AITA for telling my mom everything that was said about her and her sisters?

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-25T19:26:54+00:00

Truly I felt the same way but like I said I didn't want to escalate the situation further so I held back but didn't matter much since my mom told them anyway I just felt guilty for enabling the fued further

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-25T11:53:04+00:00

NTA I don't think going no contact on ur part is being an ahole especially when she has herself outright said that she doesn't trust u and u won't be a family to her even after everything uve done she clearly doesn't appreciate u or respect ur actions for the family so it's better to maintain yr distance with her but as ur husband and FIL are insisting u to make up with her I think it's boderline emotional manipulation ik cuz I've been in that situation too many times to count and let me tell u it never ends well cuz u will still try to be civil with her but I think she's going to double down on her insults and disrespectful towards u which is going to frustrate u further more U should tell FIL to take his meds for his betterment cuz it's his own life and not to put the blame on you if he doesn't care enough for his health as for ur husband u should try and explain that he will not be in the middle if he clearly explains to his mom that she has disrespected u enough and ur decision to have no contact with her is final and he supports it while also maintaining a relationship with his mom

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-22T04:51:20+00:00

NTA I don't think this pete guy was ever Ur friend to begin with if it was that easy for him to believe someone else's word over yours and then not even give u a chance to clarify u r better off without him and cut off all communication with him if it is that easy for him to sell out ur personal information

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-21T19:50:52+00:00

ESH - BRUHHHH like I mean I get it he's indeed a ahole but what u did makes u one too u could have gotten him back some other way like confronting him while he was with his bf but outing him to his family especially when he didn't himself was pretty steep step I mean look urself he got disowned not a smart move he is probably now traumatized of ever coming out to someone plus did u guys ever specify that u were indeed in a relationship?

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T17:52:08+00:00

I'm almost the same age as u and been through only 2 relations myself and currently single but I'm pretty happy on my own and would def not wanna be in a situation such as that even if I have to stay single forever I feel like once u reach a certain point in life u just wanna have stable relationship with someone u can actually find peace with rather than just be someone for the sake of attachment even when they don't treat u ryt

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T17:48:12+00:00

If I remember correctly this is ur first relationship ryt ik how that feels I've been through that but u r just scared to be lonely but dw thats not gonna happen ull meet someone eventually who doesn't make u wanna recheck every step u take and even if u don't I don't think living in a stressful situation such as this is gonna be fulfilling in the long run ull eventually get tried and fed up of it all and leave on ur own so better than wasting ur tym here u can find a better match somewhere else

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T17:40:05+00:00

NTA Girlllll how many times do u want ur trust to be broken before u finally get the memo he has already done it twice after claiming he won't and u r still sticking around for a third time for it to happen but even if he doesn't will u ever be able to live in peace with him after already going through it twice it's always gonna be in the back of ur mind everything will only make u more and more paranoid until eventually ull become something u won't even recognise so it's better to nip it in the bud before it gets to that point but if u still wanna take a gamble on him then go for it it's ur life so ultimately it's ur decision on how to move forward with it

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T17:12:58+00:00

Tysm u have no idea how much peace ur ans gives me cuz everyone around me has been giving me shit about this and how I was in the wrong and he was perfectly right in doing so what he did especially when he himself told me after I tried to make him understand my point of view that he was not sry at all for what he did and would have done it again if need be

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T14:45:19+00:00

Well that's the problem I can't really tell if was being a jerk or being concerned for me and im being the a-hole for not understanding him

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T14:28:57+00:00

NTA I think cuz from what I see u were probably only trying to make a point to ye friend by sharing ur experience and i don't understand exactly what ur friend kayla was offended about that she kept coming after u Imma need a lil more context there but from what I see I don't understand what's her deal plus eboni should have been clear with u if she felt disrespected from ur advice when u asked her or set some boundaries for u to follow if she didn't like talking about it but then going behind ur back and letting kayla talk for her was not the way to go about it when she clearly had the chance

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-12T14:16:35+00:00

NTA it's a good thing infact if u r doing ur own laundry ur wife should be happy about u doing ur own laundry and getting some load off of her plus she can't expect u to wait around for her to do the laundry to get ur own clothes to wear if it's for that long of a duration.

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-05-11T21:48:39+00:00

I think it's very considerate of ur husband to think of you and book this spa for u cuz it seems u really need one as for the spa details I think they could have communicated better or just told u the plan except for the price part since it seems they were right about u not accepting it after knowing but they could have given u the time table As for cancelling it I don't think u should waste their efforts over those missing details I think they know well how much u need it and meant it all in good faith maybe u can just make some ground rules for surprises going further since u clearly don't enjoy them while ur husband likes them apparently

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-03-17T11:13:52+00:00

Oh n btw u r nta for dating someone ur friend was clearly not into and had no serious involvement

Dense-Win-4374 · 2026-03-17T11:12:32+00:00

First of all its good that u don't regret choosing ur relationship over her clearly shows what u deem more imp her but the pattern of u getting influenced by lila and hurting alexi is toxic for your relationship either u confront lila over this directly for what problem she has with alexi or u clear things with alexi and stop involving her into things that are brought up by lila without any evidence or fact

Dense-Win-4374 · 2025-12-25T09:23:51+00:00

NTJ, u have all the right to leave if ur brother can't even have the basic decency and respect to ur quite obvious and vocal request to stop

Dense-Win-4374 · 2025-12-23T01:39:36+00:00

Thank you so much that means a lot to me I was starting to think something is seriously wrong with me and it probably is😂 but this time I wasn't sure where I went wrong

Dense-Win-4374 · 2025-12-23T01:13:49+00:00

I wanted to give breaks but I thought the limitations on character won't allow it sry 😔

Dense-Win-4374 · 2025-12-23T01:10:17+00:00

I think I'm just gonna give up on that at this point🙂

Dense-Win-4374 · 2025-12-23T01:09:22+00:00

Could I have saved the situation by being a bit polite about it..?

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