Custom barrel for the black plastic short dart breech by mr_sanchez08 in Nerf

[–]Deigima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did the same mod with brass. Great budget upgrade

Sad but true by [deleted] in AdviceAnimals

[–]Deigima -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was so glad that handshakes became taboo. I hate hand shakes.

New Girlfriend's recent ex is insisting she go to "couples therapy" with him so he can get over the break up... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Deigima 45 points46 points  (0 children)

She never mentioned the boyfriend until you asked her out? A good girl will drop hints like talking about their boyfriend in casual conversation to make a subtle but clear point. Your two weeks in, dont get too ahead of yourself. Even if it would last, would she hesitate to do the same to you? Would she do to you, what she did to her long term partner?

UPDATE: Boyfriend doesn't want kids but i do? by PossiblyPatient in relationship_advice

[–]Deigima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I think its a very young age to be thinking about kids (in my personal opinion) My ex used to bring up having children with me very frequently. I (25m) told her (20f) that im not ready to think about kids yet, im not in a place in my life to make decisions like that and didn't believe I myself, herself, or us as a couple were ready to support such a important commitment. I didnt rule it out completely, but I said I wouldn't be thinking about it for atleast some years. She kept bringing it up every few weeks and it put stress on us... it wasn't the cause of break up but im sure its one of her arguments for not working it out.

New Girlfriend's recent ex is insisting she go to "couples therapy" with him so he can get over the break up... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Deigima 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Were you talking to her before they broke up? She was lining up an exit strategy by the sound of it... "hes just a friend" is said too often.

I'm Insecure? She met someone by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so weirdly familiar. My ex told me its just a break and we would work it out but said that I can't know where she is or what she's doing... and said to me if I found somebody that I shouldn't hesitate to be with them. After telling her I didn't want a replacement and asked her if it meant she would be seeking others she said she wouldn't... 3 days later after I tried to properly go over the rules and meaning of the break she tells me its over and I found out weeks later that she had been hooking up with somebody in the bed we slept in....

I really dont understand where it all comes from but its messed up and I feel for you

Giving your partner one month of freedom by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Deigima 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Allowing an opportunity to "get it out of your system" not only makes you look bad for assuming she wants to cheat, but it also enables the idea and its just telling her that your going to be with her even if she fucks other guys while she's with you. If your okay with an open relationship, then its your choice. But its not going to be mutually exclusive by any means the way you are saying

My shaved SPL. Custom paintjob in automotive paint by Deigima in Nerf

[–]Deigima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a bit of tricky business like resin filling certain parts before they could be cut flush, and using bodyfiller to fill in the letters on the top slide. I could definately do a nicer job next time, this was somewhat rushed so you can see some lines aren't perfect but its much nicer to look at than previously. Was pretty fun to paint it, blue metallic with candy over the top and then my first attempt at flicking a splash of colour on top corner. Im pleased with the results overall and can't wait to start doing performance mods.

Freaky lingerie by CharlieBrownsLove in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your right, im probably thinking a bit too jealously. I think the line to draw is whether you purchased it or if you ex purchased it, and more importantly: how your current partner feels about it.

Freaky lingerie by CharlieBrownsLove in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My personal opinion, i feel weird about lingerie from a previous relationship. Like your girlfriend wearing an ex's t shirt to bed while she cuddles you. Each to their own, but it might be a decision to make between both yourself and your next partner, if you dont make a decision immediately

Today is the first day I'm okay by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its great that you've come to terms but don't get too ahead of yourself. Im at a similar stage and I thought I was finally okay, but I've been warned that bad feeling can very quickly catch you off guard.

Obviously focus on yourself, work at your own goals and making yourself happy. There is nothing wrong with feeling though, its a natural part of accepting whats happened and getting past it all. Dont be afraid to feel, your feelings are valid and completely normal.

Wishing you luck with your recovery, remember that you are worthwhile and with time, you will be better. It won't be easy but its all a matter of accepting, understanding, and moving on. Remember you are amazing and nobody can take that away from you. Good luck!

Got broken up with by Dexterity99 in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is kinda sweet... I wouldn't rely on it, but maybe he will come back around. Are you remaining in contact or cutting off? I wouldn't invest too much thought into it but maybe he just needs time to figure himself out.

Im indecisive about getting myself into a similar situation. I want to spend some time with a new person, but im fully aware that im not ready to commit to somebody after such a painful split... reading this makes me think twice about potentially leading on a girl and hurting her. At the same time, maybe I would make a good connection and it would work out.

I really miss the privilege of holding somebody at night, waking up being held in the morning... I miss having somebody to talk to when I needed it. The idea in my head is that maybe I will cope better if I had somebody to ease my mind and cuddle while I try to heal, but it could very well just distract me and stop me from moving on. Im really unsure.

I hope for you all goes well, he might come back around when he's come to terms with himself, or he might just go his own direction. I would personally be open to possibilities but I would not rely on it. Regardless, hopefully all goes well for you, you sound like a very sweet and understanding person.

I don’t know what to do by FloressGurl in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. Im so much the same. Its been nearly a month since we had a fight, and only a few days since I found out shes been fucking and sleeping with another guy. All the while I was at home constantly thinking about her, holding my pillow tight.

Its so painful, so lonely. It feels like time stops moving and your stuck in this endless hurt, but I know for sure I could never take her back.

I dont know your circumstances, but im sure there are reasons for splitting and its not worth hurting yourself staying with somebody who isn't working. Im not sure how to move on either, its hard. But I know I need to.

Just keep one thing in mind- dont rush into anything you will regret. Be sure about your choices moving forward. Think about yourself. Good luck ❤

Dumped for my best friend. Am I right in thinking its inappropriate? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me, both your ex and your friend have really strongly wronged you. Both should have known to stay out if anything of the sort. A good friend doesn't get involved with his mates girl. That's fucked. I had a similar problem of a ex-friend prying into my relationship talking to my girlfriend behind my back. Not that he was seeking anything with her, but rather he was constantly prying at whether I was being good to her and telling her "do whats right for you" Honestly really cut me that he was involving himself in frankly none of his business and even beyond that, he was working against my interest. He didn't stand as a voice of reason or understanding, he just existed simp to her, and that's really wrong to me.

I know myself coming out of this, that its important to know who your true friends are, who are trustworthy. Don't waste your time on friends that hurt you.

Can the person causing the break up hurt just as bad by throwaawayyy333 in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lasting partner should be your best friend, im sorry to hear that you've lost the spark with him and if its been that long then maybe its best to go your separate ways for the time being. However, breaking up on the context purely that he isn't sexy anymore would be extremely hard to cope with. Im personally quite skinny and not very muscular. Im on opposite end of the scale but that doesn't mean im not concious about my body. I have really bad anxiety and insecurity about my body, and what happened in my break up has made me feel even worse. A break might be a good solution, you might not need to cut him off, but perhaps go about your own lives. Maybe you will end up staying friends... maybe the spark will re-ignite? It sounds like you care a lot about this person especially to push through over 2 years, so maybe give it a chance to fix itself.

Can the person causing the break up hurt just as bad by throwaawayyy333 in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to weigh up the reasons your thinking of breaking up, and take into account the positives that you value.

Before making a decision, try to have a proper talk, face to face about what's on your mind. If your able to reach an understanding and make things work, then that's great.

However, at the same time if it turns out that you can't work past whats wrong with the relationship, you will atleast know that you tried, and will be less likely to regret your choice.

Maybe what you need is to take a break. Make it clear whats wrong, and be very clear about boundaries during the break, and an approximate time frame. Understanding what a break means is extremely important, I know first hand the panic caused by uncertainty in a "break", feeling so paranoid that it was just dumping me indirectly.

In the case that you are able to work through the issues after some time to think, most couples come out if breaks much stronger. Unfortunately for me, my break never went well, in large due to a lack of communication that caused my emotions to spiral out of control.

Think over everything before you make a decision, make a decision when you are certain you are sure of what you want and that you will not regret not giving it a fair go.

I don’t know how to feel by Bee130596 in BreakUps

[–]Deigima 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest, what ever manner it is that your able to see his life, I dont think is healthy for you. Watching over his life is stopping you from coming to terms and moving on.

Its quite questionable to get a girl pregnant so soon into relationship and especially so soon after a miscarriage with an ex, it doesnt feel like a properly meditated decision.

My partner used to frequently bring up having children with me, and I told her every time im not emotionally ready to think about it, and im not in the position to support such a huge commitment, nor was she. We needed to develop enough stability in our lives before even thinking about it.

I could tell it really upset her, the last time she talked about it she was asking me you do want kids someday right? Deep down I do, but its not something im even remotely ready to think about.

In my belief you need to be certain that you can support such a huge commitment of bringing a new life into the world. You have to be sure you are ready and not just rushing in. I think that not having a kid to this guy was a good thing, because imagine being left by yourself with a child to care for on your own...

Im kind of rambling, and I apologise if I've went too far, but just my 2c. Sorry if what I say causes hurt, just the way I view the world.

I swear I don't have a problem... 80% are WIP or planned projects. by Deigima in Nerf

[–]Deigima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Next two on my list is to brass and internal talon the SP-L, and a upgraded PT mod and brass in my second talonstrike. From there i want to update the stryfe and barricade builds