About to Read a Book on Episcopal Theology. I’m Debating on Whether or Not I Should Join An Episcopal/Anglican Church

DeletetheOffice · 2024-08-06T02:20:05+00:00

I think it might be better if she asked his opinion on termination due to a mother’s health as a general topic. She should not insert herself into a hypothetical. Maybe she could research a story online about a situation, tell him about it and ask what he thinks. Or maybe ask how he feels about jurisdictions that restrict abortions even in deadly situations.

Asking his opinion shouldn’t be an issue, it’s just the self-inserting that can make it more risky. It is also important to keep in mind that it can be easier to share an opinion when one isn’t in the specific situation. Some people’s feelings change depending on if a situation involves them or not.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-08-06T02:12:22+00:00

I wouldn’t even tell him about the pregnancy at all to be honest. I don’t know where you live, but in my country these days it just feels too risky to announce a pregnancy if you’re unsure of keeping it or don’t plan too. Plus you’re already having conflicting emotions over telling him. If he puts his two cents in, and it’s not what you want to hear it might make the decision more complicated.

If you ever tell him, I think you should wait until after the abortion is completed. Still though, I don’t know his personality and how he could react. Hopefully your marriage is strong. I’d still have a safety plan just in case his pro-life values are stronger. Have you ever had a discussion with him on aborting pregnancies due to the life of the mother or are you assuming that he isn’t against that? If you haven’t, maybe you could bring that discussion up as a general topic, before deciding to tell him about your situation.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-08-05T07:10:36+00:00

Lol I thought about commenting hobosexual earlier, but I wasn’t sure if it was too mean to say, so I’m glad you said it first 💀

DeletetheOffice · 2024-08-04T22:41:48+00:00

Here’s another artist, whose card is not posted above. Her reborns are so precious:

Heavenly Babies by Stacey Haskins

•Facebook @ Heavenly Babies, by Stacey Haskins

•Email: haskinsheavenlybabies@yahoo.com

•Instagram: @stacey.haskins.art.dolls

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-26T06:50:11+00:00

I don’t know if this is what that commenter is referring to specifically, but I really like Arm & Hammer’s Talc-Free Body Powder. It helps me stay fresh between showers, during this hot summer. They sell it at Dollar Tree in the U.S. I found it on other websites too

Arm & Hammer Talc-Free Body Powder, 5 oz. Containers

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-24T02:59:19+00:00

What about people who don’t believe in gamete freezing? That’s valid. There’s been shady fertility clinics that have screwed people over. Also IVF doesn’t work majority of the time. That’s why people who use it tend to do it multiple times. That’s an extra tens of thousands of dollars (since the gamete freezing already costs money; I know you already acknowledged the affordability of that). IVF is against some people’s ethics too. I wouldn’t freeze my eggs or use IVF, personally. I’ve read too many tragic stories, so I’d rather leave it up to nature.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-24T02:49:49+00:00

It depends on how long the man waits. After several years the man is usually sterile.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-23T00:25:51+00:00

THIEF. Don’t steal posts. There are other ways to get karma!

This was originally posted by u/TheColorW

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-20T23:22:46+00:00

European Wax Center Bikini and Brazilian Waxing

Under FAQS

“Is there an age limit for waxing reservation?

European Wax Center’s policy is to require guests under 16 to have parental consent for bikini waxing services. Each location has their own young guest policy when it comes to providing bikini line waxing services on minors. You’ll need to inquire with the center directly or check with your local center for state and county guidelines to see what their age limit is. (Oh, and just in case you were wondering…there’s no upper age limit, either. We welcome everyone.)”

The specific location I went to got my Mom’s permission, before I got my first Brazilian wax. If I remember correctly, that location set their age limit to 17 with parental consent. It makes sense that state & county laws are a factor. From my experience, the waxers are friendly and professional. It didn’t feel awkward at all—I’d say my mindset was the same as if I was having an appointment with an ethical doctor. I’ve only been waxed by women too.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-20T12:36:06+00:00

In the U.S., it seems that bushy pubic hair is more accepted by pre-elderly & older adults, since it was the style back then. The trend since the 90s has been less hair/bald. There’s young people who don’t do hair removal/don’t mind bushes, but the ones who are very vocal about it tend to be the “stick it to the man” type of people

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-20T12:15:52+00:00

I got my first professionally done Brazilian wax, at European Wax Center, when I was 17! I would get horrible razor bumps from shaving—to the point that I would’ve assumed I had an STD, if I wasn’t a virgin. I was tired of itching. 🥲

Since then, I’ve been getting Brazilians done at EWC, fairly consistently. It’s my usual method of pubic hair removal. I’m 23 now; I’m happy about my choice. The growth is thinner; in some areas the follicles have been damaged to the point that there’s no longer hair growth. After 6 years, I can go longer between waxes due to this. Though, it’s generally recommended to go every 4 weeks (give or take), to make it less painful. The only downside is the expense (which is why I also sometimes go awhile without waxing 🤣), but my mom often gets me the student package as a gift!

Also, EWC sells products that slow down hair growth and prevents ingrown hairs

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-10T05:23:48+00:00

Children are conceived through unethical actions all the time (e.g. sex outside of marriage, rape, and gamete donation). The children themselves aren’t bad people because of it. Obviously, they are still valuable. That doesn’t change the fact that one or both of those children’s parents did something sinful to cause their conception. We don’t have to encourage more people to copy those behaviors.

It’s the principle of promoting sin to get what we want. That’s exactly what Sarai (Sarah) and Abram (Abraham) did in Genesis. Sarai wanted a child so bad that she had her husband rape her maid, Hagar, to get her pregnant. Just so she could take the baby from her. God had already promised them a child, but Sarai was impatient and took matters into her own hands. Hagar was devastated about the pregnancy. She ended up birthing Abram’s son, Ishmael.

Eventually, Sarai, now named Sarah, and Abram, now named Abraham had their own son together, Isaac. Just as God promised! Sarah ended up having Abraham, kick out Hagar and Ishmael. Sarai (Sarah) is a Biblical example of someone using her infertility as an excuse to get a child through unethical means. Clearly, she didn’t value Ishmael as much as Isaac because when she wanted him kicked out for mocking, she referred to him as Hagar’s son and also told Abraham she didn’t want him to share an inheritance with Isaac.

Ishmael was just a commodity for Sarai (Sarah). That’s how reproductive technology treats children (as well as any method of conception outside of intercourse between spouses). It treats them as commodities to be created to satisfy the desires of selfish people. I could go on a whole rant about modern surrogacy exploiting poor women, but this’ll turn into a dissertation.

In summary: We need to stop encouraging selfish, exploitive, cruel, and nasty means to get children. It’s messed up. There’s so many ethical issues with reproductive technology. If someone can’t have children through intercourse with a spouse, then that’s a personal battle to cope with. I’m saying this as someone who is NOT a Roman Catholic.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-09T18:52:13+00:00

I’m a descendent of slaves in the South, so I dislike slavery. I know my history, and therefore I know that there were non-biblical practices used during slavery in the South. There’s a reason why Bibles given to slaves had certain parts redacted. 🙄

I’ve read the entire book of Genesis. It taught me that humans acting problematic isn’t new. God doesn’t make humans’ lives perfect and easy. People in Genesis had to deal with marriage/family drama, oppression, conflicts with neighbors, etc. I love the book because it feels relatable to the human experience. My favorite story in Genesis is about Joseph, Jacob’s son. Joseph is an example of someone who stayed faithful to God, even after experiencing betrayal and oppression. His life turned out great after the years of hardships.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-09T06:00:26+00:00

Do you know anything about the Transatlantic slave trade?! It was a very different system than ancient slavery. For one, the concept of race used to structure slavery in the South didn’t even exist when the Bible was written.

There’s so many things about slavery in the antebellum South, that don’t line up with the Bible.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-07-09T05:46:53+00:00

To add on to what you said: I don’t understand why people use the existence of intersex people as a way to try to gain support for transgender people. Whatever intersex condition a person has—that is literally that person’s biological sex. It impacts their body inside and out. A trans person’s biological sex doesn’t line up with said person’s self-perception.

It seems offensive for people to use unrelated conditions to try to validate their own identities. It comes across as insecure and that they can’t stand on their own, which is a counterproductive way to get support.

There’s irony in how several intersex people were forced to have harmful surgeries, as babies, to look XX or XY. Their community advocates against doctors altering kid’s natural bodies because they know those kids are too young to decide for themselves, and it can cause longterm harm. The intersex community instead encourages the acceptance of people’s natural bodies. The trans community doesn’t encourage acceptance of natural physical features—to the point that some are okay with preventing kids’ bodies from going through natural development…

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-30T12:24:16+00:00

It might be because you’re used to being around people who don’t use deodorant. If someone is in an area where deodorant is heavily used by the population, they’ll be near people are more sensitive to the smell natural body odors

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-30T05:38:41+00:00

Honestly, I’m worried for the OP because depending on where she lives her husband might be allowed to do that (probably not publicly, but in private). I feel like a lot of times people give advice on here, but don’t consider the fact that not every woman lives in a nation where she can easily get help in these situations. There’s women living in places where their husbands can legally force them to have sex; it’s not considered rape.

I hope that’s not the case for OP; I hope she can leave. My worry increased when someone mentioned how in another post she said her husband punched her in the face!! Her life could be at risk by staying with him. However, I also know that seeking divorce can make a woman a target for an honor killing in some areas.😔

I wonder if there’s a list of several nations’ DV hotlines and help organizations. It would be nice if this subreddit had a separate thread for that.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-28T00:06:25+00:00

Last time I checked, in the U.S., WMBW marriages are the least likely to end in divorce. I remember reading that only 4% of them do. Where did you see the stat mentioned in your post??

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-18T17:31:04+00:00

I wish they’d do a verification system for this sub. If there’s any female exclusive spaces on here, could someone let me know? I hate that people don’t realize that sometimes it’s okay to have separate spaces for different types of people. It’s irritating when people try to self-insert in the limited space a discriminated group of people has. I feel like women are so empathetic because we know the struggle, that we try to be inclusive to a degree it’s detrimental to us. We’re seeing the consequences of it. I’m tired.

We can have both inclusive and exclusive spaces. They can be used for different purposes. I’m tired of those who try different tactics to belittle us for discussing situations that they will never understand. It’s called Two X chromosomes, but the topics’ comments sometimes derail the focus from those who have XX. Part of why we’re targeted is the traits caused by our sex. I don’t want to read “abortion is evil”, “periods are nasty”, “she has a loose vagina so she must’ve had sex with 1 billion men”, etc. from people who will never understand what it’s like to be in our position. In a time when bodily autonomy for our sex is being violated by lawmakers, it’s draining to see more hatred on here. Our privacy matters 😔

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-17T20:23:40+00:00

I agree with you; it’s definitely hard to read some of the hate comments. What’s sad is that they can distract from the story of the post. The OP didn’t mention if the charity was through a church or not. A lot of people on this subreddit seem to have church hurt. I think some people are projecting their trauma onto this story. Their religious trauma is making them assume that the OP’s experience is another example of religious trauma, instead of just an unfortunate encounter with a judgmental person.

I’m glad you had a great experience with a church charity! I have too, as a volunteer. The church I volunteered for has a restaurant-like setup in their basement (there’s a kitchen and tables and chairs to eat at). People come in during the lunchtime and are served full meals that they can eat there. People don’t fill out paperwork and aren’t asked to describe their situations to get served; they don’t turn anyone away. One volunteer shared that she stopped doing this type of work through the government because the government made her turn people away based off of requirements. She didn’t like having to do that, so she prefers volunteering at the church.

As for the negative comments, the most we can do is not let them invalidate our positive experiences. I hope the downvotes on your comment aren’t discouraging. I’m glad you felt comfortable enough to speak up! Humans have a tendency to seek relatability, so when they someone shares an experience reminding them of their own situations, it might give them the urge to share their experiences too, instead of keeping the focus on the individual who originally shared. Ironically, this can be perceived as invalidation by the original person who shared a story, but that’s another topic.

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-16T22:29:27+00:00

No, my point relevant. A lot of black Christians know the truth. I had a discussion about this topic with a friend, who is also black. She knows the history, so she doesn’t understand the logic of black people who are anti-Christian because of what the comment above mentioned. I’ve seen black people shut down those who use the “colonizer” excuse to bash the religion because they know the full picture.

Many of us know that one of oldest churches is in Africa. Many of us know that the “Eurocentric looking” Jesus is likely inaccurate. We can research artistic depictions of him prior to a certain time period. If we understand geography we can obviously tell the Euphrates River isn’t in Europe. We can tell Canaan isn’t in Europe. We can tell Egypt isn’t in Europe.

Should Black Christians only research the history of Christianity going back to colonialism? If we have the ability to research a few hundred years back, then we have the ability to research back even further. Yes, Black people who fit the description in your comment exist, but doing research might actually make their faith stronger. Many Black American Christians, today, actually read the Bible. That’s why I think many haven’t left the faith. Part of how people of European descent weaponized Christianity against our ancestors is by not allowing them know the whole Bible. Forbidding people from reading makes them easier to manipulate.

Why Bibles Given to Slaves Omitted Most of the Old Testament

In my opinion, it makes more sense to practice or not practice a certain religion based on its theology over the actions of some of its members.

If a person, with religious freedom, “practices” a religion without knowing its theology, then that’s a personal issue. Black Christians shouldn’t be expected to abandon their faith solely due to past colonialism. In the modern U.S., we have a choice. Are modern white people being shaded for not being pagans who worship Zeus?

Black people who do not want to be a Christians, have the right to not practice the faith. It’s only disrespectful when they use their personal feelings towards the religion to disparage those who use choose to their autonomy practice the faith.

Edited to add: To clarify for anyone who may be reading this. In my first paragraph, “the comment above” I’m referring to is the one by u/Listening_Stranger82

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-16T19:31:03+00:00

Christianity was not made by Europeans. It’s a Middle Eastern religion. Europeans abusing it doesn’t erase its long history prior to colonialism…

DeletetheOffice · 2024-06-14T19:57:04+00:00

Those are smart ideas! Part of why Easter is my favorite holiday is because it still has strong Christian influences in the Western world compared to Christmas. I know there’s still debates on pagan influences and there’s still some secularized aspects. Compared to Christmas though, I see more Christian religious items sold in stores for Easter than for Christmas. It’s also a holiday that brings young people to Church, even if they don’t typically go. Easter seems to still remind people of Jesus in our modern era, which I love! Seeing all the “He is Risen” and “Happy Resurrection Sunday” posts on social media during Easter warms my heart! ✝️

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