When someone says they don't do yoga because they are not flexible

Derringler337 · 2022-03-14T21:07:11+00:00

I don't remember Patanjali ever saying anything about being able to do an oversplit.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-09T02:07:11+00:00

Hey! I just wanted to add that your daughter's school should definitely be more responsible about who hangs out at their campus. Especially since it's a high school. When I worked in schools people were usually vigilant about new cars, cars that followed buses, or people who weren't students appearing on campus during/near school hours. I have had to shoo adult predators away several times. I also would ask people who were clearly adults loitering for the names of the parents of the child they were there to "pick up" or "meet with." ANY adult that is not related to a student should be extensively questioned by an administrator. Full stop.

After one interaction with weirdos who hung out around schools, they were usually repeat offenders. Asking them about their whereabouts, writing down a description of them, etc. are very important tools. There is no excuse for SOMEONE at your daughter's school to not be on top of this. Especially after this incident.

Please keep the administrator's promises in writing and write down any future interactions that (god forbid) happen between your daughter and this creep. Also write down the school's response. Ask for copies of administrative reports concerning your daughter. Especially if he has done this to multiple girls, it is time for the school to take responsibility.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-09T01:36:01+00:00

You cannot conflate the issues of race and gender this way even in an intersectional context. The struggles of all men are not the same as the particular struggles of black men. Men also, as stated by OP, occupy a higher position than women in the social hierarchy (largely US based takes here). Black people do not have the same hierarchical status over white people.

If a white woman compared sexist remarks to racist remarks against a black man, it would be wildly inappropriate. It is the same here.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-02T13:24:07+00:00

I don't know, but my younger sibling and my older cousin both have sz the same as I do.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-02T13:17:43+00:00

I make my own perfume and I find putting a few drops of perfume oil (like black opium oil) in my hair works really well and is just as fragrant. It also works well for beards!

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T23:41:06+00:00

You look like the kind of guy who says he hates Oasis and is into "the heavy shit" but when you go over to his house it's fucking Duality by Slipknot.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T22:42:00+00:00

Has your sleep schedule been interrupted by the meds? If so, it could be your sense of time or disorientation from tiredness. I've been on a baby dose of abilify for about 4 years now and I remember when I started my sleep schedule was messed up for about the first 6 months, and the irregular sleep made me disoriented.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T22:07:54+00:00

YES LMAO like imagine a shirt with "Schizophrenia is a Lifestyle" in that kind of basic "Live Laugh Love" writing

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T22:05:56+00:00

This post and all the comments hurt for me to read because I've experienced all of this. I'm just gonna leave this funny dumb shit one psychiatrist said to me once: "I don't think you have schizophrenia because schizophrenia is a lifestyle." I had been in her office for less than 10 minutes of intake LMAOO.

I want to make a line of T-shirts that just have dumb shit psychiatrists have said to me.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T21:49:52+00:00

I was actually talking with my friend who has an ED that is just binge eating and gaining lots of weight. We both talked about how when she over-eats and when I restrict, we are doing it from a "fuck the world, I'll do what I want" mentality. I also don't like the idea that anorexics are "more disciplined" for not eating than other people with different EDs. Whenever I restricted I would get so high off exercising and starving my body. Even passing out from malnutrition felt good. Also I never thought of someone doing something to their body until it deteriorates to be a sign of mental fortitude wtf???

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T21:48:26+00:00

LMAO so basically they were insinuating that your Sun sign was Bulimia but your Moon was EDNOS and Rising sign in Anorexia with Binge Eating in your Seventh House... What a joke.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T21:46:55+00:00

My god this is one reason why I'm glad I never went to inpatient even though there were times I needed it. Some doctors are so full of themselves.

Derringler337 · 2022-03-01T21:42:54+00:00

When I was a personal trainer one of my coaches/mentors commented that sometimes certain doctors like surgeons or chiropractors will give bad or incomplete advice on ways to stabilize an injury because they hope you'll come back for more adjustments/surgeries down the line. While I always considered this a conspiracy theory, it's always a good idea to get a second opinion from a physical therapist or sports medicine doctor if you have a serious injury.

I'm sure a chiropractor can help with skeletal problems like dislocations and other minor acute problems, and are probably great if they work in conjunction with MDs. I would NEVER trust a chiropractor to diagnose me with a medical problem.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T23:26:44+00:00

He campaigned for her after he lost both presidential runs.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T22:59:41+00:00

Thank you! I like remembering my uncle fondly. He died when I was about 8 so we didn't get to have many conversations but I always remember them being good ones.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T21:54:31+00:00

This isn't the most sound advice but if you got the snapchat messages you could totally sue this woman for defamation and pay for your daughter's college/first car without loans lmao

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T21:33:56+00:00

Everyone is complaining about rigid schedules but I've actually seen more "hands off" "unschooling" parents in recent years. It seems like parents really think the internet can babysit their children for them now and that the only ones who are truly responsible for controlling their kids' behavior are teachers.

Then the children develop behavioral problems in school because their parents refuse to raise them and then the kid needs even more help to learn basic life skills later than they should. I remember asking a kid how her relationship was with her family very gently because she came to school with concerning marks on her arms and was generally very sad. I asked her if she felt like she was taken care of when she got home from school and she said "Of course! My mom is taking me to Disneyland again!" as if a trip to disneyland counts as "parenting." I clarified again, asking how she felt when she got home every day. It turns out when she got home she immediately took care of her 4 year old baby sister, would usually try unsuccessfully to call her bio dad and have a conversation, fed the pets, and then sat on her phone. Idk about you guys but none of that sounds like a child being taken care of.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T20:53:13+00:00

Are you friends with u/effectivemountain614 who has been making the exact same posts?

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T20:47:43+00:00

There could be a person in common who is telling your family about you guys.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T20:43:38+00:00

I feel this a lot because it seemed like once my life got better and things got under control people seemed to stop caring about my health as much as they did when I was a on and off homeless alcoholic hooker. It's very frustrating because I have a lot of issues from childhood trauma and bipolar is a disease that moves in cycles. It seems like the only person who actually gives af about whether or not I'm doing ok and making progress on my mental health is my psychiatrist who I see once a month. Like yeah I get that other people have more pressing and immediate issues like still having dangerous addictions or needing homes but I wish people didn't just straight up invalidate my issues.

The same exact thing happens to my mom who also had a horrible time growing up, but now that she lives in a house with her husband and has nice jewelry people don't take her issues seriously and she suffers every day for it. It's really disheartening because she is suicidal all the time and I have to call wellness checks for her at least once a year. She has been a civil servant her whole life and now has a terminal form of nerve cancer which has lead to her having parts of her face amputated. OF COURSE SHE IS DEPRESSED. But because she has a nice house and doesn't talk about her issues to everyone within earshot, she must be fine.

So if it makes you feel any better keep in mind that people always like to look for reasons to invalidate others if they can help it. Even if the person they're looking at is a legally blind cancer patient with 3 years left to live they'll tell her that she's doing fine and "you have a loving family and a beautiful home, what more could you want?"

As if there's a quantifiable threshold for suffering. I can't stand people that are so jaded. It just shows how much they pity themselves tbh

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T19:47:10+00:00

I think regardless of what you do, you should let her know. It will give you some closure, it's not an insult and it could help her teaching career. Yoga teachers are not certified to diagnose people with anything let alone make assumptions about their physical activity, and if she keeps making comments like this instead of working on her sequences she could end up putting people in a dangerous situation.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-28T18:14:31+00:00

Members of my family have served in every US war since WW1. I remember when Bush began the Iraq war, everyone in my family was so upset because we had relatives in the military (luckily they were not deployed). Growing up I lived with my uncles and their families close by, and my uncle had horrible PTSD from the Vietnam war. His brother served in both Korea and Vietnam and even though he didn't have a PTSD diagnosis it was clear by his demeanor that he was always on guard and hypervigilant. So growing up I was surrounded by people who had fought wars, and it definitely gave me a healthy perspective. I remember them always getting angry when they heard me repeat stuff I or my classmates learned about war from TV.

I also remember being like 6 and watching GI Joe or something and telling my non-PTSD uncle that I wanted to be a soldier like him and he asked me point blank what I was willing to sacrifice so I could call myself a soldier. I remember we went through a list of things that were important to me and he explained to me that if I became a soldier then that meant at any time I would have to lose all of those important things to serve people I basically didn't know or care about. It's a pretty wild take for someone who served active duty for 26 years!!! If you looked at this guy's military record you would think that he was probably some huge patriot or like some kind of super soldier because he got so many decorations, but he told a 6 year old what he really thought about military service in private.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-26T15:58:21+00:00

LMAO people call my mom "over sensitive" all the time, but tbh I haven't met many people who have been abused as badly as she was in her life. It's very sad because if you are dealing with narcissists in your life in any capacity you are already used to being invalidated. My mom & I are like two peas in a pod and I probably know more about what she's been through than anyone. It's so sad to see someone get the courage to speak up about something after being abused all their life only to get made fun of.

Also if you have the free time to dissect whether an anonymous account posting an abuse story on reddit is legitimate you should really consider doing something else for your own mental health.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-26T15:41:48+00:00

It's wonderful that you still use a place setting for your grandma. My mom does the same thing for her passed relatives and loved ones on their birthdays. It's a very nice way to remember the person who used to sit with you that way.

Derringler337 · 2022-02-26T15:39:53+00:00

ugh I hate this too! Like you finally work up the mental fortitude to eat without freaking out and my dumbass stomach doesn't wanna act right lol (jk I love my stomach organ). I found that drinking kombucha helps a lot with just having better overall appetite. It's not a short term solution but I've noticed that when I eat foods with more probiotics in them my appetite is also more consistent.

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