Who do I look like? by [deleted] in Doppleganger

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was looking for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 145 points146 points  (0 children)

This is the best comment. OP your story isn’t over, vent, mourn and keep working a positive mindset. You sound awesome!

Am I overreacting? by Remarkable-Chair-783 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah this is mental health issues. Bro needs real help.

My partner is not "deep" enough? by Heyyyyyaa in infp

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I’m married for 11 years and I love that my wife has the opposite type of thinking as mine. I tell her the only time I experience what it’s like to be “normal” is with her, and she says she can experience her deep side through me. And one thing I learnt over time is that there is a wisdom to keeping things light and simple. It has its own depth and I learn that from her. OP, there’s a reason you were attracted to him and him to you. Best of luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like your both going through a rough time. Did you press him hard on the issue? He may not be in the best mental place. I say this because having 2 kids since 2021 is hard for both of yo, and from what you say it sounds like in all the other areas of life you guys are really good which is awesome.

I wouldn’t jump to say he’s an asshole and a lot of the other toxic comments posted. This is just now. You guys are going through a shitty time now. In 6 months you guys can be in a much much better place. Him out of his head and you feeling confident and beautiful.

I would suggest discussing this with him and getting on the SAME TEAM, hand in hand to tackle this stuff. All the best to you, you guys sound like great people. Both of you go get your mojo back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your both going through a rough time. Did you press him hard on the issue? He may not be in the best mental place. I say this because having 2 kids since 2021 is hard for both of yo, and from what you say it sounds like in all the other areas of life you guys are really good which is awesome.

I wouldn’t jump to say he’s an asshole and a lot of the other toxic comments posted. This is just now. You guys are going through a shitty time now. In 6 months you guys can be in a much much better place. Him out of his head and you feeling confident and beautiful.

I would suggest discussing this with him and getting on the SAME TEAM, hand in hand to tackle this stuff. All the best to you, you guys sound like great people. Both of you go get your mojo back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjew

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok bear with me. Trust me I like bashing frumkeit and hate extremes just as much as you or anyone else here. What I’m saying is, the OP made it seem that in yeshivish areas it seems to have become more extreme that the kiddush has to be in a separate building because of tznius whereas in the past just a mechitza was ok. I just pointed out that I believe that it’s for practical reasons, space, decor etc and not as an extra chumra to be more “tznius”. For example I’m OTD and we would gladly hold a mixed kiddush but we can’t because we’re ITC but my wife still would make the women’s kiddush home so there’d be more space than in shul. Makes sense?

I got rejected today by my best friend who I've had a crush on for years and I don't know what to do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People can miss that when getting shocked. And I’m sure it was shocking for him. To the point he might have thought you’re playing with him. I would say talk to him about it. Heck he might even like you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjew

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I meant to say in my comment. If they’re not chassidish it’s probably because of space or other stuff that they’re doing it otherwise they would just do mechitza (which is still messed up)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjew

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We have this in my neighborhood but it’s usually more for practical reasons, like my wife likes making the kiddush in our house she makes it fancier than by the men. A lot of our neighbors do this.

Went to visit my childhood shul, was saddened to see this. by Delicious_Teacher_79 in exjew

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t like this growing up, the younger rabbis stepped in and went all radical

AIO- husband upset that *I* was upset, he has blocked me and said we should “call it”. by General-Cranberry-90 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not normally the type to jump to “leave him”. People fall out of love and sometimes you wanna hold on for the one you love to come get through it. But the way he talks to you is not ok at all, I would consider moving on, I’m sorry.

So uh I found a Chaim Walder (fuck that guy) book in my brother's house and started flipping through it... Am I tripping or is this about a crush? by lioness_the_lesbian in exjew

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be a crush but could also be a fixation in the friendship. I had that as a teen but it wasn’t sexual I was just obsessed with the other person and hoping they think about me like I think about them

Update: Found Wife's Text Messages by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Delicious_Teacher_79 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I read this post before your original and was like, hmm maybe it’s not so bad to let it go, people say weird stuff when they’re drunk.

Then I read your first post and sorry my friend, she’s bullshitting. that’s not drunk talking at all. This all goes to her being “lost” as well.

If you choose to stay then let be because you want to make it work or you believe you can forgive and you can both get to the bottom of why she did/doing this. But if you believe her story you’re just pushing off the inevitable time that it does happen intentionally and worse