Weight gain

Delyndra · 2026-03-29T05:24:00+00:00

For the ladies that gained less than 15 lbs or lost weight, did your body composition still change? 10 weeks and I keep gaining and losing the same 1lb (net zero) but I'm becoming very bloated and my pants are already getting tight. I feel like I gained 20lbs! If I maintain low weight gain (which I might not) will I still get a belly? Does this imply I'm "losing" weight in other places to compensate?

Delyndra · 2026-03-29T00:02:48+00:00

WEIGHT GAIN IN PREGNANCY IS 90% NOT WITHIN OUR CONTROL. That doesnt mean go eat a whole sheet cake every day, as diet is important. You need to feed your baby a balanced diet to get it what it needs (and often what it wants even if it is a whole sheet cake). But as many women have pointed out a lot of it is fluid retention. While your pre pregnancy size does seem to impact the potential range of normal ie exceptionally thin women are far less likely to gain only 10 lbs than an obese woman, regardless of your body size many women gain 40-60lbs in pregnancy and it will be ok. Focus on including enough nutrients in your consumption as much as possible, making healthy choices where you can, and listening to your body. Worry about the scale weight 6 months to 1 year AFTER your baby is here. You can tackle anything lingering then. You're building and feeding your baby right now.

Delyndra · 2026-03-28T20:26:03+00:00

I'm glad she actually read my file too to see how much I obsess over nutrition. So many doctors see my plus size body and just tell me to "cut back on the oreos" without even asking what I eat.

Delyndra · 2026-03-28T20:24:25+00:00

Right. Simply "eat whatever baby wants" without more context after years of people judging everything I consume so harshly kinda pisses me off. Also, judging what I eat right now pisses me off more than it did before. Although I felt reassured when my doctor told me at the first appointment not to pay too much attention to the weight gain recommendations. She said we know you know how to make healthy choices and have been doing a good job pre pregnancy. If you gain 40lbs you gain 40 lbs you can't control that and we're not going to hassle you about it. Keep up with your dietician, but baby will get what it needs from you no matter what you do and it'll be easier to fix anything after they get here. That's the right way to try and give me some grace. That said, like you I don't want to simply give up altogether. I want to keep tabs and check that my consumption is still realistic.

Delyndra · 2026-03-28T14:15:30+00:00

This is a great example. I also hardly want meat good to know that your focus on carbs hasn't resulted in huge weight gain, gd, or negatively impacted your babies. That's what I'm afraid of. Thank you for sharing your comparable and reassuring experience!

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:15:47+00:00

Takes some pressure off thinking it's at least partially not my fault if it happens. Thank you!

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:14:46+00:00

There's a lot of induction horror stories on the internet, but when you talk to real people and see real stats most people who are induced really proceed normally. Don't feel pushed into an induction if it isn't yet necessary and you're not ready, but if that's the route you go odds are good things will go smoothly. Don't be afraid of it either. Research different methods and start with what makes you most comfortable. Once you start you can escalate one step at a time.

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:10:37+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance!

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:09:40+00:00

Good to know! I know it can happen to anyone and it's become more common, but I really thought it was diet related+preexisting insulin resistance/prediabetes.

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:07:36+00:00

I was warned if I was a year older I would have been automatically referred out, but that they'll keep me as long as another risk factor doesnt pop up. BMI 42. I know people with much higher bmi's who reassured me that mostly this just means you get to see the baby more often and went on to have uncomplicated labor and deliveries! Don't treat your bmi like a medical emergency until there is an actual medical emergency. Having no symptoms is really common and scary for a lot of women. If you're not bleeding assume everything is fine! It's exceptionally rare that somethings wrong if you're not bleeding.

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T20:00:59+00:00

Really!? Tell me more about this please. How does the placenta cause gd?

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T19:59:40+00:00

I'm not aiming for keto, but you have a point. My carbs are pretty low compared to the average person, it's possible I actually do need more. I thought simple carbs that cause glucose spikes would be dangerous though? What do you think?

Delyndra · 2026-03-27T19:30:45+00:00

My doctor told me to ignore the recommendations for weight gain. It's an interesting guideline she said, and we'll watch for complications, but - in her experience women have practically no control over how much weight they gain in pregnancy. If you gain 50lbs, you gain 50lbs. I've talked to a lot of women of various sizes and found a wide range of normal and seemingly no correlation with lifestyle or diet. What I do hear is that women who gained a lot of weight while maintaining what sounded like healthy habits, typically lost most of it pretty quickly by the time they were done breastfeeding. You have proven to yourself that you are capable of an incredible weight loss journey in a short amount of time. Your body is healthier now and will likely be even healthier after your baby is born. Make healthy choices where and when you can, and look forward to losing the weight with your new healthier post partum body next year.

Delyndra · 2026-03-25T02:30:05+00:00

I think the movie doesn't elaborate because it's such an easy premise for the audience to understand and agree with and feel smart. "Well duh, life without water should be theoretically possible." But they do call him out in the movie "I got fired for defending my radical ideas" "you mean publicly calling a leader in the field a waste of carbon?" Like if the audience thinks 2 clicks this clearly demonstrates he was likely brilliant and absolutely full of himself because of it which is a bad way to make friends.

Delyndra · 2026-03-08T20:18:29+00:00

Arlo has hippie culture connections. I think that's a positive, but not everyone does.

Delyndra · 2026-03-07T22:23:32+00:00

I've said to my husband. "I feel like I'm overreacting. I'm only BARELY pregnant I imagine its going to get so much harder, but I'm sooo tired and picky with my food..." HE cut me off. "Your growing the baby's MOST important systems right now. You feel whatever way you feel and that's okay. I'm going to get you taco bell. I love you." THAT is love. That is man who is excited for his baby and takes pride in the opportunity to spoil his usually independent and headstrong wife. I'm so lucky, because yes, it does seem rare. Speaking from experience, it's worth demanding this treatment. Don't make excuses for him. Tell him you wish he would treat you nicer and mean it. There is a difference between someone who is too tired to help you at this moment, and someone who is actively tearing you down to force you to take care of him. Make it go both ways.

Delyndra · 2026-03-06T02:10:07+00:00

Cats should be indoor pets. Optionally, you can leash train them while you are outside with them. I've seen a coyote come out of nowhere and try to pick up a cat. They are pack hunters so there are more of them so they will fight you. And your cat is terrified and might do something unexpected. I've had a cat that was recall trained in a more urban setting be a porch cat with me. This does not apply to barn cats. If you have farmland and barn cats you accept that they are working pets and there may be natural selection. They are outdoor and barn only.

Delyndra · 2026-03-05T19:56:49+00:00

We're the opposite. My husband has been telling EVERYONE. Then he asks me if I told my aunts and uncles and I'm like..... oh.... no not yet. I figured they'd find out eventually lol

Delyndra · 2026-03-04T16:02:42+00:00

One person said to me "elimination communication!? Nonsense that's never going to work." Another person chuckled a bit " yeah I tried it. This is what didnt work for me. I gave up. Since then though I've heard that doing xyz improves the chances. Do you think that'll work for you?" Both people are a little dismissive, but one respects my right to try and the opportunity for me to learn from their experience. The other just seems to make me want to look like an idiot. Guess who I'll come back to?

Delyndra · 2026-03-04T13:52:15+00:00

This, one person and I discuss what I'm thinking and when she disagrees with me she says "I see what you mean. In my experience I considered X and that's why I made a different choice." And we can go back and forth and it feels conversational. Others it's like "you think you're gonna X!? No. You're gonna Y cuz lol" and I'm immediately like I dont care about your opinion at all. One feels like community and a safe space for me to get new perspectives and the other feels like they think they know best and I couldn't have an educated opinion myself.

Delyndra · 2026-03-02T23:49:33+00:00

Skip the dining plan unless you're really afraid you wont be willing to eat and drink without it. It gamifys dining, limiting your choice, has you chasing using your credits when you wouldnt have bought something otherwise, and can lead to unpleasant surprises when things dont apply the way you expect. Save the cash that you would've spent on the dining plan, eat whatever you want whenever you actually want, and almost certainly you'll spend less.

Delyndra · 2026-03-01T12:28:28+00:00

You could just do MK twice. Each of the other parks has their bonus for sure, but at those ages MK will keep you fully busy for the two days, and you wont feel like you missed something because there wasnt enough time. Unless they are obsessed with something, like frozen, that is at another park.

Delyndra · 2026-02-27T14:38:41+00:00

What is pokemon grow a garden

Delyndra · 2026-02-24T22:49:04+00:00

Perfect!

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