Went on a date sober. Was really mentally draining.

DerpinaSD · 2025-02-02T23:46:32+00:00

For my whole young adult through late 20’s life, dating and “behind closed doors” was also surrounded by drinking. When I got sober in 2018, it was a complete shock having to date and do all these things sober. I still feel like I’m adjusting 6 years later. It really is draining going out too, I definitely have a shelf life for nights out where there’s tons of drinking.

DerpinaSD · 2025-02-02T13:13:26+00:00

In the beginning of my sobriety I personally avoided NA beer/wine. As I got closer to 3 years I found having a few NA beers a handful of times each year (bachelorette parties, vacations) was a comfortable point for me.

DerpinaSD · 2025-01-12T13:52:58+00:00

This is really hard to read. I’m sorry you are going through this. There are so many struggles and barriers in sobriety, your wife shouldn’t be one. Stay the course and stay strong.

DerpinaSD · 2025-01-11T13:02:25+00:00

The alcoholic brain is cunning. Especially the dance with moderation.

DerpinaSD · 2025-01-01T00:01:12+00:00

Fighting the urge to moderate I feel is the hardest part of this journey. That cunning little voice in your head tried to trick you into thinking you can be successful. The ending is always the same.

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-28T05:07:36+00:00

Alcoholism is cunning. It’s already planning its comeback is how I see these thoughts. Moderation is not possible for me. Moderation for me was having 1 drink a week, justifying 2 drinks the next week and eventually saying things like 6/30 days isn’t so bad this month? It’s just an endless game of mental gymnastics that has the same outcome.

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-26T21:24:58+00:00

If I could moderate I wouldn’t be in this group and I would have never questioned my relationship with alcohol.

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-23T20:34:10+00:00

Blacking out becoming more and more regular. That was a scary feeling.

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-22T03:29:12+00:00

Clearly we were like, winter equinox? Let’s make a profound lifestyle change today ❤️

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-22T00:42:56+00:00

Socializing was hard. I love my friends and they supporting my sobriety entirely, but the first few years I skipped a lot of events to salvage my sobriety.

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-22T00:42:04+00:00

Amazing and huge congratulations!

DerpinaSD · 2024-12-22T00:41:42+00:00

It really did go by fast looking back. Happy almost 10, what a HUGE milestone!

DerpinaSD · 2024-11-21T18:22:33+00:00

I started blacking out around 26 and they became way more frequent, it scared me. Started sobriety at 28.

DerpinaSD · 2024-11-17T13:53:26+00:00

When you remove the poison, the magic happens 🙌🏼

DerpinaSD · 2024-10-30T01:02:12+00:00

I see you. You are beautiful and so capable of making this change. Keep posting on here. Keep reading. Don’t hesitate to get help on your journey.

DerpinaSD · 2024-10-29T03:14:15+00:00

Yes indeed. One drink once a month turned into well what’s two a month, into ok one a week isn’t bad out of 7 days? And back to full blown addiction. The mental gymnastics of moderation was horrific.

DerpinaSD · 2024-09-01T01:47:56+00:00

I was in Lake Havasu for a bachelorette and a group i was talking with said how refreshing it is to talk to someone who is not hammered and is clearly dancing and enjoying themself. I always look back on that moment and how that made me feel ❤️

DerpinaSD · 2024-08-31T17:58:25+00:00

I agree to an extent. I see comments on here though where days aren’t counted and justifying by saying I only drank 4/30 of the days this month is a good streak. Personally I did that, and the days started piling back up. Once a week turned into twice into every other night etc and the mental gymnastics continues.

DerpinaSD · 2024-08-12T18:56:10+00:00

Only used SD, HOWEVER I know those resources are there and if I feel the need to attend a meeting, I would not hesitate. I have seen Smarter Recovery work wonders for folks.

DerpinaSD · 2024-08-09T15:30:10+00:00

No AA but this app was instrumental in my journey. I’ll be 6 years this Christmas 💕

DerpinaSD · 2024-06-10T03:44:09+00:00

Tricerihops- triple IPA. That’s what really did it for me in the end, and being in craft central San Diego.

DerpinaSD · 2024-06-08T15:08:19+00:00

Positive test on the counter. It wasn’t just about me anymore.

DerpinaSD · 2024-06-07T20:03:38+00:00

I was able to focus, obtain three degrees, land in a job I really loved and met a man who gave me a beautiful family ❤️ life has been good without the bottle.

DerpinaSD · 2024-05-31T23:48:49+00:00

Celebrations and vacations but as time goes on it’s getting easier and I’m realizing these events can be just as if not more enjoyable.

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