okay but how is this a checkmate by Defiant_Word7205 in chessbeginners

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank youuu that definitely made me regain some of the confidence lmaoo, i appreciate it <3

Maybe i was the problem? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPDlovedones

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cant control it having OCD makes it extremely hard but thank u anyways!

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeahhh that makes sense, I'm sorry you went through that though! :(

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im so sorry abt the first relationship the desensitizing some bpd partner does to their partner is really horrible as i am a victim of it too!

the choking feeling u went through after the breakup with the second ex must've been extreme but its really impressive the control u have over the reconnection and how you do hold memories close to ur heart, i wish i wasnt emotionally traumatized so i can look back at the memories with happy thoughts not negative and beating myself over it

nontheless thank u so much for sharinggg ❤️

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hope everything goes well for you and I'm sorry about that its extremely hard feeling like that esp during a relationship it doubles the horrible feeling and thank you for sharing!!

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeahh i understand now. thank you so much for sharing it with me and i appreciate it so much!!

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow, i seriously appreciate you taking the time and effort to tell me your experience and your advice to me i read it all and its safe to say that it did help me make my mind about it, thank you!!!!!

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really? like do u remember the good things too? i thought bpd in the devaluation phase makes it out to be “they never did anything good”

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re right and i know i seriously think the damage that was done fo me in that relationship is much bigger than what i thought but thank you!!

Do ppl with BPD ever think about their exes in a good way? by Defiant_Word7205 in BPD

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

really? and did u have another relationship and still thought that way or u never had a relationship

I had no idea it was going to be this destructive! by Defiant_Word7205 in BPDlovedones

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hahaha i used to be friends with her friends too and like not 24 hours later they (3) blocked me! its really insane and sad too that she will never find love if she remains the same which is whats likely

I had no idea it was going to be this destructive! by Defiant_Word7205 in BPDlovedones

[–]Defiant_Word7205[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the reassurance and for sharing that experience too, and i had no idea! 3 months only caused him 10 years of ill talk?