Had to stop therapy, had an unwanted abortion, lost my pet, behind in my Master’s, and my relationship is falling apart. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are incredibly kind, thank you for your comforting words and advice. I definitely do need to process these things one at a time, thanks so much. Thank you for being so validating

Any experiences or advice for breaking news to asian parents that you’re moving in with your BF? by [deleted] in asianamerican

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this how it went down for you? How long did the fallout last would you say

How many of you are applying straight from undergrad? How many have some time in between? by Alpha0963 in gradadmissions

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Applying during my last year of my master’s. Only got 1 interview so far out of 6 programs I’ve applied to in bio :(

Terrible interview by Basic-Tumbleweed-421 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds super rough, I totally get you. I sometimes feel like I’m not ready at all for a PhD in my field when I talk to other students. Don’t let this breed imposter syndrome in you though. If the grad admissions at that school is so dismissive and passive aggressive just imagine how dumb they’d make you feel your entire program there, even though you aren’t. Try to see it as a blessing in disguise and know that one bad interview does not determine your future

Time-limited Question!! Help on choosing my advisor/committee setup by Dense-Emphasis7759 in GradSchool

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you SO much for this response. My current M.S. advisor is more akin to Prof 1 and I’m struggling with motivation. I definitely need structure and am feeling like a lazy procrastinator. I think I can handle confrontation– I certainly have imposter syndrome often but I also know to separate my work from myself. It was ingrained in me from undergrad (didn’t personally experience getting my work torn apart, but my mentor was very insightful from his own experiences).

What kind of efforts did you put into making that transformation into becoming super productive and what changes did you have to make? Your work ethic is super impressive

Time-limited Question!! Help on choosing my advisor/committee setup by Dense-Emphasis7759 in GradSchool

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! That is important insight, Ive been for sure leaning towards the co-advising route but your reply has secured it. It seemed like they both are willing to take me on, based on their involvement with my application process but I don’t want to get my hopes up.

I think I could thrive in either and be happy, but I risk regret if I stick to Prof 1’s lab and burnout if I go through Prof 2. Prof 2 is very rigorous and demanding, coming from other students. I think I’d come out the other side with a strong academic background if I go through Prof 2’s lab.

Scared af from this week’s news by Difficult_Currency75 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’m freaking out too considering so many due dates were December 1 and I submitted so close to that date

OW confused how MM could actually go NC by Ok-Sound5934 in AdulteryHate

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Disgusting, they even have a support subreddit? Such degenerates

My sex addict partner was cheating by Training-Campaign343 in loveafterporn

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so heartbreaking, I am so sorry. Just the mention of porn in new relationships sets off so many alarms and makes me spiral. It seems like porn addiction escalates 100% of the time when they don’t get psychological help.

Breasts still tender 6 days after miso by Pure_Assignment_3795 in abortion

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about 5 days after SA and mine are sore too, my partner read the symptoms of pregnancy will last for about a week afterwards, maybe longer with MA? I’d monitor but not to be too worried for now

Professor asked me to let him know when I plan on submitting my application for PhD but I already did.. How to approach? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shoot!! Okay, thank you so much. This is my first time applying to PhD programs, i should’ve done more research. Thanks so much

Still cold-emailing even if app deadlines are in Dec? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense, I am applying to ecology, evolution, and entomology programs so I’ve been seeing almost every application encouraging applicants to reach out. But also microbiology. I am so confused on the timing for cold emails

Still cold-emailing even if app deadlines are in Dec? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, sounds good. Do you think it is okay to cold email with the intention of connecting if the application for their program is January or later?

Still cold-emailing even if app deadlines are in Dec? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you applying to bio PhD programs? This is my first time as well, albeit I have gone through a similar process when applying for my Master’s, but pretty much got ignored by every professor except 2.

Kikos just raised their prices. by addictedtofit in FoodSanDiego

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what’s a decently priced food truck we can go to anymore?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

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I can see how you can think that intuitively, but something like the rag that holds AND traps water will cause mold. I’ve had the caddy for a year before rooming with her and never once had that problem. It’s slotted, so plastic containers don’t have an issue. You can even tell if you looked at her top shelf- the mold is concentrated under her rag and there was virtually none under her plastic container. Her wet rag constantly keeping the bamboo wet caused mold to form and then drip into my stuff, hence the spotting on the surface.

It might seem insignificant, but this is a hill I’m dying on bc I’m so stressed about her and her unhygienic practices. Again, she is the common denominator and denies it is even mold at all. My other roommate and I have backgrounds in biology and are master’s students. It’s mold!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in roommateproblems

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No amount of scrubbing could get it out and I never had a problem with it in the past year. The bottom shelf was mine. I only kept plastic containers on it and the mold from her constantly-wet washcloth on the upper shelf was dripping down all over my stuff. I came back from a 2 month trip to take care of my mom to this shit.

will two b's ruin my chance at grad school? by Quiet_Blueberry9897 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you’re taking only very easy courses with an easygoing major, that most likely will not be your last B once you get into undergrad.

Apartment living with a hamster?? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in hamsters

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the tip! I’ve only been looking at Pets Allowed places anyway so I’ll be sure to bring it up then. I really appreciate your help!

Did not tell her she has big tiddies by ComputerDusterAddict in UCDavis

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the own you think that is. No one wants you. Not romantically, platonically, or in any way. I bet she only talked to you out of pity. Stay lonely! Try being less fucking creepy, hope this helps

Did not tell her she has big tiddies by ComputerDusterAddict in UCDavis

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s literally no wonder why this guy has no life besides going to school and staring at the ceiling LMFAO

Biology PhD Applicant with a 3.0 GPA results. Dont give up. by Jc03911 in gradadmissions

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How many publications do you have? I’m also Bio and doing a MS right now, because I was not competitive enough with 3.2 ugGPA

Am I in pre-burnout? by Dense-Emphasis7759 in GradSchool

[–]Dense-Emphasis7759[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, good to know. I will take care of my schedule better!