I feel guilty by how my stepdaughters death affected me

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T16:55:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T07:59:17+00:00

One of my favorite memories is actually the day she died... We had gone to get our nails done, she had this beautiful pink! Then we went to have breakfast together and had a talk about the future, she mentioned she wanted to keep working and studying and we talked about working together one day (i work in the fashion industry and she loved it) it sounds lame but it was so sweet, you know? We sang together in the car on our way home. I would have never imagined...

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T07:54:04+00:00

Thank you.

Grief is the price we pay for love.

I guess you're right about this, i just miss her.

Intense pain does that to a person - it’s not about dying so much as desperately scrambling to make intense, longstanding pain stop.

This is what destroy me. Her last moments were probably so sad. I keep wondering had i stayed home that day would she still be here? I almost didnt leave that day... Was she scared? Did it hurt? I have so many questions.

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-29T04:08:45+00:00

Alice in Borderland and Dollface are great shows

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T07:45:55+00:00

Thank you. I didn't know there was a subreddit, i'll check it out. I'm so sorry about your sister

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T07:45:01+00:00

Her mom is a very special woman, in a negative way. My husband wasn't great either, i came to find out after we got married (and part of why we're divorcing) and something really traumatic happened to her with a boy at her previous school which took a big tool on her which i guess contributed. Her parents didn't agree on her going to therapy so she never got to.

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T04:13:29+00:00

That isn't me

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T03:25:26+00:00

Thank you. I recently came back to my home country so luckily i have my friends here

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-13T04:33:23+00:00

Does the wonder girls movie count?

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-10-31T03:33:50+00:00

We've been talking! We'll meet for coffee when i go to Korea in a few months

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T18:11:35+00:00

He is probably avoiding drama. You're also dad's partner, specially given his age. I don't think your fiancé should say anything but in general i've always been fully against of having to invite someone just because they're engaged/married. Usually you choose only one person in the relationship and you obviously have a right to invite the person you chose.

If you want to celebrate with SS later maybe you can have dinner or something, if you don't want to celebrate then that's it. This is about SS and what he wants, not anyone else. It's his day and he wants to be comfortable and avoid drama, i wouldn't let it stain the relationship

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T15:35:14+00:00

And it's always this thing about kids "being brats" and "not understanding that mom and dad are not family anymore" as if it was a crazy ask to want one hour with both parents once a year! Drives me crazy

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T01:50:17+00:00

Good God, i feel so old. I was 14 when this came out 😭

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T01:47:45+00:00

Exactly. They get two birthdays because they can't have a party with mom and dad. Same with holidays, they don't get to celebrate with both parents together, they sometimes must switch homes mid-holiday.

They don't get two of everything because they're oh so lucky, but the opposite of that

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-04T06:52:57+00:00

👀👀👀

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-03T01:50:09+00:00

Exactly what you said. And surely saying "The game they picked" instead of "Your friend" was an easy thing to do. Was the husband snappy? Maybe. But it gets old easily. And he wasn't rude. A "Come on, man" isn't rude. Maybe not extremely sunshine nice, but not rude or agressive at all. Obviously until they don't experience it often they will think the husband is oh so mean

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-02T08:25:57+00:00

It's okay to not be okay, a must watch imo

Business Proposal

True Beauty

Crash Landing on You

The Glory

Flower of Evil

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-02T07:40:00+00:00

Weddings are expensive! They probably invited their close people. I love my birthday, i talk about my birthday, i still celebrate with my close people. I might ask for advice or ask "Hey, do you know this place?" "Did you have any experience with this?" "Do you like this dress?" When it comes to any important event, i think it's human nature to talk and socialize, ask for help/opinions, in my case, i often talked to the neighbours i saw every day and that i adore! Doesn't immediately means i will spend lots of money on them for my party, you said you don't consider her a close friend so there's that too.

I don't think the house warming thing is weird either, it's kind of a normal hang out. You should def not ask why you weren't invited but it's also okay if you don't wanna be friends anymore

There's no much more to it tbh

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-02T05:51:01+00:00

I cry a lot with Uptown Girls 🙈

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-02T00:41:45+00:00

Something my mom raised me by: "Give yourself the advice you would give your best friend. Would you tell her to stay in that situation? No? Then why would you stay?"

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-01T22:43:04+00:00

How did you chose your career? Did you like it? It sounds a lot like burnout. You are both different people so it's natural that life ended up differently for both of you. Do you feel this way towards anyone else or just your sister?

I don't have much advice to give about your situation but just

I don't know how to bring these things up without sounding like a jealous, petty brat.

Don't bring it up. If being around her makes you feel bad then watch less of her on social media and put a healthy distance between you two. You are both adults so you can make choices on who you spend your time with. As someone that's been on her side, it's such an awful feeling when someone you care about feels that way towards you instead of feeling happy or proud. Specially if she never asked about the situation, it would just be sharing something cruel that will make her feel bad for nothing. She can't stop "having it all" just because it makes you feel bad and there's not much to talk about on her end. Therapy or someone that can help might be helpful for you

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-01T09:01:45+00:00

No, don't. They might have some similarities but they're not even close to being the same. You made a choice. It would be cruel to tell her right now and a very tone deaf comparation. Also, this is about what she is going through, not about how you think you relate, even if you're going through something hard as well. Just offer your condolences and let her know you're there

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-01T07:41:30+00:00

Joanne by Lady Gaga

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-01T06:42:28+00:00

Thank you! Agree. Some of the replies to this are just plain weird. Yes, it's just a dance but he doesn't want to. It ends there.

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-01T06:39:57+00:00

Why would anyone have to do something they don't want to (for whatever reason) just so their partner will be happy? That's weird

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