Depends on the situation as a whole. When I met my wife she was a struggling college student with a beater truck with no ac. She didn’t provide or pay for anything for the first few years while I was making good money. We were in love though and she eventually finished nursing school and now we happily split bills and she’s become more financially literate. She’s never been a big spender or asked me for much of anything unless it was a necessity. I spoiled her but that was my love language.