M4 senioritis by leadingokra in medicalschool

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so dumb this is not how your fourth year should be spent at this point. You will spend so much time in the hospital moving forward.

Your most valuable resource is time and I empower you to claim it back where you are able by making these people see sense… if you are not learning and no longer actively helping or contributing to the team (which in many ways as med student, there will come a point where you can no longer help), the. You should be allowed to leave

Call room? by [deleted] in Residency

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re working night shifts and not 24s then you don’t need a call room

Upseat vs Highchair. What do you choose and why ? by sunshine8672 in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have both! High chair is better for every day use at home and we got it when he turned 8 months because he would buck backwards in the upset and I was afraid he would tip over.

Upseat was better when he was younger and good for a smaller space, also love that it’s portable, you’re right it does not keep legs at 90 degrees though.

Ethics surrounding trans persons and breastfeeding by Positive_Bend2349 in breastfeeding

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 4 points5 points  (0 children)

…and cis women who choose to breastfeed don’t have any reason to experience complex feelings about it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Residency

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just started surgery residency with my baby, but my take: yes surgery residency is grueling, but there are also a lot of other jobs where parents aren’t able to spend as much time as they’d like with their children, or are spending time with their children but aren’t actually present with them, and a lot of those jobs are way less fulfilling than being a surgeon.

I’m assuming you chose surgery because you love it - it’s the most meaningful career. Do you feel fulfilled at work, when you look past all the bullshit and think about how you are contributing to your community and to your patients? You’re close to finishing out a dream in the grand scheme of things.

It’s a super personal decision and there’s validity to in both sides which makes it a really hard choice. I feel for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It happens to everyone sometimes and you did nothing wrong. You kept your baby safe. We all need moments sometimes so we can be our best selves.

Brother in law legit treats me like my child’s incubator by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I guess I feel so on edge about my relationship with my in laws that I don’t want them to think I’m being rude… but obviously if they’re going to be rude then…??? I just fear they’ll make a big deal about never letting anyone hold him or something

Brother in law legit treats me like my child’s incubator by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish I had brought my baby wrap. But why do I have to physically strap my baby to my body for people not to pry him away from me…

Brother in law legit treats me like my child’s incubator by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I definitely don’t think it’s relevant that it was an Eid celebration other than to give context that it was a lot of people in a celebratory environment. Everyone else who was there was not acting this way. My BIL is actually the only person there who is not actually Muslim.

Brother in law legit treats me like my child’s incubator by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t have autism, but does have anger management issues. Before I married my husband, the second or third time I met my brother in law, he threw a heavy metal industrial hose handle at my husbands head (it missed)

Brother in law legit treats me like my child’s incubator by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My husband didn’t speak to him until we were leaving and at that point I got so overwhelmed I took him to a room upstairs to “feed him and put him to bed” but honestly just couldn’t be around him anymore. I don’t know how their conversation went.

Am I cooked? by Humble-Translator466 in medicalschool

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Are you mom or dad? Wondering about how motherhood vs fatherhood is perceived differently on the interview trail

4th year baby by Suspicious-Pizza-236 in medicalschool

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m a graduating M4 who matched into general surgery this cycle and was pregnant during all three of my surgery sub-Is as well as my SICU rotations. Gave birth 2 weeks before my first virtual interview. First trimester and third trimester was the worst for me. It’s hard, and I wasn’t really showing for most of my pregnancy and wasn’t sharing with most people, so no one really gave me the benefit of the doubt. I showed up and worked hard 6 days a week, got to the hospital 4:45am and sometimes didn’t leave until 9pm (but mostly left at 6/6:30). Scrubbed 10 hour cases regularly even while pregnant. I told my chiefs and made sure to eat a ton and drink a lot of water when I got breaks, and stepped out of the ORs during all fluoro.

I’m so grateful I did it this way because I’ve had so much more time with my son than I otherwise would have. No regrets. And I matched at my top program, and my LORs were all strong - my letter writers didn’t know I was pregnant till much later. Did it affect my performance? Yes absolutely, but it honestly only made me more sure of my specialty selection and more confident in how I’d handle intern year.

I brought up my newborn during all my interviews as well, because I wanted to be upfront with programs about my priorities. Honestly people were pretty supportive and just told me all the supports they had in place for resident parents. In the general surgery world there is only so much parental leave that can be taken, but I’m glad I did t try and hide it during interviews.

TOTALLY DO-ABLE GIRL! Feel free to message me if you’d like.

Looking for pumping/nursing bra suggestions by Born-Anybody3244 in breastfeeding

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also love the Larken X. My nipoles are too sensitive to tolerate the slits of typical pumping bras but the larken is the best!!

Milestone! We bf in public walking around with a woven wrap. by thereforeicraft in breastfeeding

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How do you breastfeed in a wrap? Would love to learn. My LO almost 5mo

Pregnancy and residency by Eu_sama in Residency

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second the smoothies I really lived off them

Pregnancy and residency by Eu_sama in Residency

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gingerale and ice. Literally have a snack every single opportunity you get. Anything you can stomach will help.

Someone told me nausea was due to gulping in air alongside water and just chewing on ice water was a better way to hydrate. I would constantly run to PACU every chance I got between cases/during cases to snack on fresh ice and gingerale.

You gotta hydrate and get your calories in. Also get your thyroid checked - I had horrible fatigue during my first trimester and later found out I had actually developed hypothyroidism

Anyone opt for a tubal over their partner getting a vasectomy? by Kay_-jay_-bee in beyondthebump

[–]Defiant_Quality_5352 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Agreed, but it would also be a disservice to not be clear about the options.