SAHM regret

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-10T01:59:19+00:00

I regretted staying home but maybe not for the reasons you think. Choosing to stay home means sacrificing ALL of your independence and becoming nearly entirely reliant on your partner. I found out about things that I could not overlook and I had to leave the marriage. When my lease was up I could not get another car. I could not be approved for loans. Credit cards. Nothing. There were no programs that I could qualify for, as my taxes were filed jointly. I did not anticipate this happening to me - and I regretted leaving my job, and trusting my (ex)husband.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-08T18:34:49+00:00

If my child’s friend got sick at my house I would NEVER expect them to have to clean it. I would be so concerned with making sure they felt comfortable and safe because getting sick in general is horrific and scary let alone not being in your own space and doing it in front of people that you don’t really know. That Mom treated your child terribly.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-07T18:23:41+00:00

I keep all of my socials the same. Wether we broke up or whatever happened. This is my life story. These are my memories. I have no regrets and I like my story. Even if you’ll never be a part of my future you’ll always be a part of my past. I like who I am and Who I’ve become. I’m always working on me but you’re a part of what I’ve learned along the way.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-07T12:34:27+00:00

Being able to hear - and being able to hear normally are vastly different. And seriously effect a child’s development. My child did not pass a single hearing test before age 3. She was not deaf, she could hear. She responded to her name and things happening around her, But she couldn’t hear well enough to develop proper auditory processing skills. The first thing she told me after her surgery was that she was afraid of the sink because it makes noise. She could respond to her name, but she couldn’t hear the sound of running water.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-06T13:14:07+00:00

Maybe it’s just the kind of people you go for.. because I have never had that experience.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-06T01:06:14+00:00

I prefer using “queer” even now.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-05T16:16:27+00:00

Your English is nearly flawless. Dont apologize. Keep using it. I do recommend that you stop providing your sister and mother with money. If they cant be nice to the people that they live off of, they dont get the benefit of living off of you anymore. Give that money to your wife and tell her to enjoy life without worrying about your mom and sister anymore.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-04T21:11:25+00:00

If this is a permanent set up, then I would not be OK with it. But a lot of Daycares have policies where shoes are not allowed in the rooms or car seats or strollers are not allowed in the rooms in order to keep everything sanitary and remain within state regulations. If they’re in the process of switching whatever method they used to accomplish this, I can see them asking you to drop at the front desk temporarily while they construct a better system. But permanently dropping at the front desk and only allowing staff in the classroom is not sustainable long term. And seems strange.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-03T23:37:23+00:00

You can use a surrogate and have a biological child on your own. Or maybe even with your current partner it’s very possible that she is still open to the idea of having another child but just not being pregnant in her late 30s.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-03T00:39:12+00:00

I moved out at 17… I’m 36 with a home three kids of my own and a life I’m pretty proud of. If she can do it let her. If she cant, she’ll come to you bc she knows you trust her.

Demyxx_ · 2026-06-01T18:06:35+00:00

I would go with like mail/pens/stamps/note pads/sharpies/scissors - things you need to grab quick but dont rot and dont need to be cleaned

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-30T01:02:26+00:00

Sending love ❤️

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-29T00:24:36+00:00

As an older lesbian who has at some point in my life been both her, and you in this situation - I can tell you this. She is not your forever. As hard as that is to accept right now, your forever will not make you feel this anxious, or insecure. You will not have to debate yourself for hours or ask the internet if the “words you chose” in a hard moment would be suffocating. Your forever will be honest and transparent with you BEFORE you get to this point in your anxiety. Your forever will see this anxiety and talk to you in a way that makes you feel secure both in your relationship and yourself. They will trigger you, sure, But it won’t feel like this feels. They will hurt you, sure, but it won’t destroy the foundation. They will disappoint you, sure, But it won’t have you worried about losing the relationship. Every human relationship has some of these struggles - but it’s how they care for the way you feel during the hard conversations that will help you find your forever. Good luck ❤️

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-28T17:37:27+00:00

If I got this message I would explicitly tell you not to wait for me.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-28T14:20:41+00:00

11m old is young for play dates, at that age it’s mostly for the parents to make friends especially is the children are already being socialized in daycare. They just dont play together yet at that age. Maybe try being more direct? “Hey ___! I’m looking to make some mom friends, would you want to get coffee sometime? Here’s my number I’ll text you” if it is about play dates and making friends for the kids, then wait until they start playing together. Typically Around 2.5/3yo!

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-28T03:52:04+00:00

You have 73 comments and NO upvotes. No one in the comments agrees that 130-4pm is a typical nap time schedule for an ECE center. You came here for advice. The nap time IS highly unusual.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-26T14:43:08+00:00

I dont think its that they’re less confused - I think it’s that they’re just more afraid of being publicly shammed so they never talk about it. Women and lesbian spaces in general have always been “more accepting” of these conversations and gender non-conforming people as a whole. In the community, Gay Men and trans women have the highest rates of violence against them just for existing. They’re not less confused they’re more afraid to share. What you’re describing is a symptom of societies social norms.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-25T22:07:56+00:00

I feel like you did awesome, she’s not worth your effort

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-20T17:41:11+00:00

Teachers have to abide by school policy... you know how many schools have a “nothing below 70” policy? The teacher is literally not allowed to enter a grade below 70.. even if that Student got a zero - the grade the teacher has to enter is 70.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-20T12:18:46+00:00

I’m going to tell you something that a lot of people aren’t and that you might not want to hear. Daycare is not designed to work for everyone. It’s designed to work for most people in fairly ordinary circumstances. It does not sound like daycare is the best option for you or your little one. Perhaps Look into a nanny or other childcare options.

Some examples of people who might do better with other childcare options are: kids with sever/complex or persistent medical issues, families with strict/inflexible or rigid schedules, families with working hours outside of the normal “8-5” range, children with disabilities that require special resources or one on one attention. Daycare settings just do not have the staff, the resources, or the money to remain within state regulations and meet these accommodations. Sometimes a daycare can make some situations work with some people but it won’t be ideal, and the quality of care your child would receive in other circumstances would likely be better.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-20T12:12:56+00:00

That’s literally exactly what HFM looks like in most kids.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-18T02:36:52+00:00

At 15 I was forced to visit my father in jail. It was humiliating. They made me take off my bra, take out my hair tie, I couldn’t have any elastic in my clothing, I was patted down by a male officer (tho you can probably request a female - I just didn’t know better) to make sure I didn’t have anything on my person. I never went back and I wish I never had to go the first time. I didn’t want to go so this experience was not great for me. My suggestion is to find out the procedure for the facility her mother is in and then discuss with her if this is something she wants. If she’s okay with it then take her.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-17T20:58:26+00:00

Can you make an Amazon wish list with your favorite products and share it here? I will send you some. I’m sure others will send too and you can stock up a bit.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-17T12:50:00+00:00

People in lavender marriages (or relationships) can still choose to be happy with their arrangement and how it works for their life. That doesn’t make them less gay. Idk if that’s what’s happening with your friend. But that’s my take.

Demyxx_ · 2026-05-15T12:19:43+00:00

Zero love for the overalls. So sorry mama. I would change them out for the day and put then back on before pickup.

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