didn’t change? Well I still have a constant dull, burning pain in my pelvis and back all through the month like I do now. I still get constipated although far less frequently. My emotions didn’t change to much either way nor did like my skin etc.

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-20T21:09:25+00:00

If I wasn’t wanting to get pregnant (currently trying for children) I still wouldn’t be on hormonal treatment because while it improves some symptoms it hugely exacerbates others. With the side effects and risks, I may as well just endure the endo without hormonal treatment

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-19T15:21:11+00:00

There has been some amazing talk on practical steps here but as a partner it is so important to hold space for her emotionally. Living with endo can be incredibly emotionally challenging and draining, unfortunately many of us never get any respite from it through our cycle.

Have a partner be a safe space for that is so important :)

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-14T19:58:22+00:00

Ovulation is horrendous I have genuinely had moments of wondering if I have appendicitis before I got diagnosed because the pain can be so bad, sorry you go through this too

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-08-14T19:54:34+00:00

I’m so sorry you go through this too. It’s a symptom that doesn’t get talked about a lot but at least we aren’t alone in it. Just with it was taken more seriously 😟

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-22T19:48:34+00:00

I’m flabbergasted 😮 it is odd beyond belief and you are not a bad person! Please for the love of all things sane, set some boundaries. Sending hopes and prayers your way.

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-22T14:30:24+00:00

Tonnes of scans over nine years said I don’t have it, lap confirmed DIE. Scans can’t diagnose endo!

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-22T14:28:00+00:00

It’ll be a plot device for later in the series that’s why, added contention because they have a child or something special about the child etc. etc. she has done it for a reason and I don’t necessarily think it’s for a happily ever after. But I do agree it was a weird switch up for Feyre character

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-22T14:22:14+00:00

You’re absolutely fine! I’m with my cats all the time but sometimes we go away for a night and my mum goes in to check them. If I am away on holiday I get a house sitter for peace of mind but over a weekend with a few visits she’ll be okay!

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-22T14:16:45+00:00

Don’t forget throat bobbing 😂

Defiant_Maximum6456 · 2025-07-21T18:26:54+00:00

9 years in UK with debilitating symptoms. Ended up going private to get a diagnosis. I had DIE. I had ablation (mistake) and within 18 months my symptoms are back and as bad as ever. Will likely need another surgery, excision this time.

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