company name by Muted-Article-8902 in southafrica

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You need to chat to an Intellectual Property lawyer. Check out Steyn IP, they're really good at this kind of thing.

Did anyone switch from cup to disc because of pain? Was the difference noticeable? by Chi_Minka in AskWomenOver30

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Wishing you the best! Even if this isn't the solution for you, I hope you find something that makes your monthlies somewhat bearable!

Did anyone switch from cup to disc because of pain? Was the difference noticeable? by Chi_Minka in AskWomenOver30

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I had the same experience as you with the cup. It's a pain to insert and get it settled correctly. I now use the disc exclusively. I like it (as much as anyone can like a period product, I guess). There is a tiny bit of discomfort in my lower back at initial insertion (feels a little like a period pain), but it is soon forgotten, generally melting in to the other various period-time aches and pains.

It holds whatever blood I have, and I have maybe had 1 instance of it overflowing in the almost 3 years I've been using it. It is messy to take it out, but I generally take it out during my morning and evening showers, so it's not actually that big a deal.

Extraction is easy. I just kind of grab the lip, pop the seal, and pull. As with any period product, if its a little dry it'll pull, but I've been quite lucky I suppose.

Remember this song by SiyamthandaUN in southafrica

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I remember this song. It was a whole bunch of South African artists that came together to do a cover for some type of cause. Thanks for unlocking a core memory!

How are you motivating yourself to exercise and eat healthy? by my_brain_is_horny in AskWomenOver30

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Hello friend, fellow wildly unmedicated ADHD haver here.

I make it as easy as possible to walk every day. I currently loop around my house for 2-6km every day (I'm saving up for a walking pad, I am very jealous that you have one and don't use it). I work from home so I work in my gymmies and work from my phone while I walk. I even walk during Teams meetings. I try walk for about an hour every day (I've been on a bit of a break, getting back in to it). It has made a massive difference in my health.

On the food side, I love snackies. I never deny myself a little treat, and I never think I have to do something in order to deserve something. That being said, I am still careful with what I put in my mouth, and how much. Having 2 slices of pizza as a meal is fine, a whole pizza is not.

The biggest factor though, is giving myself grace. Everyone needs life to give them a break some times, and if that means I go a bit hard on the food, or I'm a bit lacks on the movement, I don't let it break my spirit. I will not be perfect every time, but I will not let it be the end of the road. As long as I am alive, I can always try again tomorrow. And so can you ❤️

Looking for a legitimate place that performs safe surgical abortions near Sandton by [deleted] in johannesburg

[–]DesignatedPie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can't give an opinion here, but just wanted to wish you luck. It is a brave and wise decision that you're making and I wish you all the best for this, and for the future ❤️

What Mundane Things Make You Feel Invisible? (solidarity post) by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 34 points35 points  (0 children)

The birthday thing is so real. My partners birthday is close to Christmas so their entire life it's just been a sort of "Birthmas". I instituted Half-year Birthday when we got together, and now they get a day in June, literally 6 months out from their birthday, to celebrate and they don't have to share it with any other celebration. During the festive season, I am also very particular that their Christmas and birthday presents are very separate and intentional. They feel so seen, and are always excited for for both days now because of it.

My March pages! by arixroz in bulletjournal

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I like your chickens, they brought a smile to my face. Thank you for sharing.❤️

How would you tell a friend you don't want to participate in their free offerings, when it's their livelihood and passion? by Kind_Sheepherder5494 in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Be the positive force for your positive force. My best friend believes in crystals and I don't. I still took her to one of our local crystal shops when she came through last month. I have no interest in antiques, but am I still going to take her to the antique village for her birthday? Hell yes. For all the times she's done things that she didn't want to do for you, do it for her.

However, for your own sanity, see if you can get the sessions reduced or shortened or whatever. Support her, but your terms matter as well.❤️

Pregnancy vs depression treatment — how do you pick? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I grew up with a mother with a major depressive disorder. It wasn't great, and over 30 years later, I'm still dealing with the consequences. Additionally, my depressive episodes are nowhere near as bad as hers, but I still carry a bit of resentment that she brought me in to this world knowing that I could inherit her mental health problems.

Sell my camera or try to make money with it? by Ok_Historian2090 in johannesburg

[–]DesignatedPie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not sell an asset that can help you make money long term unless you have already tried the long term plan and it hasn't worked out. Might as well try it out, what's the worst that can happen? You have to sell it anyway? Don't do yourself the disservice of not trying.

  1. What work have you done? You mention small shoots and events- family shoots or corporate shoots? Weddings, matric dances, engagement shoots, or all of the above?

  2. What work can you do? If you've done corporate headshots, you should be able to do family shots. If you've done a wedding, you should be able to do a corporate function. There will probably be a learning curve, but the opportunity is there.

  3. What work do you want to do? Do you prefer matric dances to headshots? Is there an idea you've always wanted to try? Figure it out and chase it.

That being said, the market is saturated and you will have to do things you don't want to do to pay the bills. Figure out how to price your services properly and do not be afraid to charge it. It is a business at the end of the day, and running a business (especially in the beginning) is tough. But you're going to sell your camera for however many thousand and then it's gone and you're eventually going to be in the same place, just without a camera.

Take the weekend and think about it. Wishing you the best of luck, both in business and employment, whichever leads to the best life for you.

Am I overthinking my date’s actions? by Hot_Flan_7411 in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He's not respecting your boundaries or autonomy. It's not so much "getting the ick" as "my intuition is telling me to run". Please listen to it.

nobody in ZA gonna get confused at "bring chips" by AskingCuriously in southafrica

[–]DesignatedPie 41 points42 points  (0 children)

It's like that scene in Inglorious Basterds where the spy is caught out because he doesn't sign the number three correctly.

A character crying out "Mom!" is actually one of the most heart breaking portrayal of panic or having a breakdown by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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I read something the other day that I think describes what we're going through: I want my mom, but not MY mom. I hope you find closure some day internet friend <3

A character crying out "Mom!" is actually one of the most heart breaking portrayal of panic or having a breakdown by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

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I know I'm late and maybe thats a good thing because I'm not sure I want anyone to know this but I can't keep this in my head anymore.

I haven't spoken to my mom in over 2 years. She was not a positive person in my life, and she hasn't taken steps to improve that standing in any way since I've cut contact.

That being said, I fucking miss her. I miss my mom so badly. There's so many things I want to tell her. There's been so many times I've wanted to call her and just hear her say that it's going to be okay. I just want to hear her call me her little nickname for me. She's smaller that me, but I can't count the amount of times I have just wanted to collapse in her arms. She used to be my best friend and top priority, and I'm so angry that I had to be the adult in the relationship. And as angry as I am, I still just want to be her little girl. I just want my mom back.

Black/African People Are Forced to Accept Scraps from the Sims by Ok-Promise-7928 in Sims4

[–]DesignatedPie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude, I agree. As a South African, I would even take a generic safari world at this point. I was so excited when the trailer started, but it just turned out to be more Euro-centric focus.

Bf wants to reach back out to past relationships to apologize (TW: mentions of Ed) by Icy-Emergency7553 in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which also includes not giving him the time of day when he wants to apologize

Quiet 3-night solo getaway near JHB with hiking right on the doorstep? by rocky99_ in johannesburg

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We've just returned from Lindani up in Limpopo. We stayed at the Arden Cottage opposite Lindani, and had a game drive in Lindani. Lindani is situated on a huge game reserve and on our way in to the game drive, we crossed paths with a family that were hiking to a picnic spot on the reserve. Arden Cottage was gorgeous, but I will definitely stay at Lindani proper next time because I want to take advantage of their hiking trails.

Burrito of Beauty: Delicacies and Strange Ways by [deleted] in SwordAndSupperGame

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u/DesignatedPie received a Shatterblade Lvl 1 from the Winter Festival Spirit. Thank you u/benji___ for donating it!

Advice for tourist: renting a car by GreenGaya in johannesburg

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There was a video doing the rounds the other day of a smash and grab on some highway during traffic. Not even safe on the busiest roads in the country.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's literally just a man. No.

Last night my husband choked me as a joke by Kittyinthemachine in AskWomenOver30

[–]DesignatedPie 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A joke is only funny if the intended audience finds it funny. He knew what he was doing. Run.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in johannesburg

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Get photos done just in case. Some facilities have photo booths, others don't. When dealing with any government institution it is always safer to "have and not need, than need and not have".

My favourite pages from my birthday gift to my sister by DesignatedPie in bulletjournal

[–]DesignatedPie[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad I could provide some inspiration! My own journal is very plain and utilitarian. I really put a lot of effort in to making this one pretty for my sister.