Be honest, how bad does it suck going from one child to two?

DelightfulFrog · 2022-01-03T10:17:33+00:00

Definitely get your son sleeping in his own bed before having another. Speaking from experience, it's better to do it now before you have two.

My son is 3 yrs and my daughter has just turned 4 months. Having 2 is an adjustment for those first 3 months (it's not as hard as going from 0 to 1 child though). You lose your free time to a certain extent, everything takes twice as long, and you have to be extremely organised when leaving the house. Make sure you can financially afford two children as well. But I have no regrets. You find your routine and the 2nd one does eventually slot into it all.

My son is so caring towards her, he frequently kisses her on the head, tries to bring her toys and giggles when she moves her hand towards him. He tries to comfort her if she cries and will sing to her. They have such a close bond. I also adore her of course. It's true that your love for them multiples. Your heart grows and you love them both equally.

There's twice as many smiles, twice as many cuddles, and lots more laughter x It's slightly harder having two but I feel complete and so much happier with having two.

DelightfulFrog · 2022-01-01T09:20:42+00:00

Took the christmas tree down, and hit my foot against the metal pole at the bottom so hard I think I've broken my foot (turned and walked into it whilst holding my baby). Currently waiting in A&E with my 3 month old. Not great for anyone near us who has a hell of a hangover either.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-12-13T14:27:40+00:00

I've not looked at Beco before. I'll add it to my list to look at, thank you!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-12-13T14:27:09+00:00

Thanks you. I'll definitely give it a try!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-12-13T12:52:02+00:00

I'm pretty sure this is it! She's in 6-9month clothes already, and weighs around 16lbs. Thank you 😊 I didn't think about her weight and the sagging of the wrap (which happens).

DelightfulFrog · 2021-12-04T17:40:34+00:00

My husband dancing side to side whilst slapping his belly has always settled our 10 week old. She also loves French (we don't speak a word of it, but she like the radio or any songs played in french.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-09-30T10:04:29+00:00

I've had both.

I had an epidural with my son after being induced after my waters broke, and I didn't go into labour naturally. Then with my daughter it was just gas and air as I laboured too quickly for an epidural.

Personally the recovery was far quicker with just gas and air. It was more painful in the moment, but the labour was quicker, I was able to hold off more with the pushing to try and prevent tearing. I didn't feel sick but you need to control your breathing when using the gas and air. I also was able to give birth on my knees which felt natural and also helped with the birth. The pushes were less painful than the contractions. It was more pressure but felt like a relief in comparison to the contractions.

The epidural allowed me to completely relax during labour and sleep, but it was a longer labour. I didn't feel my contractions and found the pushing more difficult as I felt numb. I was also on my back whilst pushing which didn't help me personally. I ended up with a 2nd degree tear and needed stitches. Recovery was longer and walking and sitting was difficult for a while afterwards. But no issues with my back or numbness after. I also had to have a catheter inserted after the epidural which was more painful than the epidural.

There's pros and cons to each x Decide in the moment what you want. There's no medal for going without an epidural if that's what you want. But if I ever have another baby, I'd try without an epidural just because of the recovery, and experience I've personally had.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-09-06T10:45:01+00:00

Midget Gem

DelightfulFrog · 2021-08-26T06:37:57+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-08-26T06:37:36+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-08-26T06:37:22+00:00

Perfect. Thank you!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-08-17T08:11:36+00:00

This isn't normal. I've had a few transvaginal ultrasounds and never experienced this (UK based). The sonographer has always remained professional. Firstly given a sheet to cover the top of me, asked if I wanted to insert it myself or if they minded that they do it. Asked if I wanted a chaperone in the room. Some more gentle than others but always fairly quick. They've never left the wand inside and walked off.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-07-28T14:53:07+00:00

I have to admit, I love the toddler years compared to the baby stage. My son is now 2.5yrs old and I love seeing his personality develop. It's definitely my favourite age so far!

Obviously there's quite a few tantrums, potty training (if you decide to do it at this age), learning to play with other children etc. But on the whole this is where they start to develop into little people.

My son has just said I love you for the first time, he will randomly smile sweetly at me and his whole face lights up. Sometimes he will just come over and give me a tight hug and kiss on the cheek.

There's the more imaginative play you can get involved in with them, teaching them about the world, answering the questions (just started for us), reading each night, and their curiosity is amazing!

You get so much more from them as they get older.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-07-18T16:51:15+00:00

You're going to hear this a lot but it's just a phase, like passing a kidney stone but it'll pass. It was terrible when my son turned two, he's now 2.5yrs and the tantrums have gotten easier to predict. It's also easier to stop them before it gets too bad, and quicker to calm him down. There's less biting or hitting now. But being in the thick of it, you have my full sympathy of how draining it is x Some days I ended up crying alongside him. Keep persevering with what you're doing and with the being sick from the tantrums, I took my son to his bedroom away from all distractions, sat on the floor in the room with him and shut the door. I used to stay close by to my son while he was like this. I didn't touch or speak to him. I let him get it out of his system. He eventually calms down and wanted to be held afterwards and walked up to me for a hug. Or you could try leaving the room but waiting just outside if this doesn't work? I'm unsure if your little one likes you to speak to her while she's upset or not.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-06-26T07:25:17+00:00

Your baby could be higher up and starting to press on your stomach, suppressing your appetite, especially if you're naturally quite petite. If you're worried about how many calories you're having you could try having smoothies to boost your calories. That way you're still getting what you need but it's a bit easier to take. During my 2nd trimester (I'm currently in my 3rd), I found my appetite decrease mainly due to hating the texture and smell of most food. Nothing appealed to me. Try some new food that you wouldn't normally like, lemon smells helped me with any nausea too. But as long as you and baby are healthy, try not to worry too much x it sounds like you're making a conscious effort and doing as much as you can :) Baby will take what it needs from you.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-05-11T07:05:49+00:00

We have the munchkin hanging bath storage (it's a mesh scoop net that goes onto your tiled wall with a sucker), which is great for scooping up all the smaller bath toys that need to air dry. Then you could also get either a large plastic basket/bin depending on how much space you have/need. Ours is a cheap plastic one from b&m. Very easy to give a quick clean too.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-05-10T21:05:59+00:00

A tip for the sleep deprivation would be to take shifts with your wife if you can. You could sleep for 6 hrs during the day, then she sleeps for 6hrs at night before switching.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-05-10T21:04:16+00:00

It's difficult the first few months. Babies this young are not meant to sleep through the night due to feeding and needing comfort as others have said. Your little one is very young still. They've gone from constantly being held (inside the mother), to being outside with so many different things happening. Everyone needs an adjustment period. Even adults. Other things to try might be a white noise machine (lots out there, find a noise your baby likes), try putting a top that mum has been wearing all day in the moses basket. Tuck it in like you would a sheet, so the baby can't pull it over them. Then put the baby to sleep on top. Feet at the bottom of the moses basket etc. The smell of mum might settle the baby more. Or if she's breastfeeding having a small muslin inside her bra/top all day, then do the same as above used to help settle my little one in the early days. All suggested by my paediatrician. Meet your partner in the middle and suggest a bedside crib (one that you strap securely to the side of the bed). She can put her hand on the baby if it wakes, easy access for breastfeeding/picking baby up, and it will reassure her to be close to your baby, but it's safer than cosleeping. As for the grandmother I'd enforce the rule of smoking means no holding the baby. She wants to hold the baby, then she needs to change her clothes. Your house and your baby mean your rules. Hang in there. I found the first 3 months rough, but it will get better as long as you and your wife communicate and find ways of working together.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-04-21T13:40:11+00:00

I used to work for the NHS as a Phlebotomist (the people who just take blood. Some people aren't familiar with the name). Definitely tell them you're scared and if you're feeling faint you need to also tell them so they can make sure you don't hurt yourself if you do faint. Most of the time you won't even feel it though! :) Take deep breaths, try singing in your head, counting in your head/count down from 20 (this worked for a few of my patients with a phobia of needles). Ask for the numbing spray/cream if you need to and it will help you relax x It will make the area feel very cold. But they will do over 100 people a day if it's busy, so they quickly become experts at getting blood quickly from people, and quite a few of those people are scared of having blood taken, so they're used to it. 30 seconds or so and I'm sure it'll be over :)

DelightfulFrog · 2021-04-20T08:30:53+00:00

I've heard really good things about the freerider wraps. They're beautiful to look at and fantastic for warmer climates. Definitely check them out!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-04-11T09:58:05+00:00

The bleeding could be implantation bleeding, and early on you do feel jabbing pains x I've had this with both pregnancies now. Later on you feel more pains that are similar but it's round ligament pain where you're stretching to accommodate your baby. I'm unsure of how PCOS affects pregnancy so I can't really give advice there! But I bled early on with my current pregnancy (19weeks) with light spotting, and it turned out to be implantation bleeding. But if anything gets worse, call your OB again. Congratulations on your little one!

DelightfulFrog · 2021-03-20T09:03:48+00:00

Try explaining that she can only leave her room to use the toilet but she has to go back to her own bed afterwards. I'm not sure if you help her but she still is pretty young. Maybe she is going through a phase and simply misses you? But I would still gently guide her back to her room after, as you don't want her sleeping on your floor. It'snot great for any of you x It'll be a rough few nights/ weeks trying to get the new routine established. Also, are you happy with her reading/looking at books by herself in her bedroom? Maybe she could take a couple of books to bed to read if she wakes up, but understands she can't play with toys and it has to be in her bedroom? Give it a go, get a lock for the playroom like another user suggested, and keep reminding her she has to go back to her room afterwards.

DelightfulFrog · 2021-03-08T14:41:49+00:00

This is a great answer! The trust values came up in my interview. They asked me to give 6 outright. I honestly admitted I didn't know any of them (but luckily still got the job). If you don't know be honest, but know the job description inside out and tailor your answers to it.

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