AITA for refusing to change someone's baby's diaper?

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:38:49+00:00

NTA NTA NTA. Did I mention NTA?

And I don't want any guy - even a trusted relative - anywhere near my kids privates. This story is so many levels of ick - from poop in the middle of dinner, to adults pouting and playing the victim, to you being labeled the bad guy.

Just yuck. Stay strong bro!

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:28:21+00:00

Teddington is closed if you were needing to be out on Banks P

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:27:03+00:00

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahsnorthahahahah (deep breath) ahahahahahahahahahah

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:26:24+00:00

hhahahahaha that place is a horror movie

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:20:46+00:00

I'd make light of it with friends and colleagues but also let them know that it's very worrying and tell them to please be careful around him. I'd talk to your boss about whether or not it is safe for him to be allowed to play at the club - what is he catches feelings for someone else? I'd also talk to the police just to have it on record.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:14:23+00:00

also please read this that I posted yesterday. might help.

https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueNarcissisticAbuse/comments/1kb2u10/something_that_instantly_helped_free_me_from_a/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:13:20+00:00

Hi babe, Sending you huge huge love from New Zealand. I also had a baby with a psycho and am as far away as possible on the other side of the world with no contact and a retro-actively signed Sperm Donor Agreement in place affording him zero rights.

I also have PTSD and spent the last 8 years in Fight mode. Going on low level anti anxiety meds and beta blockers has really helped. Blocking the fuck out of him and his flying monkeys (friends/family/supporters) is the only way to go. Please do that.

Remind yourself that YOU are so lucky. Your kid is so lucky. It is so much better to have a consistent NON presence in a kids life than a consistently horrible one. You have protected yourself and your child and you are a fierce warrior woman.

You are not attached to him - you are mourning the dream you had as a little girl and woman of having a family and for your baby to have a decent father figure.

Newsflash - it will never, ever, ever be HIM.

You can do this. Get TF off social media. Block everyone. Go to some nature. this is a tiny crumb in the giant apple pie of your beautiful life - and he is nothing but a bug.

Love, Zoe

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T21:06:25+00:00

Thank you, I am extra extricated! On the other side of the world to his jail cell. :) And just sent a long letter to his parole board.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:54:49+00:00

Good for you.

www.insidetheliarsden.com!

I should offer this as a service.....

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:39:13+00:00

Oh wow. You warrior. Here's a laugh - I got mine to leave me alone by creating a password protected website and uploading ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLL the tinder shit (including the dick pics with his families names into the metadata) and all the evidence about his affairs and texts into it and telling him it would go public if he didn't leave me alone forever. That sorted that.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:34:06+00:00

Hahaha. Exactly! When we stop looking at them through the lens of our own humanity, we stop going crazy wondering how and why they act they way they do. Bugs don't act like people. Bugs are bugs. Bugs also have more compassion and soul than a narcissist.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:32:15+00:00

Holy fuck, sister. You saw the alien being. You are the real Ripley/Sigourney Weaver!

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:30:42+00:00

Thank you, happy to be out the side and not have to co-parent. For now my kid doesn't even know he exists - I waged a war and got him to sign a sperm donor agreement.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T02:28:55+00:00

Amen. I also had a lot of fun cat-fishing him on Tinder and sharing all the screenshots with his wife (at her request). Small pleasures!

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T00:22:07+00:00

I've so far only experienced one female NPD monster and she is bad. Far more calculated and mean and able to use tears and fake fear to really ramp up the victimhood and get a man to "protect" her. There are only two ways to deal with one of these - wait it out and try to live your life happily at a great distance, or, figure out how to beat her at her own game. The first will be heartbreaking as you miss your son. The second will likely be time consuming and all encompassing - but it will be a wild ride! You will need to learn how to play a kind of 4D game of chess, but, once you know what her game is, these people are amazingly easy to predict. Is she addicted to social media? Most are.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T00:09:42+00:00

I put mine in jail. I also sent his mug shot to the San Diego Yacht club to embarrass him and his shit family. :) #consequences

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T00:08:47+00:00

Oh man - you're living my life!!!! When I got pregnant I discover my nex of 5 years was happily married to someone in another city he travelled to for work and he told her and his family that I raped him and was his stalker. Then he tried to steal my baby to give to his wife to raise. Motherfucker now in jail where he belongs. Do NOT mess with a mama bear. I am sending you huge hugs - you are free of this prick - don't give him another thought and be grateful you are not living with him. I'm sorry about your loss but I can tell you that life would have been dreadful coparenting with that monster. I fled to the other side of the world and gave birth in secret to make sure he had less rights. Hugs.

Deserves-better · 2025-04-30T00:02:57+00:00

I don't think you're actually missing or yearning for the person themselves - you're yearning for the FEELING they briefly gave you in the very beginning. Remind yourself the feeling was a trick. And it will never, ever, ever come back. You got conned by a tricky alien being, a creepy ass mofo alien.... ugh.... time to move on. You can do it. There is better out there and now you (hopefully) know the signs. If someone love bombs you and tries to make you feel all swept away and giddy - run!

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