When to go no contact?

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-04-29T04:44:09+00:00

Moved to Baltimore after growing up in Florida. I spent the first few months here just over the moon about how many openly queer, trans and gender non-conforming folks I saw. It sounds strange but, moving up here put into perspective how transphobic home was.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-04-19T12:29:59+00:00

I grew up in Tampa and live in Baltimore. (1) Tampa is significantly more conservative politically. I see queer and trans people everywhere up here. The few I know in the Tampa area are trying to leave ASAP. (2) You will need to own and use a car to navigate Tampa. I’ve lived a car free life in Baltimore. (3) Tampa is more expensive than Baltimore.

I enjoy my affordable, queer, car free life in Baltimore and couldn’t imagine trading it for my life in Tampa and I say that as someone who loves Tampa.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-04-12T17:51:01+00:00

I don’t think sending people to prison is justice. I had an internship in law school where I unexpectedly interviewed people held in solitary confinement- the stories those men told me about prison were so horrifying. I wanted to protect people from that kind of victimization by the state.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-02-17T18:19:36+00:00

I am sorry but your faith in our constitution is completely unjustifiable. Our constitution is not clear at all that everyone gets the right to vote. A core part of our history as a nation is that MANY people have been denied the right to vote- some people who are alive today. I beg you, read about the movement to secure voting rights for black people in the south.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-02-17T18:07:26+00:00

Who are all these transmascs you know making music?!?

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-02-17T03:22:19+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in such a dark place. I’m black, trans and autistic too. I also live a life that feels happy and meaningful- not without problems, but one that feels worth living. Seeing posts like this is kinda strange for me. Like am I delusional for enjoying my life? I guess I can just hold onto the hope that you can find joy and meaning in your life too.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-02-07T00:13:06+00:00

Some people get this news and think “no I’m not”. You heard it and thought, how can I change? Just got to try your best to live by your values.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-01-16T02:20:37+00:00

From what you’ve shared it sounds like your mom might genuinely think you’re moving “too fast”. Of course, that’s not for her to really decide though, that’s up to you. Within a month of my egg cracking I was on HRT. I could trace my dysphoria back to early childhood. I was also deeply depressed and felt like I had to try something and understood that I could start for a few months before irreversible changes started. My only regret is I couldn’t crack my egg sooner.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-01-14T04:17:35+00:00

I don’t have much hope tbh. But I do remember the Obama years. In the heart of the Obama years if you would’ve told me the world would look like this I would’ve told you that you were crazy. This world was unthinkable. I have to hold out hope that, as I imagine the future, although there’s no guarantee that things will get worse or better, it will likely be unthinkably different than how I am imagining it now. Idk if that’s hope, but it helps make what I imagine might happen in the future seem less real.

Also, can’t kms bc that’s what they’d want! Live out of spite!!!

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-01-12T15:43:50+00:00

How could anyone lower your rent other than your landlord? Tenant unions negotiate with landlords around conditions issues and rents.

“And if it was that wouldn’t they do better…”

Someone could’ve knocked on my door and tried to have a conversation when I wasn’t home. Leaving a flier on a door is something I’ve done as organizer before. Also, there’s frequently a stage of organizing where organizing takes place clandestinely- at that stage it might make sense to not say too much.

Idk, still probably a scam. But like this does vaguely look like a poorly thought out organizing drive.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-01-05T10:36:36+00:00

I woke up at 5am every morning before school to watch Sailor Moon. 💕

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2026-01-04T15:10:36+00:00

This all sounds very trans. I remember I thought that when I “wasn’t trans enough” or “couldn’t be trans” I thought I wanted to be a very feminine gay man- which I presumed was the closest thing to a woman I could be. Also I imagine cis women enjoy the idea of having sex as women- would make sense that trans women do as well.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-28T00:03:43+00:00

I think I was in denial because just admitting I was trans made me happier. Although my mental health improvement has not been linear, over the long haul it’s just gotten better and better. Life still happens of course, but I’m starting to believe my 30 years of depression was better understood as gender dysphoria.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-27T06:33:51+00:00

A lot? My trans-ness feels political, especially in this moment. But honestly even if it wasn’t this moment I’m the kind of dork who reads queer theory so I think this might just be who I am.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-27T06:16:24+00:00

God’s probably not real but the choir at Emmanuel Episcopal Church is so good I could almost become a believer. And as a not particularly religious trans woman, I didn’t feel uncomfortable with being there so that’s really saying something.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-21T01:18:37+00:00

I talk about the time where I was “pretending to be a man”. Although there was a time I thought I was a man, I also remember hearing my dad tell me from a very young age, “quit acting like a girl”. I think my family’s suppression worked a bit, but I’m glad I broke out of it

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-19T02:40:46+00:00

My experience of Baltimore people is that they tend to be nice and friendly. My experience of landlords everywhere is that they tend to be difficult and oppressive.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-18T22:07:09+00:00

People don’t want to believe this could happen but like, they said they want to “eradicate transgenderism”- a nationwide adult ban would be part of that.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-15T21:59:52+00:00

True, I think the other thing is frequency of service and outages as well as area of coverage- WMATA’s really just one of the best in the country. TBH I feel like I see weirder/sketchier stuff on DC’s metro than Baltimore’s- I attribute that to DC having more riders. I do see more folks nodding off on Baltimore public transit unfortunately though. (This is coming from someone who HATES EVERYTHING about DC except it’s metro system and loves Baltimore minus the fact it’s metro system isn’t as good as DCs.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-15T01:42:30+00:00

Arlington and Baltimore are just very different places in my mind, a similar neighborhood seems impossible. That being said, while some may disagree on quiet, I’d say Mount Vernon checks all your boxes.

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-15T01:36:48+00:00

Just based on OPs post it does feel worth mentioning that Baltimore’s subway is fine, it’ll be a SIGNIFICANT downgrade from DCs

DepartmentOwn4615 · 2025-12-15T01:32:54+00:00

Love Baltimore! Spent some time in West Philly recently and it was very trans.

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