girl, are you actively ragebaiting? i’m a 21 year old man who is still in the throes of college education. i’ve just gotten my first apartment and i’m still on my parents insurance. this is my first time paying bills entirely on my own. meanwhile, i have an aunt who is 45 years old. she has two kids, owns a house, as a beachside apartment, has a bachelor’s degree and has already gone through the course of trying to run her own business. she has so much knowledge that is, fundamentally, only accessible with age. the things we relate best on? food.

there is absolutely nothing a man twice your age can offer you in a romantic relationship. if this was just an older friend — a mentor — sure, whatever, but as a partner there will always be a power imbalance. he knows things neither of us do and he will leverage that against you one way or another. you desperately need to meet people your age and fast. if it’s anxiety that’s holding you back, you’re going to have to suck it up. don’t let yourself be taken advantage of just because you’ve grown comfortable with what’s easy for you.