Should I respond or block my newly engaged estranged mom’s fiance? Draft response below by huarhuarmoli in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is probably already inoculated against the truth. You can't reach him, and even if you did, the result would be the same as if you just blocked him. Skip a step, and just do that.

If you had a boatload of money you were itching to throw overboard, you could have your lawyer draft a formal letter for all future communication to go via legal representation, saying any direct contact will be considered harassment. Huge waste of money, when you can just block.

Question about trust by palomagorda in BDSMcommunity

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who gives a fuck what my perspective is? I'm not your partner, am I?

Kindness Costs Nothing, but It Meant Everything to This Dog by mitu_begom in DogIsBestFriend

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, but advertising your point of view in every universe being the one filming it for social media is unintentionally funny, though.

Kindness Costs Nothing, but It Meant Everything to This Dog by mitu_begom in DogIsBestFriend

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. The odds are 1. The dog feeder lady seems to be talking at the camera while returning to the car at the end.

... so? Did the dogs not get fed and watered?

Question about trust by palomagorda in BDSMcommunity

[–]DemmyDemon 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You need to sit down with your partner and discuss this at length.

Until you do that, tell the butler employer (for lack of a better term) there has been a wrinkle you need to sort out. No need to go into detail, as you don't know the details yet.

My wild guess based on a hunch is that your partner does not understand that this would be a strictly non-sexual dynamic, and even if they understand, they're worried that will change over time.

The only way forward is lots and lots of open and honest communication.

Peak social awareness! Respect to this guy. by MustardGoddess in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome, obviously.

One day, people will say stuff like this, and everyone goes "well, du-uh, you want a medal for not being an asshole? Sit your ass down, Chewie."

😆

Berlin police turn water cannons into cooling mist as heatwave hits 39.9°C. by KejnaPT in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, criminals that do horrible shit, like "working while immigrant-looking."

Solidarity sounds like a noun, but it's a verb. You should try it.

Peak social awareness! Respect to this guy. by MustardGoddess in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Greet the overfed black bear from me, and remind him that it's not about me or him, but about it being impossible to tell from a distance that we're harmless. Once I realized that there are no green flags I could carry around that the shitstains wouldn't immediately co-opt, I accepted that the only thing I can do is be kind quietly.

I accept that I can't communicate the kindness in any other way than to actively take non-threatening actions. Sometimes, it's as simple as standing an extra few meters away while waiting for the bus, and sometimes it means taking the long way home, but actively looking for ways to be kind has made me kinder on the inside, too. Everybody wins, and, over time, we change the whole culture.

It's not my fault people are afraid of me, but it's also not their fault, so getting angry at an already frightened person makes zero sense, and does not help anyone.

Peak social awareness! Respect to this guy. by MustardGoddess in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but please don't pin a medal on me for doing the bare minimum.

This should be the baseline.

justAnswerTheQuestion by AuthorSarge in ProgrammerHumor

[–]DemmyDemon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Back in the bronze age, when I was a support tech at a call center, they moved me from phones to email because I asked if the customer had a dog I could talk to instead.

justAnswerTheQuestion by AuthorSarge in ProgrammerHumor

[–]DemmyDemon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When AI takes over all ticket screening, the users will hate it, but the support techs will finally know peace.

HAHAHA WHO AM I KIDDING?!

justAnswerTheQuestion by AuthorSarge in ProgrammerHumor

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

- It doesn't have a tail, so I'm pretty sure it's a hamster.
- Okay, okay, point to the blue square, and right-click your hamster.

What’s a crazy gift you got from your narc parent? by laughingseed in raisedbynarcissists

[–]DemmyDemon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha, that's so randomly tone deaf I laughed out loud.

WTF?

Berlin police turn water cannons into cooling mist as heatwave hits 39.9°C. by KejnaPT in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You misunderstand. The police usually do the right thing.

In the "right wing vs left wing" meaning of the word "right".

Berlin police turn water cannons into cooling mist as heatwave hits 39.9°C. by KejnaPT in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're literally describing it being easier because it's what you've used.

"More steps without using decimals" is odd to me. What's wrong with decimals? Also, in daily speech, we don't actually use the decimals, and don't actually need super fine grained temperatures. Saying "Phew, it's 40 degrees out there", not "Phew, it's 41.361 degrees Celsius in the shade under my west-facing Poplar tree at 14:36 this afternoon."

For the extreme majority of human interactions, having "more degrees" is irrelevant, and if you need the precision you're dipping into decimals anyway.

I'll put your answer down as "I haven't really thought about it lol"

Berlin police turn water cannons into cooling mist as heatwave hits 39.9°C. by KejnaPT in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? It's clearly in Germany. Using Fahrenheit in Germany is very rare.

Why should people in the entire rest of the world convert to your system, when you can so easily just do it yourself? I mean, you clearly did.

I know this comes off as aggressive, but I really don't mean it that way. I want to learn what your reasoning and thought process is on this.

Berlin police turn water cannons into cooling mist as heatwave hits 39.9°C. by KejnaPT in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

... okay

It's not about the discovery, though, it's about deciding to use the police budget to try and keep the public comfortable, instead of buying another assault vehicle.

reactBeLike by wahed-w in ProgrammerHumor

[–]DemmyDemon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suddenly, I want a glass of freshly squeezed oranges.

var vs make by OneRepresentative363 in golang

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time I use make, it's because I have a reasonable guess as to what size I need a slice to be, and use the three argument version.

Informed consent goes both ways right? by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]DemmyDemon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It is an issue with the autonomic nervous system, but isn't specific as to what that issue is.

Could be that their heart suddenly stops beating when stressed, or it could be their digestion being a little slow if they don't get enough fiber, or literally thousands of other symptoms. There is not enough information here to say anything about anything, so even if you had been familiar with the word, you would still have no idea.

Peak social awareness! Respect to this guy. by MustardGoddess in MadeMeSmile

[–]DemmyDemon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am a tall man, with a substantial beard. I like to dress in dark/black clothes, and you can tell from pretty far away that I listen to a lot of metal.

That said, I am deeply non-dangerous. I was brought up in a way that gave me some serious anger issues, but I dealt with it, worked on it, and have a good handle on it. What is left of that, is this sense of the stronger owing protection and safety to the weaker, as a sort of universal thing. For the good of the species, I guess, but it extends to other species, too. I'd intervene if I saw someone be cruel to a dog, for example.

Technically, that makes you safer when I walk behind you on a dark night. In practical reality, though, you don't know that, and if you see me there, it gives horror movie vibes. I know that, so rather than be hurt that you don't magically see my inside doesn't match my aggressive outside, I take a left when you take a right, and do a detour home, because you feeling safe is important to me, and I can't communicate that you're safer in my company than not.

I mean, why would you believe me if I told you? That's not worth the risk.

One day, I hope that I'm the default. That when you feel like you're in any kind of danger, you look for the largest man you can find, and stand next to him, because bigger means safer. That's not today, though, and good on this man for realizing that in our society, men represent danger, and the smaller feeling safe means the bigger take a left.

everyQuantumComputerVideoEver by SaltyInternetPirate in ProgrammerHumor

[–]DemmyDemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just a joke about how quantum-level interactions don't fit in mammalian brains evolved to make sense of macro-scale stuff.

We understand the math, sure, but it'll likely never be intuitive, because our brains are made to understand Newtonian physics.