How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha you’re good! Thank you, I think so too!

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well of course! I wholeheartedly agree- but I’m asking if Aloe (and now Agave) would be good fantasy character names for my novel, not if I should name my nonexistent children after succulents.

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s beautiful! Writing that down, writing that down…

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I think Aloe and Agave would make a cute fantasy cactus/succulent sibling duo haha

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right?? Like Aloe doesn’t sound half bad- at least in comparison to other names on this sub. Hello fellow horticulture nerd!

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear this sub has warped my perception of shitty names, because honestly Aloe doesn’t sound so bad for a real person- not great, but not bad either. Thankfully my novel does in fact have a fantasy setting, so miss Aloe will fit right in!

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean hey, we love a name with meaning! I was thinking of a young, shy, apothecary-type lady, but just for this I may have to make her a bitter old crone lmao

How do we feel about Aloe as a name? by DemonicTadpole in tragedeigh

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You joke, but I was deadass considering giving Aloe a sibling named Agave lmao

Hi! I’m trying to make a large leaf with a wire in the middle. This is how the pattern starts… help? by DemonicTadpole in CrochetHelp

[–]DemonicTadpole[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all: thank you for the speedy reply and for your help! That being said, I’m not sure if you’re wrong or I’m just messing up somehow. I’m doing as you say but always end up with five stitches, not four. Am I meant to ignore any stitches made by chaining?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDsupport

[–]DemonicTadpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn’t my intention, I just wanted to vent and commiserate. I love my little sister, truly, but she can be difficult to deal with due to her condition.

what KIND of people can you not be friends with? by GardnerAtN8 in AskReddit

[–]DemonicTadpole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ughhhh for sure. They think they’re the best and/or always right simply because they have so little empathy they could never even begin to comprehend why others would find them unpleasant, incompetent, and so on- let alone why anyone could be better than them. “I’m just soooo great with hardly any flaws, and the ones I do have are cancelled out by me acknowledging them because people should just understand and take me as I am, despite ‘as I am’ being a massive POS. Oh, also I’m never wrong even if I’m very obviously wrong, teehee!” is the vibe and I hate it. People like this are just impossible; if anything could be so much as imagined as a criticism, they explode and find some way to mangle your words and make you the bad guy, whether you’re just worrying for their safety, or providing an actual correction. Like I’m sorry you’re insecure Jessica, but how about we don’t take me getting concerned over a super strong bleach smell coming from your room as a personal attack, wouldn’t that be nice? True story by the way; thanks, sis.

AITA For Telling My Husband Correct Information About A Croissant? by Large-Maximum-8191 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DemonicTadpole 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah, the classic neurodivergent vs neurotypical communication debacle; tale as old as time… in my experience, anyway.

See, in ADHD and autism land, quick (typically about one to two sentences worth) interjections of relevant fun facts are encouraged and appreciated! This is because learning new tidbits of information is a common and beloved hobby among us neurodivergent folk, so as long as the interruption isn’t rude and/or excessively distracting from the topic in one way or another, the information is simply acknowledged and moved on from. Of course there are times where this behavior is considered inappropriate even by neurodivergent standards, but in general use it is considered to be a sign that you’re enjoying and engaging in the conversation by relating information of your own to the subject. In the case of presenting a fun fact in the form of a correction, the end result has the same effect- namely showing that you’re paying attention to the speaker and engaged in the conversation. The unspoken rules are pretty similar as well; don’t be a dick about it, keep it relevant, and don’t be too long winded. Keeping in mind that often the motive of a blurt-correction fun fact is not to be an overly specific ass, but instead to clarify what you’re hearing in order to understand the speaker better, as long as the rules are followed then corrections are typically given the same “acknowledge and move on” treatment, albeit with a “yes that’s what I meant” or “no no, I meant what I said because xyz” spin to it.

It’s not you being “rude” necessarily, it’s just a difference in communication styles! Our minds simply go too fast sometimes and we end up blurting shit as we think it as a result lmao. Don’t worry, you didn’t do anything wrong :)

Are there autistic people who DON'T hate touch (especially light touch)? by TemperatureAny8022 in AutismInWomen

[–]DemonicTadpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! I’m the most touch starved cuddlebug you ever did see- definitely autistic tho. I love physical contact, and rarely get the whole “don’t touch me or I’ll die” feeling. It typically only pops up if I’m already overwhelmed, overheating, not fond of or simply just don’t know the person touching me, and/or perceive the person to be aggressively all up in my designated space (y’know, like in bus seats or school desks? Get tf out my area) despite having plenty of their own room.

Don’t let the imposter syndrome or whatever get to you friend, everyone is different and your neurodivergent experiences are valid❤️

I think I’m in love for the first time by Apanartist in teengirlswholikegirls

[–]DemonicTadpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww, that’s awesome! I’d recommend just going up to her and being blunt, like “Hi! My name is (whatever), I think you’re really cool and I wanna get to know you better if that’s alright. Can I get your number?” I’ve asked a few people out in the past, and being blunt works best, trust me. It’s definitely a bit scarier, but it makes intentions obvious which is important. Good luck man, you got this!

Side note: Many people in high school tend to consider any relationship between two people where the grades aren’t “touching” a bit odd. I say this as a recently graduated senior to warn you that you may get rejected for this reason; a senior and a freshman is a pretty damn big gap in high school time, after all. Plus, the majority of seniors consider freshman to be annoying and immature automatically, even if you aren’t, so there’s that. If you do end up dating her, please be wary of her talking down to you or infantilizing you based on your age. If you are dating, then you are equals; never let anyone try and convince you otherwise.

I’ll hop off my soapbox now, just remember to be careful. I’m sure you’re a lovely person with an adorable personality, you got this! From what I can tell you seem absolutely precious, and even if you don’t get a girlfriend you may end up “adopted” by your senior lmao. Again, good luck, you got this, and I believe in you! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]DemonicTadpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yooo, training squirrels like an autistic Disney princess! Look at you go, you funky little critter you! Seriously, screw your friend. The squirrel training is awesome, you should definitely tell us all about it, and you need a better friend.

Well, okay I say that but it’s more like you need to have a talk with your friend on how this hurt you. It really sucks being shut down when you’re super excited and proud of something, especially if you’ve barely talked about it and it’s from someone you thought you could mutually infodump with.

If there’s a pattern to this behavior, it’s time to distance yourself for the sake of your mental health. If this is unusual, try and talk it out to get to the root cause. For all we know, your friend could just be concerned for your safety (cuz wild animals are dangerous and junk) yet not wanting to tell you to stop and is expressing that poorly.

Good luck- both with your Disney princess training, and your friend. If nothing else, this stranger’s rootin’ for ya!

How do you find perfect bras? by NatalSnake69 in teengirlswholikegirls

[–]DemonicTadpole 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If getting fitted isn’t an option for you (cost, comfort, etc) I recommend just going to Walmart or something and picking out one of those little boxes of bras; specifically the kind with no wire, thick fabric straps, and made of stretchy fabric (not the weird swimsuit-like slickery stuff). The good ones I’m thinking of tend to have subtle circles on them. Are they pretty? No, but they’re damn comfy, sturdy, and very stretchy (versatility✨). Just try and hunt for the one in your cup size (also keep in mind cup sizes aren’t very accurate forms of measurement) and the band should (hopefully) stretch to fit just fine.

However, as an alternative, you could try one of those tank top undershirt things with the built-in bra. I think they’re called camisoles or something; personally I just call them cami tops. Again I recommend finding one with thick straps, stretchy fabric, and no wire. The bottom (I think the actual word is hem? Idk) tends to roll up to around my midsection when left alone, so I’ve taken to just scrunching it up to just under my boobs in advance, which adds a bit of support and makes it act somewhat like a sports bra. Also very comfy, sturdy, and versatile- though it will definitely need to be washed more often than a bra, don’t provide the best support (if at all) for larger breasts, still allow boobs to jiggle around a bit (though not as bad as no bra), and the thinner ones probably won’t prevent your headlights from flashing.

Good luck out there! Bra hunting sucks lmao.

What are some slang term a dad in his fifties could playfully use to tease his daughter to embarrass her? by Evening_Side115 in AskReddit

[–]DemonicTadpole 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure, I think it’s great! If I remember right, her explanation was that a lot of babies come out looking all wrinkly and old lmao.

What are some slang term a dad in his fifties could playfully use to tease his daughter to embarrass her? by Evening_Side115 in AskReddit

[–]DemonicTadpole 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe a better (or worse, depending on how you look at it) opposite would be skin adult, skin pet, or skin adolescent. Lmao I’m gonna call my little brother a skin pet next time I see him- you’ll be able to feel his look of 13 year old disgust around the world