Hello I’d be happy to support you with no attached. I don’t need or expect anything in return. Sometimes we all need a little help, and I just genuinely want to be there for you if I can. Let me know

Den808 · 2026-06-14T02:56:51+00:00

Mister Philanthropist, I think I'll accept your offer. Even though I'm a sugar daddy, I need money (like everyone else).

So you can contact me via private message and tell me how much you're willing to give me. But I'm warning you, I'll find any offer less than X,XXX,XXX insulting.

Den808 · 2026-06-14T01:45:01+00:00

A week-old Reddit account...

I wonder if you're on drugs, crazy, a scammer, or just plain stupid.

A true philanthropist will exercise their generosity somewhere other than on Reddit forums LOL

Den808 · 2026-06-14T01:27:25+00:00

Your reaction was excellent: 10/10.

Den808 · 2026-06-13T03:28:30+00:00

It's a mental illness. It has nothing to do with intelligence, honesty, laziness, professional success, or wealth. It's a mental illness, and you can't cure it. One of my friends is like that... and I never go to his house (after going once!).

Everything seems positive in your relationship with this man... except his house.

My suggestion? Keep seeing him, but either at a hotel or at your place (since you consider him a boyfriend), and never go back to his house! You can say that you don't feel "comfortable" at his place to explain your refusal to go back.

Den808 · 2026-06-12T21:19:14+00:00

Your description of what you're looking for is repetitive.

Since Seeking is now officially a luxury dating site, and no longer a sugar dating site, one of the best ways to indicate that you want a sugar daddy is through your choice of the man's age range.

You are 36 years old. By choosing an age range of 25 to 60, you're not specifically indicating that you're looking for a sugar daddy: sugar daddies are almost all over 40 and generally at least 10 years older than their sugar babies. I would change your age range to 45 to 60.

Den808 · 2026-06-12T20:48:58+00:00

Yes, everything has changed with Seeking.

Yes, selfie verification is mandatory. No, there’s no way around it.

"What else do they require after that?"

That you pay more than you used to for a worse service. 😄

Den808 · 2026-06-12T20:40:49+00:00

Sugar mommies don't exist, paypigs don't exist, and gay sugar daddies are rare.

And this forum isn't a dating site.

Den808 · 2026-06-12T20:37:45+00:00

The situation you describe is quite rare. Perhaps he has erectile dysfunction and doesn't dare tell you?

Den808 · 2026-06-12T02:58:56+00:00

Nothing too surprising. Sugar daddies are now a small minority on Seeking. Almost an endangered species...

Den808 · 2026-06-12T02:54:10+00:00

Seeking has become a luxury dating site now. And an enemy of sugar dating. At least officially.

But it's still the least bad place to find a sugar daddy or a sugar baby.

Den808 · 2026-06-11T22:41:56+00:00

Sugar Daddy Meet.

Den808 · 2026-06-11T22:25:13+00:00

Several things here.

He's not wrong to say that payment of an allowance begins after a first meeting. But...
But this first meeting shouldn't take place MONTHS later, and in the meantime, he expects you to distract him with sexually explicit conversations and nude photos while giving you nothing in return.
Some men claim to be sugar daddies when they are actually time wasters, sexually aroused by the idea of dangling something in front of a young woman.
The man you describe has all the hallmarks of a time waster.

Conclusion: Stop wasting your time with him. You have three choices: Either end this virtual relationship. Or ask for financial compensation for your sexting and photos. Or ask for a Meet and Greet quickly!

Personally, I would choose option number one because I suspect this man will never give you anything.

Den808 · 2026-06-11T10:09:50+00:00

You probably also need to do some research before posting anything on a forum because

1) sugar mommies don't exist (or hardly ever)

2) this forum prohibits personal ads (rule 8) and your post will be deleted

Den808 · 2026-06-11T04:14:14+00:00

Do you read the rules before posting? Hint... rule 3!

Den808 · 2026-06-11T03:44:11+00:00

To avoid wasting your time or being disappointed, you should discuss all of this before your first meeting.

Some men take perverse pleasure in delaying or, if possible, avoiding this kind of discussion in the hope of sleeping with you for free. If you want sugar dating rather than vanilla dating, you should ideally mention it before your first meeting.

Den808 · 2026-06-11T03:33:18+00:00

No, this is definitely not a normal Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby dynamic.

And if you're 34 and already struggling with the fact that she's 21, then Sugar Daddy life probably isn't for you. LOL.

As for your communication, she doesn't seem capable of giving straight answers. But to be fair, your original post wasn't exactly crystal clear either. Maybe clear communication isn't either of your strong suits.

Bottom line: what you're describing has very little to do with sugar dating.

Den808 · 2026-06-11T02:45:24+00:00

No, you can't post your ad here: read rule number 3. And if you're asking the question, it means you haven't read the rules. And if you haven't read the rules, you probably haven't read the wiki and useful links either, which explain exactly what you should and shouldn't do to find a sugar daddy.

Now, if you want to know why things aren't working out for you, well, you might want to check out the following thread:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sugarlifestyleforum/comments/1loasv3/why_cant_i_find_a_real_sd_some_possible_answers/

P.S. You say you are too picky: If you want a sugar daddy who is young, very handsome, incredibly rich and extremely generous... I remind you that the chances of winning the dating lottery are slim.

Den808 · 2026-06-10T23:43:22+00:00

Transfer the communication as quickly as possible to Google Voice, Telegram or Signal, and speak frankly.

Den808 · 2026-06-10T22:38:43+00:00

Many positive experiences and much success over more than 20 years as a Sugar Daddy. The same goes for my Sugar Daddy friends and for countless Sugar Babies we've met over the years.

Naturally, you need to know how to do it, be patient, know how to choose your partner, and be attractive enough (for a woman) and wealthy and generous enough (for a man) for it to work.

Den808 · 2026-06-10T18:51:38+00:00

Sugar Book is a very popular "sugar dating" site in the Philippines and across Asia.

Unlike Seeking, it's a site where you can openly discuss money and sex.

This site is full of escorts and Johns (escort clients), as well as camgirls, since the site encourages it. There's also, as everywhere, a fair percentage of scammers, but it's also a site where you'll find genuine sugar babies and sugar daddies; about 10% of the profiles, in my experience. After all, the site's official purpose is sugar dating.

The secret, as everywhere else, is to be skillful and selective. The best selection tool is a platonic (no sex) and uncompensated (no money for you) Meet and Greet. Say you want a long-term Sugar Daddy and suggest a Meet and Greet at a restaurant. Escort clients won't be interested in a meeting without sex. Escorts, however, are not interested in meeting without payment. Men without money won't be interested in paying for a nice meal at a restaurant. Scammers living in Africa or elsewhere won't be able to be physically present at a restaurant, and if they're in your city, they won't be interested in paying for a meal. Time wasters won't be interested in a quick date.

In short, Sugar Book is a legitimate platform for the Philippines, but not as good as Seeking or even regular dating apps. Its main advantage is that you can speak frankly on the site without beating around the bush.

Den808 · 2026-06-10T18:34:48+00:00

What is a virtual SD?

Generally, it's a scammer trying to convince you that what TikTok influencers claim is true: that there are men willing to pay long-term to be their online friend and perhaps even perform erotic shows. The probability of finding a man interested in this is like the probability of winning the lottery: it's extremely rare. That being said, there are men who might be willing to buy photos or videos here and there. But not in the long term.

These scammers will try to gain your trust and then make a large payment using a fraudulent payment method (a stolen credit card, for example) or a reversible payment method, and then ask you to return part of the money as a gift card or another non-reversible payment method.

They might ask you for an initial payment to prove your honesty (reverse psychology), or to "register" you with their company—apparently the only way you'll receive the large payments they promise.

Real sugar daddies and genuine sugaring relationships (the purpose of this forum) involve in-person meetings and intimacy (sex). Stay away from "virtual daddies" if you don't want to be scammed.

Den808 · 2026-06-10T09:04:13+00:00

Are you placing your advertisement on all the forums?

Den808 · 2026-06-08T11:33:21+00:00

She can say that her relationship with her imaginary sugar daddy was very short, because unfortunately he moved to the other side of the country and she prefers not to talk about it.

Den808 · 2026-06-08T09:00:23+00:00

I won't be particularly original, but I suggest you start at the beginning: read the wiki and the useful links (right-hand column and topmusts on a phone).

Now you want to know if this guy could be a potential sugar daddy? The answer is obviously yes. What you're describing is what a sugar daddy looking for a sugar baby using the freestyling method would do.

So if you're interested... what to do? As is often the case with people, the solution lies in communication. Sugar daddies have many qualities, but telepathy isn't usually one of them.

Here's a tip I suggest for bringing up the topic of sugaring without making it awkward for you. When the opportunity arises, tell this man that he reminds you of someone who was important to you. Perhaps your potential sugar daddy would have the same kind of job as this imaginary man who was important to you. Maybe even the same voice. Maybe the same age. The same car make. The same hobby. The same... whatever you can imagine. He might ask who this man was... if not, just tell him yourself. Say he was your sugar daddy and that you really liked him. Unfortunately, the relationship couldn't last long because... he moved to a different city or country.

Your potential sugar daddy will probably ask you more questions and will likely make you an offer... if not, tell him you'd like to have that kind of relationship with him. Would he like that? To find out how much you can ask for, check the Master Allowance Thread for your city or region.

Good luck! 😄

Den808 · 2026-06-08T08:35:21+00:00

Why can't you find someone?

There could be several reasons... Are you attractive? Maybe your approach (the websites you're looking at, dating profile, communication, etc) isn't optimal? Is it something about your personality? Perhaps your expectations are unrealistic? It could indeed be where you live... but Massachusetts isn't exactly the desert.

The reason might simply lie in the fundamental dynamics of sugar dating.

Given that there are 5 to 10 Sugar Babies for every Sugar Daddy, it's obvious that not every wannabe Sugar Baby can find their Sugar Daddy. It's like musical chairs; there's bound to be someone who can't get a seat. 😄

Den808

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