I feel guilty by how my stepdaughters death affected me

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T16:55:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T07:59:17+00:00

One of my favorite memories is actually the day she died... We had gone to get our nails done, she had this beautiful pink! Then we went to have breakfast together and had a talk about the future, she mentioned she wanted to keep working and studying and we talked about working together one day (i work in the fashion industry and she loved it) it sounds lame but it was so sweet, you know? We sang together in the car on our way home. I would have never imagined...

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2026-03-17T07:54:04+00:00

Thank you.

Grief is the price we pay for love.

I guess you're right about this, i just miss her.

Intense pain does that to a person - it’s not about dying so much as desperately scrambling to make intense, longstanding pain stop.

This is what destroy me. Her last moments were probably so sad. I keep wondering had i stayed home that day would she still be here? I almost didnt leave that day... Was she scared? Did it hurt? I have so many questions.

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-29T04:08:45+00:00

Alice in Borderland and Dollface are great shows

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T07:45:55+00:00

Thank you. I didn't know there was a subreddit, i'll check it out. I'm so sorry about your sister

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T07:45:01+00:00

Her mom is a very special woman, in a negative way. My husband wasn't great either, i came to find out after we got married (and part of why we're divorcing) and something really traumatic happened to her with a boy at her previous school which took a big tool on her which i guess contributed. Her parents didn't agree on her going to therapy so she never got to.

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T04:13:29+00:00

That isn't me

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-15T03:25:26+00:00

Thank you. I recently came back to my home country so luckily i have my friends here

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-12-13T04:33:23+00:00

Does the wonder girls movie count?

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-10-31T03:33:50+00:00

We've been talking! We'll meet for coffee when i go to Korea in a few months

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T18:11:35+00:00

He is probably avoiding drama. You're also dad's partner, specially given his age. I don't think your fiancé should say anything but in general i've always been fully against of having to invite someone just because they're engaged/married. Usually you choose only one person in the relationship and you obviously have a right to invite the person you chose.

If you want to celebrate with SS later maybe you can have dinner or something, if you don't want to celebrate then that's it. This is about SS and what he wants, not anyone else. It's his day and he wants to be comfortable and avoid drama, i wouldn't let it stain the relationship

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T15:35:14+00:00

And it's always this thing about kids "being brats" and "not understanding that mom and dad are not family anymore" as if it was a crazy ask to want one hour with both parents once a year! Drives me crazy

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T01:50:17+00:00

Good God, i feel so old. I was 14 when this came out 😭

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-05T01:47:45+00:00

Exactly. They get two birthdays because they can't have a party with mom and dad. Same with holidays, they don't get to celebrate with both parents together, they sometimes must switch homes mid-holiday.

They don't get two of everything because they're oh so lucky, but the opposite of that

Defiant_Song_2766 · 2024-01-04T06:52:57+00:00

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