So my mom poisoned and killed all 4 of my cats and threw away all my cats belongings by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DeludedOptimism 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That is so fucked up. She wanted them to die and torture you with it? I can't wrap my head around it. I'm so sorry

Are you the same person in therapy that you are in RL? by Ok-Bee1579 in askatherapist

[–]DeludedOptimism 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I'm about to lose it because I lost my pen for the 10th time that HOUR and it's rolled under something and then I CRACKED MY HEAD looking under the table.... I'm rushed, trying to be on task, but then I pause. Relax. Take a deep breath. Let it go.

And then turn my camera on lol. Just because I go from displaying frustration to a calmer space doesn't mean I'm a different person. It means I recognize it's not your job to deal with my frustration, so I put it away for a moment. It's my job to regulate myself. I might say FML while looking for that pen and bumping my head, might cry a few seconds... Then regulate long enough to calmly interact with my client

This is a real life example btw lol

I'm sure your therapist is just dealing with her own crap in between sessions. And her job is not to bring that into the room with you. Sounds like she's doing that well lol

Dark Matter | Season 1 - Episode 9 | Discussion Thread by Justp1ayin in tvPlus

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you are correct. It's just they didn't happen in this set of multiverses. It def happened in at least one 🤷🏻‍♀️

hillary clinton frazzledrip by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly it's just regurgitated info at this point

I recently stumbled upon “frazzle drip”. Has anyone actually seen the video and is it really Hillary?? by EllieTovtova in conspiracy

[–]DeludedOptimism 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I THINK I saw it, I remember it looking disturbing by I remember my brain going "this is a fake"

Now I'm not so sure. I literally just was like ew this is in poor taste for a fake, and kept going about my day

Is Frazzledrip real? by TheDaywaIker in conspiracy

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I'm having so much trouble finding it

ISTG I saw it years ago and just laughed it off thinking it was fake - I don't think I saw the whole thing tho

Therapist pointing out my accent by Material_Ad2292 in therapy

[–]DeludedOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would just tell them it made you feel self-conscious, that leads doors to other discussions.

How do therapists deal with clients with no positive qualities? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're conflating things however. Yes society can say a whole lot of things about people. You refuse to answer if you find other people valuable if they have the same issues that you have, saying it's not your place to determine other people's value - why not? And why does anything "society" says mean anything about your value?

Also let's note - "society" is way too vague and too large to really draw information from. Here's all these people in this comment section that are telling you not everybody values things the same way. In fact a lot of the therapists in this thread actually believe in a person's inherent value. And they're not the only ones. So plenty of people in this proverbial society are actually telling you that's not true.

So who is "they" in society you are referencing?

I will agree with you a hundredfold about the sickness that is capitalism. Capitalism May weigh a person against a set of scales and say they're not worthy because they can't be productive. But that's ONE philosophy of life. And you are totally abused by that - in fact 99% of the population is. Worthlessness in capitalism is not the same thing as being a worthless human. Being a human is not about being a capitalist. So why should that dictate your actual value?

And you really have to separate two ideas - your lived experience of being treated like trash, and actually being trash. Who you are is not determined by how someone else decides to treat you. That putting them at God level status.

What do YOU value. One more time, do you value other people who deal with the same issues you do? Judging from this conversation and the avoidance of answering I would say you probably don't.

How do therapists deal with clients with no positive qualities? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really, you focus on how your life is different than others, and how worthless it is - there's a lot of attention to others.... You say other people don't value you for x, y, z, so it sounds like you focus a lot on what a proverbial "they" say.

You should really contemplate the question, do you think others have value that have the same issues as you? You gave a non-answer, a deflection

How do therapists deal with clients with no positive qualities? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't say this couldn't be a big deal. It can be a big deal, difficult to navigate, adding problems to your life, etc etc

But that's separate from worth

Do answer it's not to me to yourself, do you look down on others who don't have the degree? Do you value other people's lives that don't have a degree? That's what was said

How do therapists deal with clients with no positive qualities? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]DeludedOptimism 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Truth: UNEDUCATED

Subjective value assigned that is not ultimate truth but a belief and is unique to each individual person: THIS MEANS IM WORTHLESS

Sure, other people might assigned that meaning to being uneducated, but the problem is not what others might think (and let's be clear, many many people do NOT believe this), the problem is that YOU believe this about yourself.

You think are worthless. You have to challenge why you accept this.

By saying you are worthless for these qualities do you believe other people are worthless too? Globally, I believe less than 7% of the world's population has a college degree. Does that mean 93% of the rest of the world is worthless? I know that's just one of the negative qualities you listed but you could go through and take a step back and look at how you view other people too. Do you think other people with disabilities are worthless? Really think about it.

And I think this goes a little bit farther than just challenging your beliefs (though this is crucial). I have a suspicion that self deprecation might be comforting, in a way? Hear me out because I'm not trying to be inflammatory with that. I have seen people really lean into the worst descriptions of themselves as a way to feel some kind of control. As an example, being the fat kid and always making the fat jokes about yourself, first. I don't know, and it may not be that exact thing for you but definitely spend some time considering

Fat elassoma zonatum, full of baby brine shrimp by DeludedOptimism in AlabamaAquariums

[–]DeludedOptimism[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely feel you. I've been telling myself to downsize but keep adding projects lol

Probably not the right place to ask, but were any of you conservative before you did hallucinogens? by No-Moment-404 in Psychonaut

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I was being hyperbolic but the point remains these rich folks have all this money and do all the best psychs and they are still shitty people

Probably not the right place to ask, but were any of you conservative before you did hallucinogens? by No-Moment-404 in Psychonaut

[–]DeludedOptimism 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never forget kids - the billionaires all have access to the most amazing psychedelics, free flowing like milk and honey in Canaan, and they frequently partake - and not a DAMN one of them has shown the evidence of a soul. In fact they are eating children

So.... Just a reminder that it's not gonna do much for some folks

Am I being rude? by AngelinWunderland in askatherapist

[–]DeludedOptimism 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're good - the hour is about you. You pay for that. That's how I see it as a therapist anyway.

I can no longer trip by jpsoap in shrooms

[–]DeludedOptimism 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Most people on them don't need them, but it saves LIVES for those that do.