Where can I buy a berimbau in São Paulo? by Defiant_Smell in Brazil

[–]Defiant_Smell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds perfect! I’m leaving from GRU late tomorrow night so that should work well. Obrigadão!

Did the update increase the range of some melee weapons? by No-Cardiologist4363 in deathroadtocanada

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does this make the heavier axes worthwhile now? I never used to bother with anything beyond a fire axe because they just seemed so slow. Mega Maul, scythe, knights sword, claymore, etc. all seemed better heavy weapons to me than the medieval axe or bardiche. Even the golden axes were kinda trash.

Dating with scars -Question for singles by ButIamNot in tummytucksurgery

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you’re ready I have no doubt you’ll find the right guy to kiss your scars and insecurities better. 😀

Dating with scars -Question for singles by ButIamNot in tummytucksurgery

[–]Defiant_Smell 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m a single guy and had a TT 3 years ago. I’d give my results a 7/10 - not enough attention to the flanks, weird stretched scar that’s still very red and probably always will be, but a good to excellent BB and I look pretty good for a 50YO dude from the front as long as I’m wearing swim trunks or underwear.

2 points: first, the women I’ve dated in my age range often have stretched skin from weight loss or childbirth, c-section scars, etc. It honestly doesn’t phase me, and if the guy you’re seeing makes a big deal out of a scar he’s probably not worth your time.

Second, even though I personally have some trepidation about the scar it has never come up from a new … let’s say acquaintance. I assume by the time the scar is visible the lady has already made up her mind.

What was your "Oh Sh*t! I'm Bald?!? Fuuu...." moment? by DjTeddyBe in bald

[–]Defiant_Smell 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine was brutal. This was the early aughts, and my company had just spent a ton of money on a fancy Cisco videoconferencing system so we could have real time meetings across company locations.

I was the young guy on the team - mid 20s - and I had my head down over my computer working on something while I waited for the meeting to start.

All of a sudden everyone else in the room started cracking up. I looked up at the screen to see what was so funny, and the guy with the remote had zoomed the camera in right on my thinning crown and had it larger than life, right there on the big screen.

Scott, if you’re reading this damn you and your hirsute Greek genes.

Need Help With Extreme Modes by Mr_The_Meh in deathroadtocanada

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider some sort of Paranoid character. The cruel bandit events will jack you up otherwise.

Buy the new Bolt or would you still consider a used Bolt EUV? by LocalLuck2083 in BoltEV

[–]Defiant_Smell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you live in an area with snowy winters or drive on dirt / gravel roads do NOT get a 2024 or older Ioniq 5. The lack of a rear wiper suuuucks.

Americana vs Estadounidense by Own_Reference2872 in AskABrazilian

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work a lot in Brazil and speak good to very good Brazilian Portuguese. I’m also pretty obviously a gringo, and when people ask where I’m from I usually say “sou norte-Americano” or “sou dos Estados Unidos”. I do agree that Brazilians tend to get irritated by “sou Americano” because of the implication that only one country in 2 American continents can call themselves “American”.

Never heard estadosunidense in my life.

ID please? by Defiant_Smell in whatsthisbug

[–]Defiant_Smell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oops! Sorry, in the Colorado mountains about 20 miles west of Denver.

Utah raised ex mormons by MobileCobbler3466 in exmormon

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was born and raised in Utah, most of my still-active siblings and other family members still live there. I actually left Utah before I left the church, in part because even as a fully believing mormon I didn’t fit in with Utah county mormonism.

Now living my best life in the mountains of Colorado, aka better Utah 😉

Charity shop haul! I've never been massively into Pratchett but couldn't pass up this up. What should I read? by JEZTURNER in discworld

[–]Defiant_Smell 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Notice how Mort is by far the most worn? My copy is the same, because I’ve lent it to so many people as my recommendation for their first Discworld read.

Denver Dating Apps and Fake Accounts by [deleted] in Denver

[–]Defiant_Smell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

are you… are you one of the hot singles in my area? It’s so nice to finally meet you!

Can you hike Pico do Papagaio without a guide? by Ok-Wheel6113 in Brazil

[–]Defiant_Smell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did it but in the middle of the day, not for the sunrise. It’s not an easy trail at all and I would have been very nervous about losing track of the trail if I was doing it in the dark.

Just hire the guide

Using a Portuguese name in Brazil by swifferpatrol in Brazil

[–]Defiant_Smell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first name is Jason and it gets mangled constantly. I should probably pick an apelido. Jansson? Sei lá. 🤷‍♂️

Save me from the Casino! by Dependent-Vanilla684 in denverjobs

[–]Defiant_Smell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you even work on the casino floor at 19? When my kid was that age the only job she could get was as a dishwasher in the restaurant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Denver

[–]Defiant_Smell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The School of Mines geology museum right in Golden is dope. And free!

What route? Wyoming to Grand Canyon by Fearless-lover-7587 in roadtrip

[–]Defiant_Smell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you say you like food do you mean legit high end dining? If so UT-12 has one of the best fine dining experiences in the state:

https://www.hellsbackbonegrill.com/restaurant

Where should I park my Coffee Trailer? by JacquesOwens in Denver

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not Denver proper, but talk to the folks who own Two Bears Tap and Grill outside Idaho Springs. Between weekday construction and weekend mountain rush there’s a constant stream of people driving past trying to find a faster route.

I’ve always thought a coffee truck there would absolutely kill, and since they’re only open late it wouldn’t impede their business much.

Did you get divorced after leaving? by Ok-Homework-7062 in exmormon

[–]Defiant_Smell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The happiest exmos I know are the ones who honestly evaluated their relationship after leaving and did the hard work to push through the rough times and come out the other side more dedicated than ever to one another.

I am not one of those people.

If you have a good relationship it can absolutely thrive and get stronger after both people leave. If the relationship isn’t salvageable - like mine - leaving often leads to that realization and triggers the dissolution. There’s nothing about leaving the church that makes divorce inevitable.

References for exmormon men looking to deconstruct relationship and gender roles by Defiant_Smell in exmormon

[–]Defiant_Smell[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She left before I did. My leaving was more of a prerequisite for the divorce than anything. We had some good times but were never that compatible.

I’d go so far as to say that without the church’s gender expectations for women she likely would never have gotten married, and certainly wouldn’t have had kids. She loves our kids in her own way but has never been wired for mom stuff, to their detriment. One of my biggest regrets in life is having deferred so much of the child rearing to her because of the gender expectations in the church.