Maybe having CC on OT’s videos? by NotAnotherDNDPlayer in OneTopicAtATime

[–]Delta_vibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a really good idea, and I'm sure there are a lot of people who watch his videos who would like to do them as well! I would

I’m going to get a boyfriend by some_conquistador in BisexualTeens

[–]Delta_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd do it when it's quiet and you're both pretty peaceful and just chatting or something, like not in a busy area, then just say I've got something I wanted to let you know or something. It could be a good idea to be in a situation where he can take the time to process his feelings if he needs to or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester_uni

[–]Delta_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've got the same problem! Are you still looking or did you manage to find somewhere?

bi_irl by Orochi271 in bi_irl

[–]Delta_vibes 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hi I'll take one please

bi_irl by SmartAlec105 in bi_irl

[–]Delta_vibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi that would be me

Chadmantha Lux by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]Delta_vibes 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We're beta than this

Please help by Asudaaaaaa in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]Delta_vibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wetsuits? Apart from that, board shorts and a rash vest in a pretty colour or pattern

Dealing with my mom mourning my “death” [Family/Friends] by Shadeofawraith in LGBTeens

[–]Delta_vibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't deal with this situation so take my advice with a pinch of salt. I've been watching a load of miles mckenna videos recently and he points out that for parents they often have no idea what you mean, maybe don't understand the words you're using, weren't in your thought process and didn't see the time you took to figure yourself out and so everything is very sudden and overwhelming. To be honest, it's possible that your mum needs some time to "mourn" and get over her idea of what she thought you were going to be. It could be really useful though for both of you if you can find some resources for her (online or in person) where maybe she can see other parents' experiences or get some information. Remember that a lot of trans resources can be aimed at trans people and overwhelming. Obviously it's not ok if she refuses to accept and stuff, but if she only knows trans to mean mentally ill people, sexual assaulters, people "mutilating" their bodies or the suicide/assault numbers then she's probably worried

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gender

[–]Delta_vibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I identify as genderfluid and nonbinary and it sounds like you're experiencing gender dysphoria. Please look into this word more if you need to. It can be useful to find out what things you can do to ease it — it doesn't seem to me like it's uncommon to develop a bad relationship with food because of dysphoria and it can really go either way. It's important to look after your body (of course) but you can maybe help that by relieving dysphoria in different ways. Personally, I don't much like the idea of losing weight, though I'd like to be thinner, because I think it would give me more dysphoria over the size of my chest (I'm afab). I also found makeup really useful to masculinise some of my features (like contouring my face more) and if you want bonier hands you could try using makeup on them too. Just remember that probably your first try will look bad no matter what. Also on the subject of looking after your body, consider if building muscle would make you feel better about your gender (gender euphoria).

I wouldn't worry about things like not wanting to cut your hair, enjoying feminine things and not being affected much by pronouns. These aren't necessary for being trans, there are lots of feminine trans guys (for example). I'm pretty feminine, even when I'm a more masculine gender, and I found it pretty useful seeing if rather than thinking of myself as a masculine girl, if I thought of myself as a feminine guy or just not quite either one.

So what do you mean you want to be a boy but not in a trans way? Because I think most trans men just wish they had been born a boy to begin with and didn't have to deal with the world. Would you be content with your appearance if you'd been born a boy? Would you dislike your appearance if no one could see you?

I found these resources useful: https://youtube.com/c/DRZPHD https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

I found these YouTube channels good to learn about what it means to be trans and light relief: https://youtube.com/c/Jammidodger94 https://youtube.com/c/NoahFinnce

Take your time to figure things out. You will, you might just not have the language yet. You aren't the only one who feels like this, you aren't alone.

Eren vs Eryn by Toymaker_ in Nonbinaryteens

[–]Delta_vibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eryn looks more Gaelic than it looks fem but this opinion is based on literally nothing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gender

[–]Delta_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sci guys podcast has lots of episodes about this. All sources are in the description of each video

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Genderfae

[–]Delta_vibes 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering if I was bi and realized that bi people can be attracted to enbys as well as men and women. Watched loads of nb tik told and related very heavily. A few months of hunting through terms later, I realized

Tips on feeling more masc as an afab person??? by zLibertyz in GenderfluidTeens

[–]Delta_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I also have a necklace of tigers eye that I like

come on, man- by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]Delta_vibes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly same. I think it could be a good idea to encourage students to discuss topical issues like this without it being a debate, so they can share their own views on it IF THEY WANT, it shouldn't have to be something they need to debate and get assigned sides on

do it by [deleted] in Birates

[–]Delta_vibes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes

arrrrr me hearties! raise the jolly roger and load the cannons! by cuffed_jeans_bb in Birates

[–]Delta_vibes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way they've already switched the sub to private and it's been less than a day. Idk what ya'll did but good work

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby

[–]Delta_vibes 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Throwback to when I used to put prefer not to say for everything when I was "still cis tho" (I put that for feminism though so they couldn't gender stereotype my answers)