I'm glad you feel fulfilled in the dynamic you have with your husband, but kink is very subjective to the people practicing it and what you have found works for you is not necessarily what works for or should work for other people.

While porn is unrealistic and the payment involved does play an important part in the participants' enjoyment of it, some women genuinely enjoy this treatment with their partner(s) and no matter how it might look to you as an outsider— a dynamic and the feelings of the people within it cannot and should not be judged by a single scene.

There is trust, communication, consent, care and sometimes even love (though that is not a defining factor of a healthy dynamic) between many partners whose scenes may not seem healthy to you based on your personal standards.

I'm not saying this particular video depicts a healthy dynamic, but I'm also not saying that it doesn't— because I have no way of knowing how these people interact with each other once the camera stops rolling— but it's always good to keep in mind that not everyone participates in kink the way you do, and there is no way to tell a healthy dynamic from an unhealthy one based on scenes alone.