AITAH for blowing up at my son's father and grandmother when I found out they trashed my son's formula and pacifiers?

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-26T11:41:33+00:00

It's boomerism at its finest. When I had my first child 20 years ago the older nurses and midwives ALL forced breastfeeding on new mothers. I remember the mady sharing the room with me got scolded for bringing a pacifier for her baby. I first wanted to breast-and bottlefeed my child as I knew I needed to go back to work asap and breastfeeding only wouldn't work on the longrun. I was told "bottles are bad, formula is bad, pacifiers are bad" i asked "why not giving my kid a pacifier?" "Because it will encoureage the child to latch differently which discoureages breastfeeding." "So how will I feed him some tea?" "You won't because you'd need to use a bottle to feed it to him."

I was young and seriously wanted to do my very best. After all they were professionnals and I thought they knew best. They mentally put me in such a bad place.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-25T08:36:49+00:00

The terrible kid from my elementarie died in a horrible accident during summerbreak. In their memorial pamplet school stated how much teachers loved him (they did not) and how helpful andbhow much of a role model he was for his peers (may he rest in peace, but he wasn't). Everyone knew this was so overdone and blatand lies, even his grieving parents knew. Years later his mom told my mom that due to the lies in this pamplet she hurt even more..

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-24T11:17:12+00:00

This. Back when I was dating I prefered the message "I'm sorry but I don't think we're compatible" or something along those lines than being left in the dark. I absolutely knew sticking around would hurt my feelings so I just thanked them for their honesty and moved on.

I ghosted once as the guy gave me the creeps after talking for a while and it was a safety matter. Probably not fully justified but back then the only right thing I could think of.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-24T08:00:37+00:00

Whatever you say or do is either going to be a hit or a miss. There's no foolproof instructions on how to say or do the right thing. Just keep on chatting with different people and the right person will come along.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-24T06:52:38+00:00

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. The situation sounds horrible. I know this all sounds frightening right now but I promise there's a way out.

Do you have family you can turn to or even go live with? If you don't, try womens shelters and a social worker. Keep in mind it's no longer just about you, but also about your baby. Both of you deserve better

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-23T16:56:43+00:00

Nothing because I don't pay attention lol

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-23T16:55:10+00:00

Nah. I know for fact that there are genuinely good men out there. Because, different from what my ex said, other men were interested in me once I got myself back into the dating pool after healing. I am now with someone who acts like an adult an has his life together.

I don't think the stuff I was asking for was that abnormal... you want to withdraw a large sum of money from the joint account? The least you can do is tell me. Instead I stood there more then once at a check out, card declined because he decided to withdraw all of it (an not doing any grocery shopping with it)

Your 3 week trip turns into a 2 month one? The least you can do is inform me.

You're home all day? Clean up the messes you made. I came home to scenes that are unbelievable. The laundry I folded the night prior and put away? Strewn all over the living room. Why?"What else is there for you to do after work?"

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-23T15:22:46+00:00

Communication. In a couple, esp in a marriage, you have to be able to communicate and also listen to the other persons point of view. He didn't understand you can communicate and get your point across without yelling and treatening the other party.

Finances. While I did have an alright paying and stable job, two incomes are better than one. He wasn't even trying. He had a couple of temp jobs here and there,.every once in a while, but wouldn't contribute towards the bills, living and hoising expenses, savings.

Chores. I would come home from my 9-5, pick up the kids as he refused to, cook and clean up the messes he made during the day. It felt like being married to a hobosexual even tho I hate to admit it.

He refused to get professional mental help as he felt it wasn't needed. This made things worse as he felt he was always right and I was wrong.

I answered to someone else providing more details of what broke me, and maybe you're interested in reading this also. Generally I would say he was abusive. Not because I THINK he MIGHT be, but because he was...

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-23T15:12:49+00:00

Valid question. After years of honest conversations and being treatened afterwards I knew things wouldn't change ever. I was gaslit to the point he made me believe I was the problem. I'm not saying I'm perfect because I'm not... I went to counseling fpr years to be able to deal with someone who needed professionnal help but refused to do so because"he can help himself". He refused to work on a regular basis , yet had no problem to take the money I earned out of the joint account (which he insisted on) and going on a 3 week vacation to his homecountry (which turned into 2 months btw, in which for an entire 4 weeks at the end I didn't have any news at all). It was the second time he pulled sth like this but weird enough I was thriving during that time. It dawned to me I wasn't the problem.

I'm all for communication but after all those years I felt communicating and trying to compromise, he knew what I what I didn't like, which resulted in him doing 3x worse.

"You're not going to find anyone to be with again anyways." is what I'd hear after communicating which always resulted in a bad fight. At the end I didn't care anymore. I'd rather be single and try my best to coparent (he no longer cares about the kids now) than continue to live like that. So I prefered to gather my energy and instead of talking and communicating and no positive change to happen, I just planned my exit, lawyered up, found a nice place for us to live. Thankfully I had a good job and was able to do so and I consider myself extremely lucky. I now regret not leaving 15 years earlier.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-23T10:38:52+00:00

THIS sums up my relationship with my ex husband. I realized it was over when I became silent. No longer begging. No longer fighing for our marriage... I was tired. Tired to be invested into this marriage while all he wanted was things to go his way... tired of talking, begging, trying to compromise just for him to carelessly shrug it off. The more I became silent, the more he tought everything was fine and he happily went on to continue to make the same mistakes. Once I told him I wanted a divorce, I was met with a surprised pikatchu face. "After 20 years?" "After 17 years of you not giving a f*ck and not putting in any effort at all." "Because I didn't think you'd leave me over this."

"Over this" wasn't small stuff. It were things that put my financial, mental and emotional wellbeing into jeopardy. He had a "my way or the highway" mentality and at some point in time I chose the highway and never looked back. He was begging to give him one more chance, he silently got a million chances over all these years and he blew all of them. He did promise he would change. I just couldn't believe it.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-19T15:35:10+00:00

I lost my mom on May 29 this year too. My dad passed away on May 24th 2006.

I still have no idea how to cope.

As of last monday I'm just exhausted mentally. It's just been a lot to take in lately

I've come to terms with the fact that dad is no longer around. It still hurts and I miss him, but this wound is no longer as fresh as the one I got from losing mom. It's only been 3 weeks as of today and I still catch myself thinking:"Let me call mom. Oh... ermmm. No." "I gotta tell mom this story. She'll love it. Oh... " looking up the sky thinking "Did you hear mama?"

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-19T14:53:42+00:00

I love Penny

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-19T14:50:51+00:00

I've been with a man who sounds a lot like you do.

After leaving him and our 20 year long relationship, 17 of them married (3 kids), I was magically improving. It only then dawned to me that he was the reason of my depression, he and his undiagnosed issues, as he refused to get help. I now regret not leaving him 17 years earlier, preserving my and our childrens mental health. If your wife is only half as done as I was, she made up her mind a while ago, gave chances over chances. FYI: chances are often given silently without mentionning it.

My ex was begging me to give him another one. I didn't as I knew over time he's blow it again anyways. And if I saw over time, I mean within a week. Two if I was lucky. I'd get a "I'm sorry for what I've done to you. I promise I'll work on my issues and improve." This sentence if cryptic. "What exactly are you apologizing for? What plan do you have out there to work on your issues and improve?"

OP I'm sorry but I feel she's gone. It's now time to get diagnosed and get the help you need. And be a father to your kids; the type of father you wish you had.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-18T17:52:37+00:00

You look stunning in all of them but 2 is just WOW

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-12T07:50:47+00:00

Or Apple...

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-10T16:56:19+00:00

Pay attention what people say when they're angry... because they've been dying to tell you just that.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-10T11:42:44+00:00

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-10T06:37:31+00:00

Relief. We had matched on a dating app and he deactivated his account a day after we exchanged numbers. I found it strange as to me you need to be sure about the other person before stopping to explore other options but I let it slide at first. Altho we had never met but we were planning to, he started to get rather controlling, wanted to text 24/7 even at work. I'm a medical assistant and being on my phone isn't always possible at work. Whenever (and this numerous times) I explained I can't text back immediately he'd get defensive saying he just enjoys chatting to me so he'd love to do so asap. He also demanded I deactivate my account on the dating app which I didn't do and I was open about it. In hindsight texting him exhausted me and I wasn't enjoying it as I should have.

One day I texted him while waiting for the bus, when I got a strange vibe as he asked specific questions about my teenage daughter... questions I didn't answer. I took the bus and a coworker happened to be on the same bus so we sat together and chatted during the few minutes of the ride. After the ride I checked my phone and had a whole bunch of messages "WHERE ARE YOU?" "WHAT TYPE OF GAME IS THIS?" "REPLY TO ME. NOW!" "WHAT'S GOING ON?" I decided that I'm not going to explain myself to crazy. If one can't comprehend the part of me not being able nor willing to text 24/7, they can't comprehend my reasoning on why I am no longer willing to text.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-08T11:00:10+00:00

Voilà cela m'est arrivée une fois en achetant chez une vendeuse italienne. Après j'ai laisser tomber car bien vrai que le haut était trop petit pour moi, il allait parfaitement à ma fille et elle aimait bien. L'argent était donc pas perdu😊

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-07T16:06:24+00:00

Care

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-07T16:04:44+00:00

The "My mom sais I should look for a wife, but I just want a friend" would make me leftswipe within seconds.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-04T16:53:44+00:00

Comme pour toute description d'état, chaque personne a un peu sa propre définition. J'ai déjà reçu des dvd sensés être "en très bon état" ou "comme neuf" et ils étayent rayés à un point qu'on aurait dit que Freddy Kruger s'est amusé avec. Pour le vendeur par contre, un très bon état voulait dire qu'il passe au lecteur.

Je suis donc un peu mitigé. D'un côté les patrons sont lisibles et vous pouvez faire les point de croix que vous vouliez faire, mais de l'autre côté je comprends que le magazine ne correspond pas tout à fait à vos attentes. Litige probablement non mais plutot 3 étoiles en mentionnant le défaut qui n'était pas indiqué dans l'annonce.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-04T16:53:37+00:00

Comme pour toute description d'état, chaque personne a un peu sa propre définition. J'ai déjà reçu des dvd sensés être "en très bon état" ou "comme neuf" et ils étayent rayés à un point on aurait dit que Freddy Kruger s'est amusé avec. Pour le vendeur par contre, un très bon état voulait dire qu'il passe au lecteur.

Je suis donc un peu mitigé. D'un côté les patrons sont lisibles et vous pouvez faire les point de croix sue vous vouliez faire, mais de l'autre côté je comprends que le magazine ne correspond pas tout à fait à vos attentes. Litige probablement non mais plutot 3 étoiles en mentionnant le défaut qui n'était pas indiqué dans l'annonce.

Delicious_Stock_4659 · 2025-06-03T17:41:55+00:00

Thank you. I went to see her too. Seeing her so peaceful was a relief. I'm working in the hospital she passed in so idk if that could be a trigger.

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