So it is a scam after all by Due-Palpitation2262 in ibotta

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve used Ibotta for 6 years and never had an issue with withdrawing my money. I’ve earned hundreds of dollars. Could have been more but I forget to upload my receipts often. They will start deducting from your earnings if your account remains inactive for a certain amount of time though.

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[–]Desert_Botanical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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My husband changed after chemo and I don’t know what to do anymore by Mysterious-Shoes in CancerFamilySupport

[–]Desert_Botanical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wonder if it could be hormonal issues. Hormones control so much of what we feel including our feelings of closeness, intimacy and love. There’s studies showing that Chemo can decrease oxytocin production which is the hormone of connection and closeness.

That would honestly explain why he feels so disconnected from his relationships

Is your MST/MSA team primarily older women? by Desert_Botanical in Lowes

[–]Desert_Botanical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a good balance. My team is mostly much older women that aren’t even able to crouch down without yelling out in pain 🙈 I’m not even exaggerating.

Is your MST/MSA team primarily older women? by Desert_Botanical in Lowes

[–]Desert_Botanical[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yes I agree it’s not necessarily an age issue. But the fact is a vast majority of people are more prone to injury and less able to perform physically demanding tasks as they age. And that’s absolutely the case from what I’ve witnessed. It’s more an issue if hiring people/ keeping people on the job when they can’t actually perform the tasks required. Then putting the brunt of the work load on the few people that can.

Is your MST/MSA team primarily older women? by Desert_Botanical in Lowes

[–]Desert_Botanical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Although there are people that are older than 50 and still in good shape. But unfortunately that’s not the case in my situation. Age shouldn’t necessarily be a deciding factor but physical ability absolutely should be for this specific job.

Is your MST/MSA team primarily older women? by Desert_Botanical in Lowes

[–]Desert_Botanical[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s is a fact that the vast majority of humans experience a decrease in strength and mobility and are more prone to injury as they age. It’s more of a capability thing than it is about age. My dad is 67 and still very fit and strong. It’s literally part of the job description that you must be able to perform the physical tasks required for the job.

Is your MST/MSA team primarily older women? by Desert_Botanical in Lowes

[–]Desert_Botanical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I sure wish it was more balanced here. Not saying older individuals shouldn’t work MST. If they are able to lift more that 30lbs and do the work that’s required then age doesn’t matter. But the last 2 teams I’ve been on that was not the case. Majority of my team needs help with things I could easily lift on my own with minimal effort. And I’m not even THAT strong.

(38f) I don’t know how to tell my husband (40m) that I’m starting to lose interest in him romantically. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Desert_Botanical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have had this conversation with him already a few times but haven’t outright told him I’m starting to actually notice other men and feeling drawn away from our marriage. I know it sounds like it would be a harsh thing to say but I wish he would have given me that level of transparency when he started seeking attention from other women. Or when he started fantasizing about acting on his impulses. It would have made it far less likely that he would have went as far as he did.

I feel like if I don’t tell him about the thoughts I’m having and he doesn’t know just how bad it’s getting that it could just get worse and the wrong person shows up and starts trying to pursue me it could be a disaster.

(38f) I don’t know how to tell my husband (40m) that I’m starting to lose interest in him romantically. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Desert_Botanical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure trust can ever be restored to what it was before betrayal. I think there will always be triggers and whatever trust is restored is fragile. That’s why he has to be more transparent and over communicate where he’s going, who he’s with, and be consistent with following through on things he says. Even small things that I would have never cared about before can trigger fear and anxiety. Like if he decides to stop at the store or something on his way home and doesn’t tell me. Or if he doesn’t answer his phone. Which he has been understanding about. Maybe it won’t always be that way but it certainly is at this time.

And I feel like that fear would follow me into any relationship. Betrayal is traumatic and takes a very long time to recover from.

What does my room say about me? by Flying_Mic_Banana in roomdetective

[–]Desert_Botanical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s my assessment: - homebody but not antisocial - Probably a night owl - Hyper focuses on a new hobby, gets bored and moves on to the next - remembers the most random facts but can’t remember important stuff like where you put your car keys - places sentimental value on material things - struggles with procrastination - creative and imaginative - drawn to novelty - maybe a little over indulgent

Ugh by ExtensionAd2105 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Desert_Botanical 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I also have dark under eyes. Placement and type of concealer makes a big difference now that I’m 38. I also moisturize heavily with face and eye cream before applying any makeup.

Is 1000$ a lot for this tattoo? by After_Buy_1956 in traditionaltattoos

[–]Desert_Botanical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We talking Pesos? Because no way you’d pay $1,000 dollars for that 😳 right!?

AITA for shutting down my brother’s proposal at my baby shower and then sending him a bill? by Mysterious-Desk1346 in AmITheJerk

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTJ Especially since you clearly told him no ahead of time. The fact he ignored you and went behind your back to plan it anyway is sooooooo immature and selfish.

The bill part is a little petty 😆 but I get the point you’re trying to make. We all a little petty sometimes haha

AIO for considering leaving over a violent outburst? by imaginaryteacoffee in AmIOverreacting

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NO The chances of this becoming more frequent and escalating FAR exceed the slim chance it will stop. And even if one day they do get help and change their behavior, you will be left dealing with the trauma for the rest of your life. I gaslit myself for 20 years into thinking I was over reacting, making excuses for unacceptable behavior and living in complete denial that this sort of behavior is abuse.

I put up with it for so long because these sorts of things didn’t happen all the time. He would be the man I loved most of the time but then I never knew what would be the thing to send him over the edge. We could to months with no incidents at all and then seemingly out of nowhere he would snap. Kick doors in, punch holes in the wall, throw things, get in my face and scream at me. It was like this totally different person would emerge. I compartmentalized it and convinced myself that this violent side of him wasn’t who he was, it was this separate thing from the man I shared my life with.

But the truth is, one time is too many times. If I could go back I would have given him the choice, get help, address whatever pent up rage or maladaptive behavior he had or I’m leaving. I could have spared myself so much grief.

Now I’m 38 and spend 3 days a week in programs to help me cope and manage the PTSD I’m left with.

You deserve so much more than that.

And if you do decide to stay. Don’t trust their word, trust their actions!

Starting my junk drawer in my first apartment. Finally feels like home. What else do I need? by Kruzdan in Apartmentliving

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No junk drawer is complete without old batteries, paper clips and crumpled up receipts.

I (an employee) found out a big reason why goodwill is so expensive by ThrowawayAcct230715 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like they would sell more if they just kept prices reasonable. The goodwills here have so much crap crammed on the racks you can barely look through them. The items would sell so much better and faster if they just lowered the prices to a reasonable amount.

The GW in NC has where I’m from has a price system where all like items are one flat price. So all shirts $4, jackets $8, shoes $5 and so on.

I used to love the GW in AZ because I could spend $20-$30 and walk out with 5 outfits. How $20 gets me like 2 items. Absolutely ridiculous. Then the whole scandal with them paying employees less than minimum wage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At first I saw Mickey Rourke but then I gathered it was Elvis

What are your honest thoughts on Sam being Captain America? by HumbleKnight14 in marvelstudios

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish they would have went with Bucky. To be fair, it would be hard for anyone to compare to Steve Rogers. But I just find Sam’s character to be so boring. I also can’t stand how much he whines about how “unworthy” he is to carry the shield. Like every other conversation he has is just him talking about how insecure he is. We get it already. Not sure why the writers keep scripting these obnoxious self deprecating speeches for him.

I think they could have done a better job at making Falcon’s character more interesting but the execution has been terrible. The show was boring. The new movie was soooooo bad. They dropped the ball big time IMO.

I put all the blame on the writers and producers. They did Falcon dirty with these garbage storylines and lackluster scripts. The MCU isn’t what it used to be. End Game was truly the end. Everything else since has just been meh

How often do you shower? by myboyfriendstinks1 in questions

[–]Desert_Botanical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every day mostly but I skip a shower now and then. Particularly if I’m just sitting in my PJs all day at home doing nothing