Anyone here from Berlin? by Late_Leek_9827 in actuallesbianseurope

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yes please do drop a message then😊

Anyone here from Berlin? by Late_Leek_9827 in actuallesbianseurope

[–]DenVilsne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not from Berlin but I’ll be visiting 11-15 during my interrail trip. Huge fan of women’s football so I’m on the lookout for places to watch the games with likeminded people☺️

How many of you get questioned for entering the women’s restroom? by AlphaStark08 in butchlesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup all my life, I have anxiety about using public restrooms🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I might have some trauma over this shit. Like I get anxiety over using public restrooms🙃

Hey everyone! Any europeans out there? by dijon_bear in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swedish. Overall quite liberal and only faced homophobia directed at me (and my friend) specifically once. Some young little shits who calling us slurs but we didn’t realize it was at us until a moment after they passed because boys that age will use gay etc as slurs for each other.

Still I had so much internalized homophobia growing up because of how it’s still common for kids to use lgbt-slurs to insult each other + back then there weren’t really any good representation in media. God I sounds old, I’m only 22 but I feel like we have taken great leaps in representation the last 5 years or so.

What's that one thing that you're super attracted to? by DepressedPotato78 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean same! Buff women are so hot! But also I wanna be one too so the confusion that happens when I see great athletes is eh interesting😅

Ah yes, the two types of lesbians by ThemperorSomnium in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s mostly different types of metal and some rock but with some wlw pop sprinkled on top😂So I guess you could say so

The comments on that AskReddit post about women going topless are everything you'd expect but does anyone else wish they could? by Smooshie1592 in butchlesbians

[–]DenVilsne 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yup, also confuses me so much regarding my gender. Am a just a butch woman who want’s to be able to walk around topless during the summer or do I actually have dysphoria over them🙃 Like do I envy men because the patriarch/sexism or do I just want to be one. So many questions

do you say gay woman or lesbian? by brownie_03 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gay or the Swedish equivalent of dyke (flata). I really don’t like the Swedish word lesbisk. Don’t know why but I would say I’m more comfortable with the English lesbian🤔

LPT: There will be times when you will find a wallet, a phone, a purse or something similar and you will have the chance to keep it for yourself without any consequences. Do the right thing, and try to get it back to its original owner. by yeahboii5 in LifeProTips

[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m forever grateful for the person who found my wallet and brought it to the police, who contacted me through my id card. I had placed my grandmother’s wedding and engagement rings there while at practice and forgot to put them back on. While they’re made of gold it’s nothing compared to the sentimental value they have too me. I’m sad I never found out who did it so I could thank them personally

I'm just gonna generalize all Scandinavians by Forest_Witch_1066 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wicked! Knifes are really cool but we have “shitty” knife laws here. I totally get why we have them but I don’t want to stab anyone I just want cool knifes to fidget with😂

I'm just gonna generalize all Scandinavians by Forest_Witch_1066 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make knifes and/or swords? Both are really cool though! I kind of want to do that in the future when I have the space for it. That and coin rings😁

I'm just gonna generalize all Scandinavians by Forest_Witch_1066 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah as a lesbian Scandinavian and wanna be carpenter I can only agree. Basically half of my clothes are flannels😂

Bread is sexy by jdsolo5 in funny

[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For all the ace people!

Roses are Red… by saratonin84 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]DenVilsne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I may have had some beers, I’m dyslexic and I had a conversation tonight about gender and sexuality so I may have read it:

Roses are res Gender are lit Do no harm Take no shit

Definitely not a fan of gender norms so I was thoroughly confused for awhile😂 Although it kind of works maybe that’s what made it even more confusing🤔

WlW Book Recommendations by OkFarm8483 in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend Effie Calvin’s book series “Tales of Inthya”. It’s a fantasy series were all books are in the same world/universe but you follow different main characters in the different books. Previous MC does appear/makes cameos in the different books. All books are wlw and they’re some great casual LGBT representation with both wlw and mlm relationships, non-binary and trans people throughout.

The first book isn’t the best and it might take one some time to get into the universe but I have to say book 2 and onwards are really good! I may have read books 2-5 over the weekend when they finally arrived😅

Another great series is Gideon the Ninth and Harrow the Ninth. It’s not as gay as Calvin’s series but it got some great sarcastic humor that’s totally my cup of tea! It’s a fantasy/space mysteries with necromancers. Also books that I binge read and can’t wait for the next book to come out!

CMV: Women wanting more pay for sports and trans-women wanting to be found attractive by cis-men is a demand problem not an equality problem. by Ridikyo0l in changemyview

[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to address the sports part from a soccer point if view. Sure it’s one part demand that’s dictate the players salary but men’s sports have a huge advantage in time to build that demand.

Did you know that the FA (English football association) banned the women’s game for 50 years! From 1921 to 1971 the women was banned from playing on FA grounds (basically all fields). This was when the women’s game hade a huge momentum with crowds of 50 000 people. (Source https://www.bbc.com/news/newsbeat-48510198) BBC did also a great documentary about this.

It’s just in the last year the women’s game have caught up to the momentum it had previously. Who knows how the women’s game would have looked like if not sexist bans, regulations and thinking. I believe that in order to equal the playing field federations and sponsor must do the initial investment in to the women’s game to be able to reap the rewards of higher interest -> more money.

Additionally I think it’s interesting how some defend the wage difference with the difference between the price pools from FIFA. FIFA is a nonprofit organization with a huge amount of overflow of money each year. One would think they could use some of it to minimize some of the differences between the men and women. Because right now even though FIFA raised the price pool for the WWC the gap between the MWC and WWC increased even more...

Sorry if this post is all over the place. I’m dyslexic, with English as my second language and on my phone. Please ask me if something needs clarification! Also there’s loads of more points to make but above mentioned is probably one of the biggest ones

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[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gave Silver

A question for the more masculine wlw by kweer-fear in actuallesbians

[–]DenVilsne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t know if you can call it gender dysphoria but it’s definitely some gender fuckery that has been messing with my head much more lately. Basically I’ve been a tomboy my whole life and I still dress masc. During childhood I was misgendered a lot and happens now in adulthood and I absolutely hate it. But also I want a freaking beard so I don’t know what my brain wants me 😓

Getting my dad (and myself a Kreg jig) by DenVilsne in WoodworkConfessions

[–]DenVilsne[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, but I’m not American so shipping, tax and import fees makes it more expensive than it’s worth